“Don’t have sex, man. It leads to kissing and pretty soon you have to start talking to them.”
STEVE MARTIN
Your Bonus Project
This week I want you to kick it up a notch. Throughout the week, I want you to have some conversations about sex. And no, not while you are under the covers.
Is there a time that you can talk about sex when there isn’t the pressure to perform? I want you to be able to at least broach the subject of what is working in this area of your relationship (and offering generous amounts of praise for that) as well as other areas where maybe you would like to explore a little.
Some areas that can be up for discussion:
• Massage
• Lingerie
• Foreplay
• Romance
• Frequency
• Variety
This is an excellent time to figure out what is working for you as a couple and where you would like to try something new.
Make sure that you go into this conversation, not with your own agenda, but asking your partner what he or she wants to see out of your sex life. Make it fun, supportive, and flirty.
Whenever Roger and I have a tough area in our marriage to discuss, we usually head over to our local bookstore or hop onto Amazon to find a book on the subject. If your sexual relationship is a difficult area in your marriage, may I suggest Red-Hot Monogamy by Bill and Pam Farrel? This is a fun and nonthreatening book that will give you a way to discuss this sensitive area with a lot of love and support.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, help us to be open, honest, and kind as we talk about this important area of our relationship.
Your Plan for the Project (copy your plan into your Project Planner)
Results (mate’s reaction, my reaction)