RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
Note: There are many more fine books and informative websites that I don’t have the space to include, and new ones will appear after this book comes out. Let this be just the beginning of your exploration. Please visit www.NakedatOurAge.com, where I’ll post an updated list.
AGING AND SEXUALITY
Ageless Erotica edited by Joan Price (Seal Press, 2013)
Assisted Loving: The Journey Through Sexuality and Aging by Ginger T.Manley (Westview, 2013)
Better Than Ever: Love and Sex at Midlife by Bernie Zilbergeld (Crown,2005)
Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty by Joan Price (Seal Press, 2005)
Dr. Ruth’s Sex after 50: Revving Up Your Romance, Passion & Excitement! by Dr. Ruth Westheimer (Quill Driver, 2005)
Free Fall: A Late-in-Life Love Affair by Rae Padilla Francoeur (Seal Press,2010)
GreatSexAfter40.com by Michael Castleman, www.GreatSexAfter40.com
MiddlesexMD blog by Barb DePree, MD,www.middlesexmd.com
Naked at Our Age blog by Joan Price, www.NakedAtOurAge.com
Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter: 30 Sex Ed Lessons for Adults Only by Peggy Brick, Jan Lunquist, Allyson Sandak, Bill Taverner (Planned Parenthood of Greater Northern New Jersey, 2009)
Safer Sex for Seniors www.safersex4seniors.org
Sex After…: Women Share How Intimacy Changes as Life Changes by Iris Krasnow (Gotham Books, 2014)
The Sex Bible for People Over 50: The Complete Guide to Sexual Love for Mature Couples by Laurie Betito, PhD (Fair Winds Press/Quiver, 2014)
Sex & Love for Grownups: A No-Nonsense Guide to a Life of Passion by Sallie Foley (Sterling, 2005)
Sex and the Seasoned Woman: Pursuing the Passionate Life by Gail Sheehy (Random House, 2006)
Sex for Grownups: Dr. Dorree Reveals the Truths, Lies, and Must-Tries for Great Sex After 50 by Dorree Lynn (HCI, 2010)
Sexuality and Aging: Clinical Perspectives by Jennifer Hillman (Springer,2012)
Sexuality and Aging Consortium at Widener University, Widener University, www.widener.edu/sexualityandaging
“Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond,” Harvard Health Publications, published 2013, www.health.harvard.edu/special_health_reports/sexuality-in-midlife-and-beyond
Still Doing It: Women & Men Over 60 Write About Their Sexuality edited by Joani Blank (Down There Press, 2000)
A Woman’s Touch: Sexuality Resource Center, www.sexualityresources.com
ARTHRITIS AND SEX
“Relationships, Intimacy and Arthritis,” Arthritis Care, published 2011, http://www.arthritiscare.org.uk/PublicationsandResources/Listedbytype/Booklets/main_content/Relationshipsbooklet2011.pdf
BODY IMAGE AND AGING
For Keeps: Women Tell the Truth About Their Bodies, Growing Older, and Acceptance edited by Victoria Zackheim (Seal Press, 2007)
CANCER AND SEXUALITY
Conquer Prostate Cancer: How Medicine, Faith, Love and Sex Can Renew Your Life by Rabbi Ed Weinsberg, EdD, DD with Robert Carey, MD (Health Success Media, 2008)
“Healthy Sexuality After Cancer,” A Woman’s Touch, published 2011, https://sexualityresources.com/ask-sex-counselor/cancer-survivors-sexuality/healthy-sexuality-after-cancer
Man Cancer Sex by Anne Katz, RN, PhD (Hygeia Media, 2009)
“Penile Rehabilitation after Prostate or Pelvic Surgery or Radiation,” A Woman’s Touch, published 2011, https://sexualityresources.com/ask-dr-myrtle/mens-issues-and-sexual-problems/penile-rehabilitation-after-prostate-or-pelvic-surgery
Prostate Cancer and the Man You Love: Supporting and Caring for Your Partner by Anne Katz, RN, PhD (Rowman & Littlefield, 2012)
Saving Your Sex Life: A Guide for Men with Prostate Cancer by John P.Mulhall (Hilton Publishing, 2008)
“Sexuality and Relationships for Breast Cancer Survivors &Their Partners,” A Woman’s Touch, http://www.sexualityresources.com/ask-sex-counselor/relationship-advice/sexuality-and-relationships-breast-cancer-survivors-their
“Sexuality for the Man with Cancer,” American Cancer Society, www.cancer.org/acs/groups/cid/documents/webcontent/002910-pdf.pdf
“Sexuality for the Woman with Cancer,” American Cancer Society, www.cancer.org/acs/groups/cid/documents/webcontent/002912-pdf.pdf
Sexy after Cancer: Meeting Your Inner Aphrodite on the Breast Cancer Journey by Barbara Musser (SAC Publishing, 2012)
Surviving after Cancer: Living the New Normal by Anne Katz, RN, PhD (Rowman & Littlefield, 2011)
Us Too: Prostate Cancer Support, Education and Advocacy, www.ustoo.org
Woman Cancer Sex by Anne Katz, RN, PhD (Hygeia Media, 2009)
DATING AGAIN
Autumn Romance: Stories and Portraits of Love after 50 by Carol Denker (Books to Believe In, 2014)
Daring to Date Again: A Memoir by Ann Anderson Evans (She Writes Press, 2014)
Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You’ve Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted by Judith Sills (Grand Central Life & Style, 2009)
Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years by Pepper Schwartz (William Morrow, 2007)
A Round-Heeled Woman: My Late-Life Adventures in Sex and Romance by Jane Juska (Villard, 2003)
DEMENTIA AND SEX
Freedom of Sexual Expression: Dementia and Resident Rights in Long-Term Care Facilities (video), Terra Nova Films, http://www.terranovaondemand.org/title.cfm?itemcode=FOS
Jan’s Story: Love Lost to the Long Goodbye of Alzheimer’s by Barry Peterson (Behler, 2010)
Sexuality & Dementia: Compassionate and Practical Strategies for Dealing with Unexpected or Inappropriate Behaviors by Douglas Wornell, MD (Demos Health, 2013)
A Thousand Tomorrows: Intimacy, Sexuality, and Alzheimer’s (video), Terra Nova Films, http://www.terranovaondemand.org/title.cfm?itemcode=ATT
DESIRE
Desire: Women Write About Wanting edited by Lisa Solod Warren (Seal Press, 2007)
Enduring Desire: Your Guide to Lifelong Intimacy by Michael E. Metz and Barry W. McCarthy (Routledge, 2011)
The Heart of Desire: Keys of the Pleasures of Love by Stella Resnick,PhD (Wiley, 2012)
Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido by Andrew Goldstein and Marianne Brandon, (Rodale, 2004)
Rekindling Desire: A Step-by-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages by Barry McCarthy and Emily McCarthy (Routledge, 2003)
The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion by Gina Ogden (Trumpeter, 2008)
The Sex-Starved Wife: What to Do When He’s Lost Desire, by Michele Weiner Davis (Simon & Schuster, 2008)
Still Sexy After All These Years? The 9 Unspoken Truths about Women’s Desire Beyond 50 by Leah Kliger and Deborah Nedelman (Perigee,2006)
A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire And Reignite Your Relationship by Laurie B. Mintz (Adams Media, 2009)
Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage by Laurie Watson (Berkley Trade, 2012)
DISABILITY, CHRONIC PAIN
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain and Illness by Miriam Kaufman, MD, Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette (Cleis Press, 2003, 2007)
ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex by Michael E. Metz and Barry W. McCarthy (New Harbinger, 2004)
Frank Talk, www.franktalk.org
Intimacy with Impotence: The Couple’s Guide to Better Sex after Prostate Disease by Ralph & Barbara Alterowitz (Da Capo, 2004)
“Successful Self Penile Injection: Hints, Questions and Answers,” Us Too, www.ustoo.org/PDFs/Injection.pdf
WebMD Erectile Dysfunction Health Center, www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/guide/default.htm
FEMALE SEXUAL PLEASURE
How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know by Lou Paget (Harmony, 2000)
She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner (Harper Collins, 2009)
The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2007)
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give her Exquisite Pleasure 2nd ed. by Violet Blue (Cleis Press,2010)
JOINT REPLACEMENT AND SEX
Recover Sex/Pleasure: Hip Replacement/Knee Replacement by Cynthia Mosher, www.recoversex.com
KINK/BDSM
Basic BDSM Instruction, www.newtokink.com
Kink Academy, www.kinkacademy.com
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (Greenery Press, 2001)
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (Greenery Press, 2003)
Passionate U, www.passionateu.com
Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams (Greenery Press, 2012)
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino (Cleis Press, 2012)
LGBT
Dear John, I Love Jane: Women Write about Leaving Men for Women, edited by Candace Walsh and Laura André (Seal Press, 2010)
Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, A Psychiatrist’s Own Story by Loren A. Olson (inGroup Press, 2011)
Gen Silent (video), www.stumaddux.com/GEN_SILENT.html
It Gets Better Project, www.itgetsbetter.org
National Resource Center on LGBT Aging, www.lgbtagingcenter.org
SAGE: Services & Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Elders, www.sageusa.org
Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples by Glenda Corwin (Seal Press, 2010)
The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us 2nd ed. by Felice Newman (Cleis Press, 2004)
LONGTIME RELATIONSHIPS
Bedded Bliss: A Couple’s Guide to Lust Ever After by Kristina Wright (Cleis Press, 2013)
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, by Esther Perel (Harper Perennial, 2007)
