When you see a married couple walking down the street,
the one that’s a few steps ahead is the one that’s mad.

HELEN ROWLAND

A happy marriage is the world’s best bargain.

O. A. BATTISTA

I once wrote a humor quiz for a marriage magazine, shoved it under my parents door, then waited to hear what would happen. Moments later I heard Mom say in the tone she used on me as a child just before I got in trouble: “Philip.” Then she started to giggle. Dad snickered several times, gave two audible cackles, and was still grinning when I came to retrieve it ten minutes later.

Through the years, Mom and Dad have not modeled the perfect marriage for their children, but they’ve shown us how to laugh, how to celebrate, and how a happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.

By the way, the following quiz is for married couples only, so if you are not in that category, you should skip ahead to the next chapter (assuming you aren’t curious and will follow my directions willingly). The first part is…

For Guys Only

How much do you know about the state of your marriage and the gal you wake up beside each morning? How she thinks. What makes her tick. And why “Fine” isn’t good enough when she asks how your day went. Take this quiz and find out.

1. The movie your wife will most want you to rent on your next anniversary is:

   1. Lethal Auto Combat 6 in 3D.

   2. Something with foreign people talking foreign with words at the bottom.

   3. Anything so romantic you won’t care if you see the end of the movie.

2. The thing your wife loves whispered in her ear is:

   1. Quotations by Homer.

   2. Quotations by Homer Simpson.

   3. Sweet somethings.

3. For your tenth anniversary, the gift your wife will want more than anything is:

   1. That plaid Barcalounger for two with his and hers cup holders.

   2. What? We have an anniversary? When?

   3. Chocolate, flowers, and your undivided attention (to her, not the chocolate).

4. How would you describe yourself as a father?

   1. What? We have children?

   2. I spend time with my kids when I can find them.

   3. I’m working on it.

5. How often do you have marital relations?

   1. When I say so, woman.

   2. We haven’t had the relatives over since the Thanksgiving Jell-O Fiasco.

   3. I’d love to answer that question, but my wife and I haven’t seen each other in an hour and a half.

6. Your wife asks you, “What were Humphrey Bogart’s famous words to the lovely Ingrid Bergman in the romantic film Casablanca?” You respond:

   1. “Go ahead, make my day.”

   50 Ways to Keep Your Lover

   1. Morning kisses.

   2. Evening walks.

   3. Leave flirtatious messages on his or her voice mail. Be sure to dial correctly.

   4. Ladies: Don’t vacuutm during football games.

   5. Ladies: Don’t vacuum during football games.

   6. Men: Don’t eat onions unless she does.

   7. Love when you don’t feel like it.

   8. Read together.

   9. Laugh together.

   10. Accept blame.

   11. Share entrees.

   12. Be nice.

   13. Lower your expectations.

   14. Never purposely embarrass each other.

   15. Never equate success with stuff.

   16. Hold hands.

   17. Ride bikes.

   18. Ladies: Tell him you like him better with less hair.

   19. Men: Tell her you like her haircut.

   20. Window shop.

   21. Give backrubs.

   22. Trade footrubs.

   23. View infidelity for what it is: poison.

   24. Take marriage seriously. Work at it.

   25. Visit iTunes together and download music from your dating days.

   26. Remember your first date.

   27. Laugh together.

   28. Cry together.

   29. Be givers.

   30. Make good, positive friends and keep them.

   31. Be accountable.

   32. Learn to talk.

   33. Ladies: Don’t subsist on romance novels.

   34. Guys: Guard your heart.

   35. Say sorry.

   36. Say thank you.

   37. Encourage.

   38. Forgive.

   39. Watch Jaws together. Better yet, watch it without your feet in a hot tub.

   40. Send his favorite book to the author for an autograph.

   41. Hold each other tight.

   42. Give each other space.

   43. Attend church regularly.

   44. Disagree while smiling.

   45. Drop grudges.

   46. Make up.

   47. Never mix evening news and bedtime.

   48. Draw close to God.

   49. End the day with prayer.

   50. Remember the day will come when our clocks will stop and our 401 (k) plans will expire, but our footprints will remain.

   1. “First rule of Fight Club is you do not talk about Fight Club.”

   2. “Here’s lookin’ at you, kid.”

7. The last thing you said to your wife today before you left for work was:

   1. “The kids are up and they’re eating bowls of Mega Choco Zingo Puffs with salad tongs.”

   2. “Yikes! You may want to put some concealer on that.”

   3. “Can’t wait to see you tonight.”

8. On your fortieth anniversary, the song title that best describes your sex life will be:

   1. “I Say a Little Prayer”

   2. “Yesterday”

   3. “(Oh, What a Feeling When We’re) Dancing on the Ceiling”

How to Score

If you chose only the “a” answers, your chances of scoring are not that good. Please go to the C section in the yellow pages and look up Counselor. If you gravitated mostly to the “b” responses, your funny bone is in good working order, but you could still use a little help. Please take an aspirin and read the rest of this book in the morning. If you chose “c” five or more times, thanks for taking this quiz on your honeymoon. Sounds like some tenderness, a good sense of humor, and a servant’s heart are keeping your marriage fresh. Now it’s time to show the rest of this chapter to your wife.

For Gals Only

These eight questions are intended to help you discover how well you really know the guy in your life. You may want to fill it out with your husband. Then again, you may want to take it into the bathroom, lock the door, and let him wonder what you’re snickering about.

1. If I leave my husband alone for the weekend, his diet will consist of:

   1. Vegetables, fruits, and organic granola.

   2. Actually, he could very well starve to death.

   3. Stuff he finds in the sofa.

2. The gift my husband most loves to receive on his birthday:

   1. Socks. Lots and lots of socks.

   2. Flowers and cute underwear.

   3. Cheesecake. Served by me—wearing only socks.

3. After a tough day at work my husband loves it when I:

   1. Gripe about the way his belt doesn’t match his shoes.

   2. Gripe about the way my belt doesn’t match my shoes.

   3. Ask about the big game.

4. My husband’s nickname for our bed is:

   1. Old Lumpy

   2. Headache Generator

   3. The Hibachi

5. After he uses the facilities at our house, the toilet seat is:

   1. Don’t ask.

   2. Glued in the upright position.

   3. Like our marriage—sometimes up, sometimes down.

6. Outside the bedroom, my husband’s favorite activity is:

   1. Holding my purse outside the fitting room while I try on pantsuits in multiples of five.

   2. Going to the video store with me to help decide between all the Julia Roberts chick flicks.

   3. Figuring out ways to get us back in the bedroom.

7. How do you and your husband settle differences of opinion?

   1. We don’t disagree. I’m the queen.

   2. He spends the night on the plaid Barcalounger.

   3. A good discussion, some black forest cake, and…well, none of your beeswax.

8. On our twenty-fifth anniversary, the song title that will best describe our sex life will be:

   1. The theme from Mission: Impossible

   2. “Wishin’ and Hopin “

   3. “Oh, What a Night”

How to Score

Give yourself one point each time you selected “c.” If you did so at least five times, it is now safe to come out of the bathroom and show your husband what you’ve been laughing about. If you circled only “a” or “b” answers, stay in there and take the test again. Collect one hundred bonus points if you smiled at least twice during this quiz and one thousand air miles if you resolved afresh to love the guy God gave you.