Introduction: The Start of Something

I think today is Tuesday . . .

Lately, the days seem to blend together. Do I sound wasted? I’m not, I promise. Two weeks ago, I started my first job at the largest talent agency in the world. I’m in my cubicle, sitting Indian style on my swivel chair. There are no windows. I stare at the white walls all day long. I drive to and from work in the dark. Each day, I’m exposed to new processes and personalities. My capacity for new information expired days ago. People keep telling me they have “high expectations” for me, but what does that even mean? I feel like my life isn’t mine.

On my first day, everyone was so nice. But overnight, it seems, those same people have turned short and snippy. My boss is clearly getting over her honeymoon stage with me, and has started to freely express her opinion of my work—and it’s not so great. It’s only been two weeks and my world has been completely flipped upside down. The girl who was supposed to train me started working for a managing partner within the company so she now has no time.

My daily tasks include scheduling my boss’s meetings; planning a European vacation for her and her husband; sending her clients new movie scripts; keeping track of the call sheet; and answering the phone, which rings every two seconds. I just have too many things in front of me. I don’t know where to start. I’m lost in a paper zoo with to-do lists, highlighted scripts, half-written letters, crumpled receipts, and unused napkins everywhere. Beneath the papers are boxes of unopened gifts, designer handbags, food cartons, organizers that aren’t being used for organizing, and Sharpies in every color. Do I really need another to-do list? Before I can get to work, I hear my boss yelling my name from her office. And trust me, I’m not the only one who can hear her. She sounds angry . . . but for some reason, I still haven’t moved. What did I do this time? I’ve already dropped several phone calls, double-booked three meetings, e-mailed a script to the wrong client, and heated up my boss’s frozen lunch in the plastic container it came in, which apparently means I gave her cancer. Or maybe she meant the microwaved container would give her cancer? Who knows.

I’m glued to my seat. Finally, I take a deep breath and drag my feet into my boss’s office. “Lauren! Why don’t you have a pen and paper? Do you not take your role here seriously? You should ALWAYS be taking notes!”

My head is spinning. I don’t say anything. I pivot, turn back to my desk, grab an old memo pad and pen, and circle back into her office. “Hello, again,” I say dryly, forcing a no-teeth smile. She rolls her eyes.

“We have a problem, Lauren. Look around. Tell me what the problem is.”

I look around her office. It’s a new office. We just moved into a new building. It has a big window and a large desk. Definitely an upgrade from the last building. “What’s wrong?” I ask, looking around at her new office apprehensively. “Well Lauren,” she’s going somewhere with this and I know it’s not going to be good. “I don’t have any furniture in my office. If you took a walk around the floor, you would notice that every other agent has new furniture. Some have couches, chaise lounges, others have tables, and some have nice chairs, but I have nothing in my office. I’m the only agent in the office with no furniture which is weird because I asked you to order office furniture for me weeks ago. You were supposed to get it here by Monday.”

My stomach drops. Uh oh. She is right. We spoke about it. I didn’t do it. I don’t know why. It wasn’t on purpose, I just didn’t do it. It must have been written on a piece of paper somewhere in my paper zoo. I’m clearly not organized enough and just don’t have my work life together. I apologize and go back to my desk to order the furniture. Ugh.

 

WELCOME TO MY REAL WORLD. This is it. This is the big glamorous life of a second assistant to a movie star talent agent. I feel like such an idiot. I’m THAT assistant—the one who can’t do anything right. Other assistants feel better about themselves because they know they don’t mess up as much as I do. Honestly, I know I could get fired at any moment. And the worst part is my boss is right—everyone is right—I am bad at my job. Me, the girl who had fifteen internships, the girl who was the most prepared job candidate in the world, was terrible at her job.

Meanwhile, my personal life was just as messy. Suddenly, I had about eighty new friends who wanted to hang out all the time. Every weeknight, after leaving the office late, we’d get together for drinks or dinners we could barely afford on our assistants’ salaries. We’d get drunk, go to bed, manage to get back into the office at 7 A.M., and then convince someone to order McDonald’s to cure our hangovers. Because there were so many of us, every day was someone’s birthday, and when there was a birthday there were cupcakes, bagels, or pizza. And because our workloads were so heavy and our days were so draining—we lived for the food.

