After completion of their change processes, both Mia and Duncan remained in sporadic contact, wanting to share with me their latest achievements. Mia went back to college and is now a part-time teaching assistant. Her relationship with Geoff and her two daughters has its ups and downs but, on the whole, is far more satisfying than it was. Mia and her father are closer than they’ve been for a long time. She now chooses when to drink wine, no longer feeling the compulsion to do so. But, most empowering of all is the belief she now has in herself; trusting her own judgement, she now makes decisions and is willing to take responsibility for the outcome of those choices. She is comfortable. She accepts herself, flaws and all.
Duncan was able to move out of his parents’ home and into accommodation that he shares with two others. His social life has expanded and he’s in a satisfying intimate relationship with a person he met whilst at a friend’s house for dinner. He left his place of work and is now employed in a far more satisfying job. He’s thinking about finding his birth mother. He now feels at ease in his own skin, connected to others and free to enjoy life. He likes who he is becoming.
Mia and Duncan are works in progress, as are we all.
I’d like to thank you for reading this book. I hope you have found it both interesting and useful, and that you feel able to re-visit any aspect of the development process should the need arise. I trust that your experiences of following this book have enabled you to gain more of an an understanding of how you came to be the person you were, and to feel a greater sense of comfort with who you are now and who you might become in the future.
I wish you well in all that you do from this point on. Become who you choose to be.