The man and women start sitting face-to-face, breast to chest. The lovers wrap their legs around each other and lock their own heels together. The man puts his lingam into the woman’s yoni and they clasp each other’s wrists and lean back.
In this position, the man and woman can pull each other back and forth, like a game of seesaw. The movement should be gentle and smooth. Stare into each other’s eyes and enjoy the rocking sensation.
Communication is the key to a lasting and loving relationship, as is trust. Many of the positions of the Kama Sutra can leave one of the partners feeling vulnerable, so it is always important that both partners feel safe and secure with one another. If there are hidden resentments or hang-ups, the experience won’t be as joyful or fulfilling.
Learning how to talk to each other about sex is vitally important. Learning how to listen and acknowledging your partner are equally important.
Try to keep the bedroom a safe place, where talking about sexuality or fantasies won’t lead to larger issues and insecurities. If one partner is uncomfortable with something the other person wants to try, talk it out. Find out why he or she is uncomfortable. It could simply be an irrational fear, or perhaps there was a bad experience associated with the act. Either way, open communication is essential to satisfy any sexual relationship.
For example, some people dislike oral sex. Sometimes it’s because they think it’s dirty or degrading. Others may have had bad experiences. Sometimes just talking about it and being open with each other can turn the situation around.
If a person isn’t willing to try something new (for whatever reason), let it go. Find something else you can agree on and move forward.