The Moon
in the Seventh House
You don’t do well on your own. This doesn’t mean you can’t be alone or that you can’t be an independent and self-sufficient individual. It just means that you are never at your best by yourself—that without a partner (intimate or otherwise), you are likely to fall short of your goals and wander off on the wrong path. For you, a partner, a spouse, a friend, or even an enemy is necessary to bring focus into your life. He or she (or maybe even it) will give purpose to the inconstant emotions and quiet the irrational fears of your sensitive lunar self.
Unfortunately, just because you need a strong, singular relationship, that doesn’t mean you will automatically get one. Aspects to the Moon and other factors in the horoscope can place significant obstacles in your way. Nonetheless, you have advantages in this department that other people lack. Your intuition, your instincts, and your deep and unquenchable need are going to guide you toward a singular relationship regardless of the obstacles. It may take time and it may not be by a direct route, but they will usually get you there.
Sometimes, however, getting there is only half the battle. You are going to pour a great deal of emotional energy into any significant relationship in which you are involved. You have to be sure that what you get out of the relationship is worth that expenditure. You have to know that the other person will be able to provide you with the support and whatever else (depending on the type of relationship) you require. So, you have to choose wisely, knowing that if the relationship you decide on proves to be insufficient, inertia and the fear of being alone could keep you in that relationship far longer than you should be.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the First
You take yourself seriously and, therefore, any person with whom you seek to establish a singular relationship has to be serious about you. You will not settle for half-hearted commitments or insincere promises. This applies to all sorts of relationships, though the intensity of commitment you require will typically be found only in romantic partnerships. In some cases, this uncompromising attitude will place you in a dominant position in the relationship, but who’s in charge is not the issue. The issue is who is, and who is not, serious about the relationship.
Despite your obvious need for a relationship, you can be hard on your companions. With the Sun in the First House, you probably have a strong ego. You feel driven to claim and conquer and succeed. People attempting to live with you have to be up to this challenge. They have to be strong in their own right, but flexible enough to leave plenty of room in the relationship for you to be you.
There is sometimes a tendency with this combination for people to make their significant other a kind of whipping boy or girl. He or she becomes the embodiment of all that is wrong with you and the person is to blame for all your failures. The temptation of such a relationship can be substantial, particularly if the other person is willing to accept the role (which, surprisingly enough, people sometimes are). But you have to resist that temptation. The relationship you need is with someone who matches you in seriousness and in strength.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Second
Anyone who seeks to be your partner in any capacity or area of life has to first prove his or her worth. You have to see that there is value in the relationship—that it can add to your resources. This value is by no means always measured in purely utilitarian terms. You are wise enough to know that love, security, and emotional support are just as important as resources like wealth or social position.
Still, with this combination, physical, practical, and sometimes economic considerations tend to weigh heavily in your choice of partners. The placements of Mars and Venus can change this, but in general your approach to relationships is transactional. You have a pretty good idea of the value you bring to a relationship. You’re looking for someone who brings something of equal or greater value. In a relationship based purely on sentiment, you are likely to, sooner or later, feel cheated.
There’s a reason why you place so much importance on the material aspects of a partnership. It is your way of avoiding divisive emotional issues. It is much easier for you to argue over money than love, over what can be measured in concrete terms instead of subjective values. Unfortunately, with the Moon in the Seventh House, it is often the subjective values you need the most, and any argument that doesn’t address them misses the point.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Third
It is easy for you to get distracted from the issues that are really important in your life. You are so responsive to your immediate environment—to changes in your work, your neighborhood, your family, and your day-to-day routine—that you might pay less attention than you should to bigger issues, like the condition of your most significant relationship. In many instances, this can be a costly mistake.
What you count on is communication. You expect your partner to tell you when he or she is not happy. You need him or her to give you direction. Unfortunately, not every partner is capable of that sort of communication. He or she might be like you, living his or her emotional life one day at time with no overarching scheme. Or he or she might just not be that good at verbalizing his or her needs until they have gone unmet for so long that there is little of the relationship left to salvage.
