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For Men Only

To become a thoroughly good man is the best prescription for keeping a sound mind in a sound body.

—Bowen

There are many support groups and sympathetic attitudes for women but fewer such groups for men. As a woman, I must admit men cannot be all things to everybody and be strong and emotionless like some deem they should. Men sometimes do not even have the choices women do. A woman has the legal right to decide whether she is going to be a mother or not. However, the man does not have that same choice. If the woman decides she wants a child, he is a father, technically, whether he wants to be or not.

This is a controversial subject; and I just recently read an interesting point of view that some say there is no difference between a women terminating pregnancy and a man walking away from fathering a child that he simply does not want.

That being said, the spells below are for the men who want to be fathers and feel that fathering is important to them, whether they are there full-time or just on occasion. However, I am not judging, as I see both points of view.

The love spell is something for all men to consider as it is truly an emotional awakening and brings blessings and harmony.

Fathering

Necessary Enhancements and Magickal Tools

The necessary tools for this spell include any tools you have chosen for your formation as described below.

Candles

You will need one pink candle placed in front of you.

Formation
All spells should begin with casting a circle, which is your shield of protection. If you are using a triangle or a square, cast your circle first and then cast your formation within it.

The best formation for this spell is the circle. Cast your formation using methods described in Chapter 5 of the book using a wand, a knife, an extended arm with fingers pointed, salt, or other material items you may have chosen.

Direction to Face

This spell is most effective if you are facing south. Arrange your candles as stated above and any tools or enhancements that will be in your formation so that they will be in front of you when you are sitting facing south.

Moon Phase

This spell will work best if cast during the full, new, or waxing phase of the Moon because we are hoping to increase good possibilities just as the Moon is increasing as it waxes to full.

Day of the Week

The most favorable days of the week to cast this spell would be on Sunday, Tuesday, Friday, or Saturday.

Optional Magickal Enhancements

The following items will add a deeper dimension to your spell and help you to focus yourself more fully, but they are not necessary and the spell can be cast even if you don’t have these items available.

Gemstones

The best gemstones to use for this spell are rose quartz and carnelian. If using additional gemstones other than those recommended in your formation, place them in front of you.

Incense

Incense that will enhance this spell would be rosemary and lilac.

Place incense in a safe place within your formation if you like; however, start the incense outside of your formation.

Music

If you like music and will not find it distracting, you might want to play something instrumental with bamboo flutes or panpipes. Whatever you are comfortable with will be best.

Before You Start Your Spell

Make sure you have no distractions.

Turn phones off if possible.

Play soothing music.

Keep the lights dim.

Wash your hands or shower before you begin.

Light incense if you are using it.

Gather everything you need and have it close at hand.

Draw your formation.

Ask your higher power to allow the information to flow through you.

Affirmation

Affirmation to be read within your formation before you actually begin your spell.

As a father, remind me to give my time and attention to my child/children so there will never be the feeling of abandonment. Although sometimes a challenge, our children are a product of their experiences; and may the experiences my child/children have with me be those of love and sympathy. It is important for me to support their free expression as this will promote self-worth. I will love my child/children for who they are and not what I think they should be and will acknowledge the smallest of accomplishments. I give more to my children when I give them my time and support—there is no substitute.

AND SO IT IS.

How to Perform the Spell

Recite the following incantation:

A father, I am, such as it be.
Understanding and love emerge from me.
May the universe to my children reveal,
The love I possess, the way that I feel.

Close your eyes and visualize your children or child healthy, happy, and smiling.

Conclude with any statement that signifies closure of the ceremony in your mind such as “And so it is,” “Blessed be,” or “Amen.” Now extinguish your candles and release your formation.

Love (for Men Only)

Necessary Enhancements and Magickal Tools

The necessary tools for this spell include any tools you have chosen for your formation as described below.

Candles

You will need one pink candle placed in front of you.

Formation

All spells should begin with casting a circle, which is your shield of protection. If you are using a triangle or a square, cast your circle first and then cast your formation within it.

The best formation for this spell is the circle. Cast your formation using methods described in Chapter 5 of the book using a wand, a knife, an extended arm with fingers pointed, salt, or other material items you may have chosen.

Direction to Face

This spell is most effective if you are facing south. Arrange your candles as stated above and any tools or enhancements that will be in your formation so that they will be in front of you when you are sitting facing south.

Moon Phase

This spell will work best if cast during the full, new, or waxing phase of the Moon because we are hoping to increase good possibilities just as the Moon is increasing as it waxes to full.

Day of the Week

The most favorable days of the week to cast this spell would be on Sunday, Tuesday, Friday, or Saturday.

Optional Magickal Enhancements

The following items will add a deeper dimension to your spell and help you to focus yourself more fully, but they are not necessary and the spell can be cast even if you don’t have these items available.

Gemstones

The best gemstones to use for this spell are rose quartz, carnelian, and clear quartz crystal. If using additional gemstones other than those recommended in your formation, place them in front of you.

Incense

Incense that will enhance this spell would be rosemary and lilac. Place incense in a safe place within your formation if you like; however, start the incense outside of your formation.

Music

If you like music and will not find it distracting, you might want to play something instrumental that is romantic with a panpipe or bamboo flute.

Before You Start Your Spell

Make sure you have no distractions.

Turn phones off if possible.

Play soothing music.

Keep the lights dim.

Wash your hands or shower before you begin.

Light incense if you are using it.

Gather everything you need and have it close at hand.

Draw your formation.

Ask your higher power to allow the information to flow through you.

Affirmation

Affirmation to be read within your formation before you actually begin your spell.

The more loving I am to others, the more it will come back to me. However, I do not give love for the reason of receiving but simply for the joy of lending of my time and myself.

I open myself to accepting the positives and negatives of people. When I worry about the people who love me or who I love, it serves no purpose and leaves me helpless.

Therefore, I choose to send them loving thoughts and powerful blessings that I know they will receive instantaneously.

When I am sad or mournful, I am not ashamed of crying as I know this is release that all humans should utilize. If I were not capable of love, I would not have these emotions. It is love that keeps me walking on the path to higher purpose. My way may not be the way of someone else; but if I walk in love and light, I will be love and light to others.

How to Perform the Spell

Recite the following incantation:

This Moon above gives me the light,
To see the love during day or night.
I hold it close, I know it dear,
Love protects, I have no fear.

Conclude with any statement that signifies closure of the ceremony in your mind such as “And so it is,” “Blessed be,” or “Amen.” Now extinguish your candles and release your formation.