CONCLUSION

The Song of Solomon has been interpreted in a variety of ways over the last several millennia. It has been allegorized out of proportion on one extreme, turned into the bluntest of practical textbooks on the other. The truth of its resonance lies in neither extreme, but somewhere in the middle. In the Song we certainly learn many practical things about romance, marriage, and sex. The Bible is eminently practical, even in its poetry. While we cannot overspiritualize the Song, turning all of it into a metaphorical anthem bearing no resemblance to the very real marriage in its vision, we do see that beyond the practicality, beyond the history, beyond the earthiness of its subjects, it definitely points outward, upward, away from itself and to him for whom all songs of praise are due.

Woven into the complexity of Solomon’s symbolic Song is the profoundest of mysteries, just like woven into the complexity of marriage itself is the profoundest of mysteries. Paul put it this way, borrowing from the Old Testament: “‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church” (Eph. 5:31–32).

Anyone who has been married for a substantial length of time can confess that marriage is many times a mystery. We really don’t know what we’re doing. But what a great reassurance it is to know that God does! He knows exactly what he’s doing.

The things that surprise us, that freak us out, that send us into emergency mode—they don’t faze him at all. The triune God is never in an emergency. He’s never freaked out, never surprised.

As we fumble around in the darkness, then, holding our spouse’s hand, looking for the light, we will find it not in each other’s eyes, not in the roaring fire of romantic bliss, but in the Savior who loves us and gave himself for us. When we can see that marriage is about more than marriage—certainly about more than a man and a woman individually—and about Christ’s deep, sacrificial, eternal love for his bride, we will really, truly see.

One day our marriage will give way, either by death or by the Lord’s return. In any event, our marriage was not built for eternity. But the sanctification our marriage will bring into our souls is. One day we will be presented to our Redeemer, like a bride adorned for her husband. Then, when we see face-to-face, we will understand what marriage was truly all about. Until then, we enjoy the mystery. It is an amazing gift, a profound grace.

Yes, we enjoy the mystery of marriage. And give all the glory to its beautiful Author.

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Thank you!
—Matt Chandler