But it doesn’t have to be a sad story. The key is to be as alert to changes in the attitude of your partner as you are to changes in the traffic patterns during your morning commute. There’s a lot more riding on the former than the latter. Also, invite people into your life who are strong enough to speak up, who will communicate their needs and help you stay focused on what’s really important.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Fourth
This can be a powerful combination. Much depends on the influence of your parents and the kind of environment in which you grew up. If these were positive, then you enter the world with a great deal of confidence, confidence enough to demand from your relationships all the emotional support you need. What you don’t find with one partner, you will find with another. You will not accept anything but what is best for you and your Seventh House Moon.
Unfortunately, not everyone comes from such a positive home environment. Some of you may have grown up with the feeling that you don’t deserve the kind of love and security that the Moon in the Seventh House requires. This can be problematic. It can cause some of you to chase after false promises and partners who represent the love you missed as a child instead of the love you need as an adult.
Stability is an important factor in your relationships. You need a partner you can trust, someone strong enough to be your anchor in a chaotic world and still sensitive enough to attend to your substantial emotional needs. However, you can’t expect to find this perfect partnership if you haven’t worked through the complexities and contradictions in your own nature. Working on yourself is often the best way for you to find happiness in your relationships.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Fifth
You are looking for a partner who can appreciate your imagination, your creativity, and your passion. His or her appreciation for these qualities has to be deep and enduring because keeping up with you is no easy task. You sometimes leave people behind or send them running home to their mommas with crazy stories. But you’re not interested in the cowards or the complainers. You need someone as courageous and dynamic as you are.
The problem is that you also need someone soft and caring, someone who will tend to your hurt feelings and cry with you when your passion sends you crashing into a wall. A person who embodies both these qualities, who can be both your caretaker and your accomplice, is not going to be easy to find. You may have to put up with some pretenders along the way.
Unfortunately, there is a tendency for some of you to accept these pretenders as the best you can do. You give up on finding the special kind of partner you need. This loss of faith can be costly, because every time a pretender falls away, it is a wound to your vulnerable lunar self. You are often better off holding out until the right person, the person who can keep up with both the pace of your passion and the inconstant flow of your emotions, steps into your life.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Sixth
You are likely to find the partnership you most need in unglamorous places, such as your work or through helping and serving others. Your attitude toward this relationship will also be untainted by glamor. You expect your partner to have your back, to provide you with love and emotional support, but also to be able to help you as you attend to the more practical areas of life.
Just because your attitude toward your partner may not be drenched in sentiment, that doesn’t mean it is not based on real emotional need. Like everyone with the Moon in the Seventh, your significant other has the keys to all your vulnerabilities. No one can hurt you like he or she can. No one should blame you if you’d rather not talk about that. By dealing only with the mundane realities of the relationship, you avoid discussing how loving another person leaves you feeling exposed and helpless.
More than most people with the Moon in the Seventh, you will look to your partner for guidance, specifically in situations in which intuition and emotional understanding is required. It’s not necessarily that you lack these abilities. (Depending on the signs of the Sun and the Moon, you may have plenty.) But, since your focus tends to be on the practical, it is often easier for you to leave these issues to that significant other.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Seventh
You’ve sort of put all your eggs in one basket. Both your outer and your inner life will revolve around relationships. This might not be how you’ve planned your life, but, one way or another, you will always be brought back to the central issue of finding and holding on to a partner. With this partner at your side, you will feel strong. You will be able to accomplish things that you would have never been able to do alone. At the same time, this partnership will sustain you on an emotional level and give you a sense of security.
Of course, it isn’t all sweetness and light. Relationships are challenging. You may be required to make sacrifices. There may be quirks in the behavior of your partner that you will have to overlook, weaknesses that you will have indulge, bad behavior to be forgiven, and bad days to be forgotten. However, your need for an enduring, singular relationship is so strong that you can usually overcome these challenges.
What you have to remember is that there are some faults that can’t be overlooked and some behaviors that shouldn’t be forgiven. Just because your need for a partner is strong doesn’t mean that you have to remain in a relationship that is abusive or irredeemably dysfunctional. You have to know when to say enough and move on. Trust your intuition in these matters. If it feels wrong, it probably is.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Eighth
There’s a lot more to you than meets the eye, and that’s kind of the way you like it. For this reason, forming close relationships is often difficult for you. You must have complete trust in the other person before you let him or her see what’s bubbling beneath the surface of your personality, and even then you’re apt to hold back the really heavy stuff. There are some parts of you that you dread revealing to even the most loving eyes.
