Appendix
Friendship Resources
Online Friendship Matching Site: GirlFriendCircles.com
Since research reports we replace half our close friends every seven years, it’s imperative throughout our lives to meet new people and develop new friendships. Whatever brings you to seek new friendships, GirlFriendCircles.com introduces you to other awesome women equally eager to meet you. (Use the code SHASBK to save $10 off a six- or twelve-month membership at www.GirlFriendCircles.com.)
Friendship Curriculum
“The Friendships You’ve Always Wanted: Learning a Better Way to Meet Up, Build Up, and Break Up with Your Friends”
Though so much of our happiness is linked to our ability to create meaningful relationships, few of us have ever taken a class on friendship. Now you can. The Friendships You’ve Always Wanted is a thirteen-week online class for women who want to build a healthy circle of friends. The course offers thirteen interviews with psychologists, authors, sociologists, and other relationship experts and a workbook to help you apply what you’re learning. (Use the code SHASBK to save 20% off this virtual class at www.FriendshipsWanted.com.)
Book
Friendships Don’t Just Happen: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of Girlfriends
While the book in your hands is about deepening your friendships, Shasta’s first book focused more on how to start friendships. It includes her Five Circles of Friends, discussing the different types of friends as well as healthy expectations for various levels of friendship. Shasta expertly walks readers through the steps of both meeting friendly people and developing some chosen friendships into becoming BFFs.
Travel with New Friends: TravelCircles
GirlFriendCircles.com sponsors travel trips for women, by women, and about women to places all over the world! Whether we seek a rare and stimulating journey to Cuba, the meaning of the Middle East, or an adventurous trip to Peru or Costa Rica, we share experiences that connect us with women in each country—then return home with new friendships forged from our time together. (To see upcoming destinations, visit www.womenstravelcircles.com.)
Shasta’s Mailing List and Friendship Blog
Past posts have included: “Top Three Tips for Making New Friends,” “How to Start a Women’s Circle,” and “Help! Should I tell My Friend That Her Husband Is Cheating on Her?” (Sign up to be added to the subscription list where you’ll receive semiweekly inspiration and be informed of upcoming events in your area: www.ShastasFriendshipBlog.com.)
Connect with Shasta
ADVICE: Want advice on a friendship problem? Fill out the form here: http://tinyurl.com/ShastasAdvice.
SOCIAL MEDIA: Want to engage on social media?
• https://twitter.com/ShastaMNelson
• www.facebook.com/GirlFriendCircles
• www.pinterest.com/GFCircles/
• www.youtube.com/user/ShasGFC
QUESTIONS OR COMMENTS: Want to invite Shasta to speak, have a question for her, or want to tell her what you thought of this book? Reach her here: www.girlfriendcircles.com.
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