complications of a daytime date
(10/14)

Fortunate autumn. September rushes

over our heads. Migrating flocks

of warblers, jays, petrels, thrushes,

come, then leave. The equinox,

when the sun aligns with the equator,

passes. The dawns start coming later,

the sunsets sooner. The sudden rains

don’t last for long. The heat remains:

that’s global warming. Even the roses

are hanging on, this late in the year.

We know what’s coming, the signs are clear,

whatever falls soon decomposes,

we know the world is in decay

but for now, it seems like a lovely day.

Kate’s euphoric. She joyfully bounces

out of the subway, into the light.

—“I think it’s positive,” she announces,

“it’s really a chance to get something right.”

Kate’s just agreed, which is why she’s elated,

to lead this panel that is being created

for Day to be accountable to.

—“Or are you just flattered that Gaia asked you?”

—“Well, okay, I’m not denying

it’s nice if I’m someone that people trust,

but also, if I can help, then I must.”

—“Whatever,” I say, “the world is dying,

We killed it, so do what you want. It’s fine:

you have your pleasures, and I have mine.”

I’m referring to the building we’re about to enter:

the Morgan Library. Kate’s never been,

and suspects it’s immoral. —“We need to decenter

this view of the past as this kind of serene

procession of aristocratic ‘cultures’

and remember that the rich are always vultures

feeding on the bodies of the dispossessed . . .”

—“Okay, but look! This place is the best.”

It’s three stories high. The ceiling is golden

and painted with copies from Raphael,

or someone like that, done pretty well.

There’s a fireplace out of a castle in olden-

day Europa, and of course, there are books,

shelf upon shelf, wherever one looks.

I show Kate the way that, carefully hidden

behind a bookcase, a spiral stair,

provides the access to those forbidden

tiers of volumes, high in the air.

—“Okay,” I say, “so grant your position

that there’s something obscene about the condition

of being so rich that you can build

this stuff, but still, at least he fulfilled

well, I won’t say, some kind of duty,

but some kind of vision. The world’s unfair

and there’s no justice anywhere,

but at least in places like this there’s beauty.

He made us a refuge, a place to go.

There are worse things to do with that kind of dough.”

—“Oh GOD!” Kate replies, extremely loudly.

Numerous bystanders turn and stare.

I give her a look. She laughs proudly.

“You’re such an aesthete. Do you really care

that much about art, that you make excuses

for the exploitation which produces

this stuff? I think we have to believe

in justice as something we can achieve.”

I laugh myself —“And good will prevail?”

Are we, I wonder, getting in a fight?

I know I should stop, but I can’t: I’m right.

“Movements for justice necessarily fail.

You can’t fight power unless you’re strong

But then you’re in power, and you’re what’s wrong.”

—“That’s such a fatalistic perspective . . .”

—“That power corrupts? Seems clearly true.”

—“Like, power’s not the only objective,

there are other kinds of things you can do . . .

I know you’ll accuse me of separatism,

But I think that radical feminism,

it’s not just transphobes buying farms,

these were women responding to the actual harms

they faced, and it’s part of a wider tradition

or asking, like, how do you build outside

of abusive structures. Separatism can provide

one way of working towards abolition.”

—“So you think we can learn from Charlotte Bunch

or Mary Daly? You’re out to lunch!”

—“Okay, well yes, I’ve been re-reading

Mary Daly . . .” —“I know! I saw

the book by the bed!” —“. . . and fine, conceding

of course she hates us, there’s also more

to it than that. She gets that oppression

is material, that violence and dispossession,

are all about bodies, it’s just she can’t see

we’re women as well, materially.”

—“Kate, what is this, this is alarming.

Aren’t you the one who’s like ‘fuck cis queers’?

So why would you care about their ideas?

This is like cutting, it’s like you’re self-harming!”

—“Well my relation to transness is very much like

Daly’s relation to being a dyke . . .”

—“That’s not the point! Like, this is madness!”

