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Do you have a stalker?
The police define stalking as a sustained pattern of inappropriate behaviour that leads to its victim feeling threatened or scared for their own well-being.
It’s thought that the vast majority of victims know or have had some sort of relationship with their stalker but, even in such cases, it’s entirely possible to have no idea that someone’s stalking you.
What to do about it?
Stalking is a tough crime to prove, which makes it very difficult for the victims, their families and the police to deal with as it’s virtually impossible to collect concrete evidence against the perpetrator who can often be devious and manipulative. And without such evidence, it’s the victim’s word against the accused, and in such cases it can be very intimidating for them to come forward.
BUT if you think there’s even the smallest possibility that you are being stalked or harassed, it’s vital that you share your fears without delay. Tell people close to you, talk to your friends about the situation. Stalking can begin innocuously, but almost always escalates and you need your loved ones to be watching out for you.
It might seem scary but the best thing you can do is talk to your stalker. Tell them to leave you alone and stop whatever behaviour it is that’s making you feel threatened. They may want to be drawn into some sort of dialogue so make your message clear and leave it at that. If you choose to phone them, follow it up in writing. A text or an email.
DO NOT agree to meet with them. Once a stalker is made aware that their attention is unwanted it may provoke them and there’s a good chance you won’t be dealing with a rational person.
If the unwanted behaviour persists, it’s time to go to the police.