NOTES

Introduction

1 1. Gen. 1:1.

2 John 10:10 NIV.

3 Gen. 2:18.

4 Song of Sol. 2:16.

5 Gen. 2:25.

6 Gen. 1:28.

7 Duane Garrett and Paul R. House, Song of Songs/Lamentations, vol. 23B of Word Biblical Commentary, ed. Bruce M. Metzger (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 2004), 25.

8 C. H. Spurgeon, The Metropolitan Tabernacle Pulpit Sermons, vol. 42 (London: Passmore & Alabaster, 1896), 285.

Chapter 1—Attraction

1 Psychology Dictionary Online, s.v. “What Is Attraction?,” http://psychologydictionary.org/attraction/.

2 Erica Reischer and Kathryn S. Koo, “The Body Beautiful: Symbolism and Agency in the Social World,” Annual Review of Anthropology 33 (2004): 297–317.

3 See Emily Peng, “History of What Society Viewed as Women Beauty,” SlideShare, May 18, 2011, www.slideshare.net/emilypeng1/history-of-what-society-viewed-as-women-beauty-8005550.

4 Reischer and Koo, “The Body Beautiful,” 298.

5 For the sake of clarity, here are the specific textual notes from net.bible.org (https://net.bible.org/#!bible/Proverbs+31) pertaining to this passage: “Heb ‘a woman of valor.’ This is the same expression used to describe Ruth (e.g., Ruth 3:11). The term חַיִל (khayil) here means ‘moral worth’ (BDB 298 s.v.); cf. KJV ‘a virtuous woman.’ Elsewhere the term is used of physical valor in battle, e.g., ‘mighty man of valor,’ the land-owning aristocrat who could champion the needs of his people in times of peace or war (e.g., Judg 6:12). Here the title indicates that the woman possesses all the virtues, honor, and strength to do the things that the poem will set forth.”

6 Bill Hybels, Who You Are When No One’s Looking: Choosing Consistency, Resisting Compromise (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 2010).

7 Anthony Gross, ed., Lincoln’s Own Stories (New York: Harper and Brothers, 1912), 109.

8 Tim Keller, Twitter post, June 22, 2014, 9:00 a.m., https://twitter.com/timkellernyc /status/480742216718352384.

Chapter 2—Dating

1 Elizabeth L. Paul, Brian McManus, and Allison Hayes, “‘Hookups’: Characteristics and Correlates of College Students’ Spontaneous and Anonymous Sexual Experiences,” The Journal of Sex Research 37 (2000), 76.

2 Tracy A. Lambert, Arnold S. Kahn, and Kevin J. Apple, “Pluralistic Ignorance and Hooking Up,” The Journal of Sex Research 40 (2003), 129–33.

3 Lambert, Kahn, and Apple, “Pluralistic Ignorance,” 129–33.

4 Tommy Nelson, The Book of Romance: What Solomon Says about Love, Sex, and Intimacy (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 1998), 42.

Chapter 3—Courtship: An Old Idea Revived

1 Tommy Nelson, The Book of Romance: What Solomon Says about Love, Sex, and Intimacy (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 1998), 49.

2 Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye (Colorado Springs, CO: Multnomah, 2003), 188.

3 John Thomas, “What Role Do Parents Play in Courtship?,” Boundless.org, July 31, 2006, www.boundless.org/advice/2006/what-role-do-parents-play -in-courtship.

Chapter 5—“And the Two Become One Flesh”

1 H. D. M. Spence-Jones, ed, Song of Solomon (London; New York: Funk & Wagnalls, 1909), 93.

2 Gary and Betsy Ricucci, Love That Lasts: Making a Magnificent Marriage (Gaithersburg, MD: PDI Communications, 1993), 159.

3 C. S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters (New York: Macmillan, 1951), 102.

4 Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2000), 226.

5 Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 2004), 93.

6 Feldhahn, For Women Only, 93–94.

Chapter 6—Fighting Fair

1 The ten “nevers” of communication were adapted from Tommy Nelson, The Book of Romance: What Solomon Says about Love, Sex, and Intimacy (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 1998), 135–38.

2 Lore Ferguson, “Some Observations on Tone of Voice,” Sayable, June 16, 2014, http://sayable.net/2014/06/some-observations-on-tone-of-voice/.

3 Paul David Tripp, What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2010), 120.

Chapter 7—Logs on the Fire

1 Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2000), 101.

2 Shirley Rice, Physical Unity in Marriage: A Woman’s View (Norfolk, VA: The Tabernacle Church of Norfolk, 1973), 3–4.

Chapter 8—“I’m Not Going Anywhere”

1 See 1 Cor. 7:10–13.