The woman lies on her back, crossing her legs and drawing them up toward her stomach. The man kneels before her with his knees set widely apart. He can keep his legs tucked under him or he can bend them behind him. If the woman chooses, she can wrap her legs around the man’s waist, keeping them curled as much as possible. The man keeps his back straight as he bends slightly over her, holding her by her knees or putting his hands on the bed as he enters her.
Humans love to be touched and stroked. Try giving each other loving massages before a sexual encounter—or anytime for that matter. Massage can release tension, build intimacy, and activate acupuncture points that release pleasure and pain.
Massage is best done in dim lighting or candlelight to help create a relaxing and sensual atmosphere. Before a massage, the masseur or masseuse should rub his or her hands together lightly and rapidly, activating the hand chakra points. When the hands are tingling and warm, it is time to begin.
Massage feels best when using lotion or oil. There are many types of oils and lotions sold at specialty shops, health food stores, and sex stores. As an added, thoughtful touch, try warming the oil in a bowl of warm water before starting.
If you are massaging a man, you can use oil-based or water-based products. However, keep in mind that if you are massaging a woman, use only water-based products, as oil-based products could lead to a vaginal infection.