Be Here Now Masturbation
Masturbation is an essential key in beginner training and maintenance of power after one has achieved different levels. It is important to note that Indian temples openly display masturbation of both sexes.
This is sometimes portrayed as a training exercise and often as an end in itself utilizing desire as part of worship. It can also be seen as preliminary arousal training to the super sensitize and “ready” organs for intimate sexual communication at the most sensitive partner levels. Recent studies have shown that 94% of men masturbate and 64% of women. The ancient sexual training temples, notably Konarak and Khajuraho, are stone monuments to human sexuality. They are also books in stone, referencing tantric techniques for optimal use of the sexual apparatus.
There are numerous sculptures of men manipulating their organs without women present and many with Women present. These indicate organ sensitization in perpetration for long tantric sex. They also indicate tantric masturbation and organ preparation. They illustrate the use of autoerotic sex for tantric training.
Such manipulation was also used for preparation for visualization union with the goddess without her physical incarnation. They also are a visual representation of the tantric view that copious ejaculate is created by bringing the penis to ejaculation point often, even prior to and in preparation for mutual sex.
Masturbate with full attention. That is BEING HERE NOW in the present moment with your action. Do not think of anything else. Do not let the mind wonder. Be here now; present with your penis in hand feeling the vibration. Attune to your penis so that you understand the subtle messages and the levels of intensity you are obtaining. Focus first on surface, feeling the different textural sensations on different parts of the organ. Experiment with different techniques, dry, wet, lubricants, creams etc. Focus attention on bringing the penis to a point of high stimulation.
An organ that has been erect for five minutes is very different from one that has been erect for fifteen minutes. Learn to distinguish the sensitivity levels of your organ at fifteen minutes, thirty minutes and one hour. Learn to experience the difference in orgasm at each level . With attunement you will notice that your penis is not immediately ready to respond with full attention. With focused attention and slow appraisal you will notice a progression toward super sensitivity. Time is also essential in achieving full sensitivity. Rapid masturbation leads only to quick release not to sensitivity. Relish the receptivity of your organ and appreciate the varied sensations.
Masturbate using your full sexual apparatus. Some men get into the habit of massaging only one area of the penis, the head or just below the head. Taoist of old taught the penis and scrotum should be massaged all over. First, because of the varied sensations involved and secondly because the overall health of the entire body requires full attention to the whole sexual apparatus. Try different holds, pulls, jerks, rubs, twists, etc trying to involve the entire organ in your repertoire. Most men neglect their testicles except in sex when their lover will sometimes massage or suck them. When masturbating a man should not ignore his testicles because rubbing the testicles increases the production of testosterone. More testosterone makes you more potent and stronger sexually. Some men will wish to add their perineum and anus to this sexual repertoire. Tantra would say if it gives you pleasure do it. Later we will discuss how awareness of these areas can be used in sexual control and multi-orgasm.
Two Indian Rajas enjoy the same courtesan for lovemaking.
Masters and Johnson in their classic work identified the point of ejaculatory inevitability (that point at which they believed ejaculation could not be stopped) . To stop at that point or just before requires crucial concentration on the organ, and on physical and psychological sensations. We have been exercising to achieve and attune to super-sensitively. We want to be aware of the organ’s moment to moment sensation to achieve super sensitivity and absolute awareness.
Awareness is the key. You must focus on that part of the body where you most strongly feel the rise in tension or arousal. For men that is usually the penis or testicles. You need to distinguish that moment which is the point of inevitability. You once learned to distinguish the sensations that told you when you needed to pee. You stopped peeing your pants. You even learned to distinguish the sensation in sleep so you would not wet the bed. It is much easier for an adult to identify, the changes in his favorite organ that indicate the point of ejaculatory inevitability. Once you bother to clearly identify the point it is easy to stop right before and bypass ejaculation. You do not by pass orgasm. Learn to separate the feelings of orgasm from the need to ejaculate. Freely experience the orgasm without while holding back the ejaculation.
How long you experience orgasm and how long you stop once you reach ejaculation level depends on individual. After orgasm relax and observe a slight reduction of penis size and Firmness. The time will vary per individual; say: ten seconds to one minute. But do not let your organ sink more that 20% in size.