Partners in Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-term Love by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson (Cleis Press, 2014)
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch, PhD (W. W. Norton & Company, 2009)
LONG-TERM RESIDENTIAL CARE AND SEX
Sexuality and Aging: Clinical Perspectives by Jennifer Hillman (Springer,2012)
Sexuality & Long-Term Care: Understanding and Supporting the Needs of Older Adults by Gayle Doll (Health Professions Press, 2011)
MALE SEXUAL PLEASURE
All Night Long: How to Make Love to a Man Over 50 by Barbara Keesling (M. Evans & Co, 2004)
Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex, by Michael Castleman (Rodale, 2008)
How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques That Will Blow His Mind by Lou Paget (Broadway Books,1999)
“Pelvic Floor Health for Men,” A Woman’s Touch, published 2012, https://sexualityresources.com/ask-sex-counselor/educational-brochures/pelvic-floor-health-men
Penis Power: The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health by Dudley S.Danoff, MD, FACS (Del Monaco Press, 2011)
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Violet Blue, 2nd edition (Cleis Press,2010)
The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners, by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian (Cleis Press, 2013)
MASTURBATION
Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation by Jamye Waxman (Seal Press, 2007)
Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving by Betty Dodson, PhD (Harmony, 1996)
MONOGAMY
The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship after Infidelity by Tammy Nelson, PhD (New Harbinger Publications, 2013)
NONMONOGAMY AND POLYAMORY
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (Celestial Arts, 2009)
Loving More, www.lovemore.com
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino (Cleis Press, 2008)
Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá (Harper, 2010)
Swingers Board, www.swingersboard.com
PAINFUL SEX
The Echenberg Institute for Pelvic and Sexual Pain, www.secretsuffering.com
Heal Pelvic Pain: The Proven Stretching, Strengthening, and Nutrition Program for Relieving Pain, Incontinence, & I.B.S, and Other Symptoms without Surgery by Amy Stein (McGraw-Hill, 2008)
Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain by Deborah Coady, MD, and Nancy Fish,MSW, MPH (Seal Press, 2011)
International Pelvic Pain Society, www.pelvicpain.org (Find a local provider at http://www.pelvicpain.org/Patients/Find-a-Medical-Provider.aspx)
“Patient Booklets,” The National Vulvodynia Association, www.nva.org/new_patient_guide.html
“Patient Education,” International Society for the Study of Vulvar Disease, http://issvd.org/patient-education/
“Vaginal Renewal™,” A Woman’s Touch, published 2014, http://www.sexualityresources.com/ask-dr-myrtle/womens-issues-and-sexual-problems/vaginal-renewal-tm
When Sex Hurts: A Woman’s Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain by Andrew Goldstein, MD, Caroline Pukall, PhD, and Irwin Goldstein, MD (Da Capo Press, 2011)
POLYAMORY
See Nonmonogamy and Polyamory
PORN
Good Porn: A Woman’s Guide by Erika Lust (Seal Press, 2010)
The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2006)
SEX, GENERAL
About.com Sexuality, Cory Silverberg, http://sexuality.about.com/
American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics, Dan Savage (Dutton, 2013)
Best Sex Writing 2015 edited by Jon Pressick, (Cleis Press, annual series)
Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex by Mary Roach (W.W.Norton, 2008)
The Chemistry Between Us: Love, Sex, and the Science of Attraction by Larry Young and Brian Alexander (Current, 2012)
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It by Marty Klein, PhD (HarperOne, 2012)
SEX FURNITURE
Intimate Furniture, www.intimatefurniture.com
IntimateRider, www.intimaterider.com
Liberator, www.liberator.com
Love Bench, www.DrMarylou.com
Love Bumper, www.lovebumper.com
Tantra Chair, www.tantrachair.com
SEX THERAPISTS DIRECTORY
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, www.aasect.org
SEX TOYS
The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys 2nd ed. by Violet Blue, (Cleis Press, 2013)
Coalition Against Toxic Toys, www.badvibes.org
The Many Joys of Sex Toys: The Ultimate How-to Handbook for Couples and Singles by Anne Semans (Harmony, 2004)
STROKE
“Sex and Intimacy After Stroke,” by Jon Caswell, Stroke Connection, March/April 2009, pp 12-15, www.nxtbook.com/nxtbooks/aha/strokeconnection_200903/index.php#/14
TANTRA
Great Sex Made Simple: Tantric Tips to Deepen Intimacy & Heighten Pleasure by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson (Llewellyn,2012)