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Playing a Subordinate Role

‘I am certain of nothing but the holiness of the heart’s affections and the truth of the imagination.’

Keats

In spite of the contribution you are making to the situation, your value as an individual is not being recognized. There is nothing you can do to influence matters. If you try to be assertive, you will meet with no response. Do your best to adapt to circumstances without expecting too much. Go quietly about your business and keep yourself to yourself. Although you are in a subservient position you can nevertheless act with dignity. Accept the reality of the situation and do what is required without resentment. If you are faced with a choice to be made, take care. Beware of being manipulated by others. If you are enquiring about a relationship issue, it is very important that you do not try to control the situation. Bear in mind that wanting to possess somebody exclusively is not the same as loving them. This attitude cannot ultimately bring happiness.

An opportunity for personal growth

Taking a long-term view of matters will enable you to keep a sense of perspective. Do not allow disagreements to undermine a relationship. They are simply part of an ongoing process and will pass if you do not make a big issue of them. Do not let pride or jealousy trip you up. Take responsibility for the atmosphere you create. You will get far better results by being warm and affectionate than by insisting on what you believe to be your rights. Do not criticize or complain. Be tactful and kind. By becoming less dependent on others, you will acquire inner freedom and a greater sense of your own worth.

Further aspects of the situation

NINE AT THE BEGINNING

Because of conditions beyond your control, you have only very limited influence. Make the most of it by being helpful and tactful. Avoid any hint of aggression.

NINE IN THE SECOND PLACE

Matters have not turned out as anticipated. Do not allow disappointment to make you bitter or resentful. Have faith in yourself and remain committed to what you believe to be true.

SIX IN THE THIRD PLACE

To get what you want will mean compromising yourself. This would have a disastrous effect on your self-esteem. Be patient and wait for a better opportunity.

NINE IN THE FOURTH PLACE

You are right to turn down opportunities which do not feel appropriate for you. To others, it may seem that you are being left behind, but you must be true to yourself. In due course you will reap the rewards of your current unwillingness to compromise.

SIX IN THE FIFTH PLACE

No matter how much ability you have, or how strong your position may be, keep out of the spotlight. Do not demand attention or try to control the situation. Focus on how you can best be of service. Resist any temptation to compete with others in order to prove how wonderful you are.

SX AT THE TOP

Without a heartfelt commitment to what you are doing, you will not succeed. If you merely go through the motions you are wasting your time and energy. In relationships, do your best not to be jealous or possessive.