Walls: Creating Rules that Make Sense

Before I built a wall I’d ask to know what I was walling in or walling out.

– Robert Frost

PURPOSE

To define rules that are logical and reasonable and that provide a teachable moment, use the following questions to clarify the rules you currently have.

Common Questions and Complaints about Kids

Why won’t my kids listen?

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Why do they break my rules?

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Why are they so disrespectful?

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Why are they so angry?

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Questions to Ask Instead

What are you asking them to do that they are not listening?

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What is the purpose of the rules you have created?

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How do you deal with disrespect?

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Why are you so angry?

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WORKSHEET: BEFORE I BUILD A WALL

If you have a rule, know why and if you are looking for a place start; develop these rules under these categories:

Ensuring Safety

1. (Example) “No texting while driving.”

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Teaching Manners

1. (Example) “When you want something use the word please.”

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Teaching Consideration

1. (Example) “Call me if you are going to be past your curfew.”

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