—“That’s kind of an ableist thing to say.”

And I look in her eyes, and I see sadness

where before she’d been so joyous and gay.

—“Alright,” I breathe out, “Let’s stop debating.

I’m sorry, okay, I’m de-escalating.

I realize I may have been a bit mean.”

—“Yeah, you were.” —“Okay, have you seen

these?” And I show her the illuminated

books of hours, and the autograph

Brontë poems. She sees a staff

member and asks if he’s compensated

fairly. He says he’d rather not say.

We adjourn to the Starbucks across the way.

We buy our coffees and find some seating.

Kate’s gone in one of her quiet moods.

I get the impression she’s avoiding meeting

my eyes. The sudden vicissitudes

of others’ emotions are things I’m sorely

unprepared for. I handle them poorly.

—“Hey Kate, will you look me in the eyes.

Please, come on, I’ll apologize,

I promise. Just will you please engage me?”

—“I’m not not engaging. I just feel ill.

I’ve got a headache. So please, can you chill?”

—“I’m sorry, it’s just, it tends to enrage me,

this silent treatment. If we’re in a fight,

we need to talk about it, alright?”

—“Okay, what is it you have this burning

need to discuss?” —“Okay, I’ll admit

I think this whole panel is very concerning,

I’m unhappy you’re getting involved in it.

I mean, so there’s this accusation

but you haven’t conducted an investigation

you don’t know what happened, or even to who,

or whether this accusation is even true!”

—“Do you really think a person would make it

if it wasn’t? I mean, for what? For fun?

Come on, this is feminism 101.”

—“It’s not that I think someone would fake it

it’s just, it’s hard, but if both those involved

are trans, is it really that easily resolved?”

—“You mean, if there isn’t a clearly lopsided

power imbalance? But we have to face

the material factors by which we’re divided,

like class, and age, and clout and race.

Day’s super visible, people know her,

she’s always inviting people to blow her

on Twitter, and posting about being non-op.

She has a brand. She’s like, power top.

And she’s white, she has money. I might be frightened

of her, if I was young, or poor.”

—“There are power differences between us, sure,

but whatever, also, it ain’t enlightened

to suggest trans women are a sexual threat.

I dunno, this discourse just makes me fret.”

—“Well okay, I agree. I mean, ideally

a justice system shouldn’t blame, or shun,

but help the person to admit freely

that they’re responsible for hurting someone.

That’s really the only way anyone heals:

I mean, with my rapist, if he knew how it feels

to be raped, if he really, deep in his heart

understood what he did, that could be the start

of healing for us both. Of restoration.”

—“Oh Kate, you’re so good. And you know, of course

that would be lovely. But you simply can’t force

people to repent, or make expiation.

If we build our own system, we’ll just replicate

the defense of order we all say we hate.”

—“The idea that justice is just a fiction

is copaganda! It makes us submit

to the cops, and to the jurisdiction

of the courts, instead of fighting it.”

—“Yeah well, I wish I could be persuaded.

These kids won’t find any justice unaided,

but what kind of justice do you think you can give?

Accountability? It’s punitive!

I know I’m against the spirit of the times,

but what’s at issue here is a relationship

and I think it’s really a dangerous slip

to start seeing that in terms of crimes.

I preferred it the way it used to be,

before queerness discovered morality.

—“I feel like recently, claims to virtue

have become the way you win a fight.

Like I’m totally licensed to hate or hurt you

if I first establish, I’m in the right.”

—“Come on, that’s bullshit. You’re misconstruing

everything I say. What we’re doing

isn’t punishment, it’s about being there

for your sisters, about the duty of care

we have for each other. It’s about relying

on other trans women, and you know, I thought

I’d be able to turn to you for support.

Like, can’t you help me? I’m here, I’m trying

to do something good.” —“Okay, that’s true.

But that goodness might be misguiding you.”

—“Well if not goodness, what should I be guided

by, do you think?” —“Well what about us?

