I used to think the person I loved would somehow “fix” me. I have learned that not only could he not fix me, but that I would set out to destroy him if he didn’t. When I turned a spiritual light upon all of my delusions about what love was supposed to be, I found that each one of my relationships was a set-up for me to attack my partner.

I finally turned my relationship with Damien over to God. It was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. I was at rock bottom and I really had no other choice, but I didn’t know that at the time. As it worked out, as we turned our gaze to everything spiritual, our relationship healed. Our work and our life together is now focused on serving God, not the ego, and the peace and love that has resulted is beyond my wildest dreams.

We can give our relationship with the world over to God, too. I find that when out in public, I’ll often harden my eyes in an effort to armor up. Now I remind myself to soften my eyes when looking out at the world.

Try this and notice how you become softer all over and no longer feel the need to attack. Do it any time you think of it. Relax your gaze and look at the world around you as you would a flower or a sunset.