THE SECOND BIG LIE:
“Real Christians should have a real peace in all circumstances.”
You must feel before you can heal, or you will stay
wounded and in turn wound others who get too close.
Almost everyone has experienced a loss or a trauma so
bad that they were numb and unfeeling rather than
overwhelmed by the intense pain. The shock and
numbness is a unique gift from God that allows
us to survive the worst emotions.
Do a pain inventory and a feelings checkup.
Find the time to get away, be still, and quiet your mind.
And ask yourself these questions:
What am I afraid of?
What is missing?
Why am I empty?
What am I filling up on?
What feelings am I avoiding?
Why am I refusing to feel?
Why am I afraid of rejection?
Why am I afraid of being inadequate?
Why am I afraid someone might come to control me?
In what ways do I avoid doing things for fear of failing?
I am afraid of doing nothing significant during my life . . .
When you have explored the fear, look at the anger:
When do I hold a grudge?
When am I angry because I feel controlled?
What areas of my past are in my present because of anger toward someone who hurt me?
In what ways am I seeking revenge in any form?
How does my anger lead me to negative statements about anyone?
Then in the quiet moments, take a look at the
guilt and shame you bear:
What feelings of guilt do I feel about a current habit?
What shame have I experienced from something someone did to me?
Where am I knowingly involved in a sin?
When am I shutting down my guilt with food or drink?
What could I change to reduce the guilt?
Jesus came so that we would no longer have to
try to do what we cannot do.
“I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the
Father except through Me” (John 14:6 NKJV).
There is no reason to be anxious about anything when
you have placed your trust in God (Phil. 4:6).
