June 12

When we are angry at being overlooked, it is not arro- gance and grandiosity. It is a signal that we have changed sizes and must now act larger. Very often when we feel small and unheard, it is not because we are small and unheard but because we are acting small and unheard. We are not intended to be small. Often we are cornered not into being powerless and puny—as we feel—but into being large. Our problem is our perspective. When we are angry “out of all proportion,” that is a very accurate phrase. We have lost a sense of our true size and power, and the intensity of our feelings makes us feel “hopping mad,” another telling phrase, as our mental image of ourselves becomes very cartooned. The size of our anger has dwarfed our perspective and our personality. This is because we do not realize that the power we are perceiving is within us as the power for change. When we feel impotent with rage, we are actually potent with rage—we simply have not yet seen how to effectively use our anger as the fuel that it is.