1. Charity kept a painful secret all to herself for many years. In what ways was she adversely affected because of her silence?
2. Buck gave up his own dreams to care for his parents and to help his older brother finish college and get his Master’s Degree. Now it is hard for Buck to accept help in return. Is it easier for you to give help than receive it? If so, why?
3. Charity finds a sense of healing with her dog and Buck’s horses. Have animals ever been a source of comfort for you?
4. Charity realizes that sin, even when forgiven, has consequences that can linger. Has that been true in your life? How did you move forward in victory in those situations?
5. Charity and Buck both tried to protect themselves from future hurt by keeping others at arm’s length. Have you ever done the same? Did it work?
6. Charity came to believe—without realizing it at first—that God wouldn’t want her to be happy because of her sinful actions/feelings. Have you ever viewed God that way? How do you avoid misunderstanding the invisible God?
7. Charity and Buck have older siblings who speak wisdom into their lives. Do you have a family member or friend who does the same for you?
8. Do you have a favorite character from Whenever You Come Around? Who is it and why?
9. There comes a moment when Charity realizes that Buck sees the “real” Charity. Everyone wants to be seen, to know their lives matter to someone. Have you experienced the love of Elroi, the God who sees (Gen 16:13)? If not, I encourage you to look to Him today. He sees you, and you matter to Him.