For most 10 percent is sufficient. Then continue once again to allow your self to move toward the point of inevitability. Stop and start again. With training you can move to the brink; back off for 15 to 60 seconds and begin again. Achieve numerous mini-orgasms. You may ejaculate at the end of the exercise but be sure it is conscious; that is that you have risen numerous times to the point of inevitability, controlled yourself. Now you know you can control the point of ejaculatory response and you are choosing after 20 to 50 successful mini- orgasms to discharge, aware that you are in control of your sensations.
GOAL ONE. 20 minutes without ejaculation.
GOAL TWO 40 minutes without ejaculation
GOAL THREE 60 minutes without ejaculation
GOAL FOUR 90 Minutes without ejaculation
Since the average man today will ejaculate 16 minutes after entering this is a good place to begin. In masturbation or intercourse extend yourself 4 minutes beyond the norm. Men early in life with the exuberance of youth tend to cum quickly n a matter of minutes. This is definitely to be avoided from a Tantric viewpoint. Studies show that quite a few men in our society never master the ability to control ejaculation. Dr Kinsey noted in the 1950’s that a large percent of men have problems with premature ejaculation. According to recent studies the situation has not improved much.
The penis should never ejaculate until the penis has begun to give fluids. It is like shooting water up at a high velocity through a dry tube. Always prepare yourself. Just as women need time to lubricate and become ready for insertion, so does the male, It is an incorrect Western assumption that the male is always ready. It may be true that the healthy male is always ready for sex, but the healthy organ is not always ready to shoot. Just because you are capable of shooting does not mean your penis is ready to do so. By shooting too early we lose the chance to build up sensation. It is rather like a dog wolfing down it’s food without tasting. Time allows build up of sensation allowing multiple layers of feeling
With such close attention, you will notice that when you do bring yourself to the brink of orgasm certain things happen. The penis head and shaft actually increase enlargement, about 4 to 12% in most males. In some cases it occurs in the last seconds before orgasmic discharge. This is the time to assume control of the penis before it does your thinking for you. You can attend to these visual and physical markers much more easily while masturbating because you have a visual of your penis right before you, and are not dealing with numerous other stimuli that would be provided by another person. Another indicator we have discussed prior to imminent discharge is that the testicles will pull back up toward or actually into the body in preparation for ejaculatory discharge. This physical sensation is yet another signal allowing you to gain control
Assume control, moving toward orgasm but stopping yourself right before muscular discharge (ejaculation) by immediately withdrawing all stimulation or remaining still. You will probably not succeed at first but keep trying. Next time do not wait quite so long to withdraw stimulation. In beginning stages it is probably better for you to totally withdraw and regain control. Slowly build to a point of high stimulation by letting your juices flow and attuning to the feeling inside and on the surface of your penis. Feel the fluids actually flowing upward through your penis.
Complete your exercises before you allow yourself ejaculation. Start with five rises to the point of ejaculatory inevitability. And do not allow yourself ejaculation until you have achieved this. Next time you should add difficulty and go to seven minutes, then ten, continuously upping the minutes and number of orgasms until you until you have reached control level you want. Reward yourself each time you achieve your goal.
MASTURBATION EXERCISE METHODS
As you stroke be aware of the tension and arousal levels. Do not think of the arousal process as simple. It is not a matter of becoming “hard” and ejaculating as soon as possible. It is a complex process. Feel how the organ changes as it moves from phase to phase. It is different for all men so a simple progression cannot be detailed. But you should be aware of the change of and feeling of weight as the organ lifts, you should be attuned to the tactile skin stimulation as it moves form level to level ; as it changes. The surface skin dilation should be differentiated from the internal cellular expansion. The head should be discriminated from the shaft. The frenulum, below the head should be considered as a separate area to be distinguished. The balls should be evaluated for their feeling, hanging and tension. Which section of the balls and scrotum are most sensitive? Where do you feel the most sensation of fullness, swelling, tingling?
The greater your connection with your organ the greater your mastery will be. Ejaculatory control is about attending acutely to your own sensations of arousal and tension sensitivity.
DRY HAND
Dry hand masturbation is a good place to start because the stimulation is not as intense. Masturbate to the point of EJACULATORY INEVITABILITY and stop, ten seconds to a minute… do not loose erection.
Begin again; repeat; repeat.
This time, as you near the point of ejaculatory inevitability switch hands. This will give you a different feel and intensity as your penis adjusts to stroking of your other hand. It is like changing strokes in sex.