Not that I need your undivided

attention, or for you to like, make a fuss

of me, but we’re new, and it’s kind of exciting,

and instead, you’re obsessed with these children fighting.”

—“It isn’t fighting. And shut up, there’s no need

for you to be jealous. I’m feeling freed.

It’s not zero-sum. I finally ended

things with Aashvi, who was such a rock

she became a burden, and like, it’s a shock,

But it’s like I finally comprehended

that I have all this energy. I feel so light.”

—“That’s good,” I lean back. “Perhaps you’re right.”

Why do I say this? The truth is, reader

I’ve gone and fallen in love with Kate.

I can’t upset her too much. I need her.

And also she isn’t wrong: she’s great!

She’s has such passion, such hope, she’s so dashing,

her hands waving, her eyes flashing,

her little jumps in her seat, the way

she pulls at her hair when she wants to say

something, but is letting me finish speaking,

this gesture of barely managed restraint:

she’s crazy, but there’s nothing about her faint

or listless. And so I’m kind of freaking

out, and realizing if I want to defuse

this argument, then I have to lose.

Kate says —“You can help me, we’ll do this together . . .”

—“Listen,” I say, “this is all a lot.

Let’s go for a walk. It’s gorgeous weather,

warm but not unbearably hot.

Plus I swear, since we’ve been seated

this is the seventh time they’ve repeated

that same bloody Ibeyi song.

Which means it’s a fact: we’ve been here too long.”

Kate laughs, and I think okay I’m succeeding!

and basically drag her out through the door.

“How about a joke? Okay, Niels Bohr,

a cop pulls him over because he’s speeding

and asks, ‘Do you know you were going too fast?’

He says, ‘No. But I know where I am at last!’”

Kate doesn’t get it, so I start outlining

quantum theory, and uncertainty:

“It’s the physics version of not defining

that which has a history . . .”

—“We’ve gone from Niels Bohr to Nietzsche!”

She laughs again. “You’re such a teacher!”

—“I wish! I got my PhD

in Early Modern poetry!

Imagine thinking I had the potential

to get hired without doing something queer,

or dating to earlier than, like, last year.

If I’d stuck to the experiential

I wouldn’t be working in a fucking shop!”

—“Yeah, well I’m freelance! You want to swap?”

—“So now we’re competing over whose position

is most precarious?” —“We are! Hell yeah!

That’s trans girl culture! It’s the trans condition.”

—“Well it’s good to know there’s something we share.”

We laugh, and this isn’t commiseration.

but instead a kind of celebration:

we stand together against the cis!

At Twentieth and Park we stop and kiss

and I buy her a single perfect flower

from a guy outside a health-food shop

Kate says —“I could almost punch a cop!

When we’re together we have so much power.”

At Twelfth, I realize where we are.

—“Oh Kate, we’re almost at Giant Bar!”

—“What’s that?” —“Okay, the name’s misleading,

the place is tiny, I mean really small.

It’s the only bar in this whole bleeding

country I actually like at all.

It’s not a pub, but it’s a consolation.”

—“It’s a little early for inebriation . . .”

—“No! If anything, it’s already too late.

I mean, this is supposed to be a date!

And we went for coffee! What a blunder!”

I take her hand, and together we flit

through East Village streets obliquely lit

by the unseasonal sun, as it’s sinking under

the tops of the towers we’re leaving behind:

our footsteps matching, our fingers entwined.

When we get there, the bar’s still quiet.

I order Campari with a little squeeze

of orange, and Kate has whisky and diet.

The gay bartender has put out cheese

thoughtfully cut up, on a little platter,

(these little touches really matter)

and Prince and Lisa are duetting on “Head.”

—“You were just a virgin on your way to be wed,”

I sing to Kate, and we both start dancing.

—“And then I came on your wedding gown!”

I conclude, and giggling, we settle down

and begin to get tipsy. The fall is advancing

remorselessly outside, but within this banquette,

at least for an evening, we’re able to forget.