>> Turning Points to Recovery

• There is another reality than the one I live. I want it.

• I am willing to take some risks to have it.

• If you have pain, you deserve to heal.

• If you have anger or guilt from the past, you deserve to heal.

• If you are protecting yourself from past pain in ways that are causing you even more pain in the present, you deserve to heal.

• The pain we feel is not only from the past, but also from the past-driven present.

• We were powerless in the past, but we are not powerless in the present.

• We are not our pain.

• Our pain is our responsibility.

• What we do about our pain is a choice we make.

• To say, “I did not learn this very basic skill and I need to know how” is a turning point.

• Recovery isn’t changing who you are. It is letting go of who you are not.

• Recovery is learning the numbers two through nine.

• By recognizing that you are in the process of recovery, you are beginning to shine your own light.

• You deserve to begin rebuilding your life in a new direction.

• Learning to love yourself does not mean you love others less. Instead, it frees you to love them more.

• The awareness that now you can choose to be free from the secret is a turning point.

• A turning point will come when you can identify a safe way to share the secret.

• The awareness of your own role is a turning point.

• The awareness that we have adopted a protective role is a turning point.

• The awareness that we no longer need that role to survive is a turning point.

• The turning point in your relationship is the awareness that your growth is not about getting other people to change.

• You are not a coward if you choose not to confront face-to-face.

• Intimacy is about being close. Intimacy is trusting another with who you are without the fear of rejection.

• I am responsible for the choices I make in my life.

• It is in the acceptance of all that was and is that our spirits become whole.

• We are not “in control.”

• I do not depend on others in order to accept myself.

• When people leave (abandon) me, it is not a judgment of my worth.

God is always present in the heart. Look within.