It isn’t just your inner turmoil that interferes with relationships. It is also your reluctance to ask for help. You tend to see your troubles as specific to you, as something that no one else has ever encountered. This is not always true. Even though you take these dark emotions farther than most people, in truth, they are the same basic fear, mistrust, and sadness that we all feel.
And yet, despite all the barriers you put up, once you have committed yourself to a relationship, it tends to endure and grow stronger and deeper with time. Perhaps it’s because your standards are so high and you are quick to eliminate the weak and insincere. Perhaps it’s because your instincts seem to guide you to the right person. Or perhaps it’s because once someone has seen the multileveled mystery that dwells inside your soul, he or she is too fascinated to ever walk away.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Ninth
Relationships seem to work best for you when there’s some distance between you and the other person. Hearing your lover’s voice or seeing his or her face through some electronic medium might be all it takes to keep you feeling emotionally secure and safe. Yes, you care about this person and you’d love to be with him or her in the flesh, but maybe at another time.
This is another instance in which much will depend on the rest of horoscopes. Some sign placements of the Sun and Moon (along with Venus and Mars) deal with long-distance relationship issues better than others. However, regardless of these other factors, there is a part of you that will always feel most comfortable with a relationship when there is some degree of physical or emotional separation between you and the other person.
This is not because you feel the relationship is unimportant. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. You fear that your need for the relationship is so great that it will somehow limit your freedom, stymie your free-ranging mind, and blunt your spirit of adventure. You are willing to give up much for a solid, singular relationship, but not these things. Keeping your partner at a distance allows you to at least pretend that you are still free, despite the fact that someone has captured your heart.
The Moon in Seventh House with the Sun in the Tenth
You are an ambitious person and anyone in a serious relationship with you is bound to be carried along by that ambition. In some instances, that person might march with you toward your exalted goals. In others, he or she might choose to remain behind the scenes. But regardless of how your partner fits into your battle plan for success, he or she will still be the person who keeps your sensitive emotionality out of the line of fire.
This can sometimes strain your most significant relationships. Your partner might sometimes forget that his or her main job is to provide you with emotional support. He or she might actually attempt to have a life separate from yours. Such a turn of events would pose a major challenge to your inner life. We would have to look at the rest of your horoscope to judge how well you might deal with this sort of challenge, but under no circumstance will it be easy.
This doesn’t mean that you are looking for a partner who is content to blend into the background. You need someone to be your emotional guide, the embodiment of your intuition and your nonrational, nonverbal instincts. You’re not going to hand that job over to some weakling. You always want to be the star, but you understand that for the star to shine, he or she requires an outstanding supporting cast.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Eleventh
You are good with people. Typically, you are socially adept and know what to say and do in order to keep mechanisms of human interaction flowing smoothly. People look to you to put out the political fires that are prone to erupt within any group and to keep the proceedings civilized. This makes you a valuable member of any group or community.
As valuable as you are, your loyalty to a group or social or political cause is always provisional. You need to be part of something larger than yourself, but you also need a singular relationship. You need to find that one individual who can become your partner in life. Often you find this person in your chosen community. However, if that person happens to be part of another community with another agenda or cause, then your group loyalty is likely to switch.
There are occasions, of course, when it is your partner who has to switch. Even then, however, your loyalty tends to be focused more on your partner than the group. This could leave you feeling that you’ve let your friends down or failed to live up to their (and your) aspirations. The best solution is when you and your partner share the need to be part of a bigger issue. Then your love for the person and the group can merge into one overriding passion.
The Moon in the Seventh House with the Sun in the Twelfth
No combination with the Moon in the Seventh requires more from a prospective partner than this one. You not only need someone strong enough to protect your vulnerable lunar self, you also need a person with the sensitivity, insight, and patience to help you on the inward journey that is the mission of the Sun in the Twelfth House.
All of this requires a major commitment from a partner, and you may have trouble finding someone willing to take it on. Your behavior often confuses people. On the one hand, your need for a singular relationship is great and you pour a lot of emotional energy into finding and maintaining such a relationship. On the other, you are prone to periodically withdraw into your own world and leave your partner to fend for him or herself.
However, the person who is willing to take on this challenge of loving you will be greatly rewarded. Because you draw your partner so deep into your inner life, the relationship between the two of you can take on a mystical quality. In some cases, your inward journey and the inward journey of your partner are joined, and the souls you seek to explore are united in a way that transcends mere earthly relationships.