Normally this will defuse your charge just because of the sensation switch. Attune yourself to this change so that whenever you switch patterns in stroking you can change sensation levels. Control is achieved by being attuned to minute sensations and mastering the point at which to change and prevent ejaculation
Add variations. Try using both hands. Try pulls on lower shaft. Try pulling just below head. Use twists on shaft and on head. Try varying different strokes; long from the base all the way to tip and from mid way and from the frenulum up. Subtle adjustments change the stimulation.
We are simulating what varied intercourse is like. Men who are sexual masters do not just bang away in one rhythm or one type of in and out stroke. They move up and down, they thrust form side to side; they alter the angle of their thrust. They stimulate the clitoris and vaginal lips by external movement by drumming on the clitoris or entrance. You can drum with the head or the whole body of the organ. Try stimulation of the vagina with only the head inside, or only part of the shaft inside. The master knows the value of build up. He moves with many strokes and variations, provoking a panoply of sensations as he moves toward “mountains”. Seldom does the master give full thrust of the whole length. He saves the most spectacular for “moving to mountains” then after strong stimulation where both near orgasm, he moves to an area of lesser stimulation “tingling valleys” for both partners. Various position are yet another laid in both mutual pleasure and organ manipulation.
After moving to the brink five to ten times you may need to release the pressure being built up in the prostate. The Prostate will fill with seminal fluids and be prepared to pump at the point of ejaculatory inevitability. You may want to take command and internally pump the prostate with your pc muscles right before the point of ejaculatory inevitability. This accomplishes several things. First, it releases pressure on the prostate. This in turn relieves the immediate need to fully cum. Secondly, it allows you to experience the orgasm of cuming without being at the final point of a full cum. After pumping and releasing the prostate in this way you will feel you are orgasming but only the fluid in the prostate itself and your penis tube will empty. Usually it does not squirt but will ease out as you hold off complete orgasm. This is just what you want. You have experienced your first min -multi- orgasm. As you work with this you will find that you can bring yourself to the point of multi -orgasm without ever completely cuming. Releasing your prostate consciously allows you control. By pumping and clearing your prostate every five to tenth time you multi -orgasm you will be able to frustrate ejaculatory inevitability. With these incomplete multi-orgasms you will find only this small reduction is size and stimulation. A little stroking or pulling will bring you back to full hardness after 30 to 60 seconds. If you practice in this manner you will find that you soon recover hardness and can go on multi-orgasming for hours.
EXERCISE TWO. WET HAND
Now try masturbation with wet hand techniques. Lubricants like k-y jelly or hand cream lotions are an additional stimulant as they somewhat mimic the actual vaginal moistness. Practice the same exercise rising to the point and retreating again and again.
You may find that what you have achieved with dry hand is a little more difficult now. You may have to reduce your stroking a little. Or you may find that the 30 minutes you had achieved on dry now have been reduce to 15 minutes before you loose control. Continue as you did before setting goals and achieving them until you have mastered this wet form also. Do not forget the varied stimulation we discussed above.
Experiment with different sections of the penis and different stokes and sensations. You should build up to an hour before final release, multi-organizing at least 15 times before final orgasm.
VIDEOS AND BOOKS
Pornographic books and videos can be useful in masturbation training. There are however several points to consider. First if you used them as a youngster to get off quickly because of embarrassment or social or parental controls you must be careful to retrain yourself. You are now using them for your full and complete enjoyment working toward becoming a sexual master not a three second rooster. Secondly pornographic material is not the destination. It is only external stimulation for you to focus internally on your own pleasure and sexual training. You need to keep it on the periphery and focus inward to experience intensely and knowingly your own individual arousal phases. People who are extremely good at visualization do not need such aids. They can manifest woman or the goddess in their minds while their hands manipulate the organ as a substitute for her vagina.
Books are somewhat difficult, as they often require a hand for holding and a hand for turning. This may give you a false view of you ability as you are loosing sensation in the few seconds it will take you to turn a page. Videos are more highly recommended. However here also you must be careful in your choice. You need videos that offer continual visual stimulation not ones with so called artistic interludes to make them legally acceptable. You can obtain videos that are constant sex or make you own copies if you wish.
Indian merchant enjoys courtesan in standing position