“If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.”
• Consider honoring the baby you lost by helping others in your community. Volunteer at a senior center, an elementary school, a local hospital—someplace that supports your values and feels close to your heart.
• My friends Bonnie and Tony Redfern have started an annual run in their community of Fresno, California, in loving memory of their son Scott, who died suddenly in a tragic shop accident at school. Another couple I am close to, Nancy and Gary Zastrow, founded educational programs, support groups, and a newsletter in their town of Wausau, Wisconsin, following the suicide death of their beloved son, Chad. And my treasured friend Andrea Gambill started Bereavement magazine after an auto accident took the life of her darling daughter, Judy. All of these special people have helped countless others as a way to honor life and make sense of death.
• You might also consider helping others in your community who have lost a child to miscarriage. Look into starting a support group or annual fundraising event.
• If your schedule is too hectic, offer money instead of time. Make your donation in memory of the baby you lost.
CARPE DIEM
Call your local United Way and ask for some suggestions about upcoming events you could participate in or organizations you could help.