Essay on Friendship

We never knew how she got to Memphis or what it was that drew her to this dusty
       town we always claimed

we wanted to flee from. So much easier getting to know people in those days, but I
       remember her saying

“Give yourself two years to make friends once you’ve unpacked in a city,” and from
       the sound of it she knew

what she was talking about. This much was right: we make our friends, we build
       them from the words we’re waiting

to hear given breath. It sometimes seemed like I was reading lines from a play
       staged in her mind, not yet off book, still reaching

for my character. The plot had something to do with how our disparate pleas and
       gestures were related and might converge

into an elegant composition, the closest thing to the truth. We were all of us
       starting careers of one kind or another, but we still lived

like artists in our rented rooms waiting for her to throw the next party. We
       protected her, the same way she kept something

alive in us—hard to say exactly what but we knew it to be fragile and pure, as real
       and awkwardly beautiful as a piece of her jewelry

made from radio parts and piano wire and other objets she’d trouvéd out of the
       trash. We were the mismatched furniture

she arranged around the room to some subtle effect. Then, as if to demonstrate
       the tragic possibilities, she paired off

like the rest of us, moved in with someone who called himself a filmmaker, and
       immediately his bungalow took on

her personality. She espaliered the climbing roses to the porch piers and even they
       became bohemian, torqued against their will

into something existential. The house and grounds were lit with lamps she’d
       fashioned from river driftwood. Her parties got larger

and louder, and it grew difficult to sort out what was revelry from what was more
       like desperation. But the ugly scenes

and harshly declaimed words had a satisfying and dramatic flair to them. Good
       dialogue always at first feels so much

less hurtful than the common epithets of the unselfaware. When do we begin to
       let each other down? From the very first minute

of affection, or do we wait? We have a genius for going back on our words, these
       promises which start to come undone long before we see

the first dull light through the opening cracks, long before we stop believing a
       wardrobe choice might have changed something. One night I saw her

sitting alone on the steps by the roses, no tears but there may as well have been.
       Sadness will eventually require of us

such mastery that it becomes artless, a perfect authenticity anyone can play
       without recourse to method or technique. Towards the end,

we fled like furniture flung from a burning house. We didn’t look back and
       shamelessly left her to her own devices. Not quite

shamelessly. Our lives were losing drama, and we would soon be exchanging
       Christmas cards, all with the same snowy scene. Everyone said

they missed her. We used to get word occasionally—I heard she moved to
       Brooklyn. She will have made friends by now.