I can never do this right. Why am I feeling this way? It’s so stupid. It can be so easy to judge yourself harshly for everything. Even without meaning to, a critical thought can crop up, making you feel worse about yourself. But you can stop this cycle! The next time you’re judging yourself, try replacing that judgment with curiosity. And what does this mean? If you notice a repeated unhelpful behavior, instead of admonishing yourself, gently ask why you keep engaging in something that isn’t serving you. Be curious about the cause of this behavior and how you might make a change. This empowers you to not only fix anything that isn’t going right but also to love yourself.