This book is about sex — more specifically, about female desire. But it might not be quite what you expect.
I know from experience (after all, I’ve often been labelled a sex maniac because of what I do) that when it comes to sex, people have a lot of preconceived notions. And since I don’t want to be accused of false advertising, let’s set a few things straight.
THIS BOOK IS NOT:
1. Advocating that women “explore their sexuality” further
Although this book is about female desire, I will not urge women to boost their libido by experimenting more in bed. I will not tell them to go buy sexy lingerie so they “feel like a woman.” I will not describe how to give the world’s best blowjob — after all, how would I know?
2. A guide for men
If you are looking for advice on how to find your partner’s (or partners’) G spot, you will be disappointed. And the same goes for men looking for tricks to pick up women — again, how would I know?
3. An anti-man manifesto
Some men might feel attacked as they read this book, but my work isn’t about men or their behaviour. It isn’t even about female behaviour, so to speak. Rather, this book focuses on relationships between men and women.
4. A book for couples, or people looking for love
This book is not aimed at couples hoping to spice up their sex life, or at singles looking for a relationship. On the contrary, it is a universal exploration of human sexuality.
THIS BOOK IS:
1. Western-centric
The book will look at Western perceptions of sex. Some of my arguments may very well apply to other regions of the world, but I will limit my work to the culture I know and avoid drawing universal conclusions.
2. Heterosexual in focus
This book is first and foremost about cisgender heterosexual relations. The idea is not to dismiss or invalidate homosexual or bisexual relations or relations of members of the transgender community, but I will be focusing on relations between cis men and women, as they constitute the dominant model of sex on which our culture is built.
3. A critical reflection on sex
These pages contain a critical analysis of how sexual clichés influence our collective behaviours, and how they affect and shape women’s desire, depriving them of their autonomy.