If you’ve been hurt in the past, often the natural instinct is to nurse the old wound—to think about it; to return to the hurt and the relationship and the person in your mind and feelings over and over. The problem is, when you keep returning to the past, you energetically bring it back to life. You prevent the wound from healing.
The truth is, the past is gone—unless you yourself return to it. It doesn’t exist, except in your mind and emotions, and perhaps in those of the other person. In order to move forward and be free to love again with someone else—or even with this same person but from a place of joy—you must let go of the past hurt. Otherwise you’ll be holding it in your space and attracting more like it.
Disentangle yourself from pain. In order to do this, forgive yourself for the “mistakes” you made—for getting involved with that person, for letting someone hurt you. Feel yourself letting the hurt leave; you can even see light from the Universe coming down, taking it from you and transmuting it.
Next, forgive the other person. Yes, forgive them. No matter what they did. Because forgiving means you will be free again. You don’t have to let them hurt you again, but if you continue to hold unforgiveness toward this person, you are only hurting yourself by keeping the negativity in your space. Forgiving the other person, even if you can only do it a little at a time, helps you so much to heal the old wound and move forward into new happiness. Try it every day for 10 days—forgiving this person. Again, do it a little at a time if you have to. Close your eyes, relax, breathe for a few minutes; then visualize them in front of you and say or intend, “I forgive you.”
As time goes by, the wound will heal. As a human being your energy is always entangled with those you come into contact with; forgiveness ensures you move out of negative ties so you are free to move forward into happiness. I care so much for you, and I want you to know that the past can’t hurt you anymore, unless you allow it to. Give the hurt to me, forgive, and be free.
XOXO
The Universe