The weekends were just as busy and chaotic. At night, we went out to ultra-trendy bars, took tequila shots, kissed strangers, and woke up the next morning craving more McDonald’s. I was meeting new people, never had a moment to be lonely, and had so many nights for the memory books. Now, let me play Debbie Downer for a moment and explain what wasn’t so great about this seemingly cool lifestyle. My body and my brain were always on go: I never had time to stop, I never had time to breathe. It was one thing right into the next. Because of this, I didn’t have any time for my family or old friends on the East Coast. Because of the time difference, I hardly spoke to anyone. When I was leaving work, my parents and friends were in bed. When I drove to work in the morning and had time to talk, they were at work. I also had no time for any sort of personal errands; things like going to the bank, the grocery store, and the dry cleaners just never happened. My bills and dirty clothes started to stack up, my car started to break down, and I started eating out every night. All of those birthday parties, free bagels in the break room, and snacks in the afternoon were really starting to affect my body. Working out wasn’t an option because I had no time for it. I couldn’t excel at my job because I wasn’t in control of my job; my job was in control of me. I felt completely hopeless.

I didn’t know how to turn things around at work or in my personal life because there was no one to tell me, no one to train me. I needed help and had nowhere to get it. My parents couldn’t understand how such a glamorous job could be so bad and would just tell me that it would “get better.” Super helpful, guys. For someone who was always told that I had so much potential, all of a sudden I felt useless and replaceable.

When I look back at that time, I think, “Wow, what was I doing? And why was I doing it?” I had so much going on but I needed rules. I needed guidance. No one had prepared me for what I was experiencing and it was so frustrating. Why didn’t anyone tell me how to prioritize, organize, manage my time, get my work done, build relationships, and take care of myself?

By the time I finally realized things needed to change in my work life, it was too late. The opportunity to be promoted and to move to another department within the company had already passed me by. I had gotten to the point where I was stuck. And it wasn’t until I left the agency and started my own business that I was able to realize how many different mistakes I had made. Once I was able to look at the entry-level tasks I did as an assistant from a different perspective, I was able to understand what I should have been doing at that job. I had to learn the hard way.

When I launched my own company I decided things were going to be different. I made a list of everything I did wrong at my first job and vowed to learn from my mistakes and improve. I searched deep inside myself to find the power, the motivation, and the courage to adopt a new set of rules. No more playing it safe and trying to just stay caught up. I would stay ahead, learn new systems, perfect my work, become a superstar in my field, and turn my new job into my career. This time, I was ready to conquer the world.

Because of that new mind-set, things changed. Today, I sit here writing this book, only a few years removed from that first job, but it feels like decades have passed. I’m CEO and founder of my own company (www.InternQueen.com). I work from a home office, surrounded by pink notebooks and sparkle pens, and I make the rules. Most important, I don’t feel lost, undervalued, or replaceable.

My weekends aren’t filled with as many parties, but the friends that I met back then are still with me today and hopefully will be for many years to come. I’m much more organized and put together, and I’ve learned to think about the consequences of my actions. You won’t see me scarfing down cupcakes anymore (at least not too often). I truly believe that the world is mine and I can do anything I want in it.

And I’m not alone. The friends that started with me as assistants are finally starting to get the career successes they’ve been working so hard for. We all started as entry-level assistants in Hollywood. We knew we wanted success, but we couldn’t have described what it was back then. We knew we wanted to make things happen, but we didn’t know really what those things were or how to get the ball rolling. We just sort of jumped right in immediately after graduation with no idea of what we were getting ourselves into.

If you had asked me how I felt about my life and career path a few years back, I probably would have told you I was frustrated and anxious. But today, I look back on that time—that precious, dreadful time when I had no clue what was going on—and I smile. Because it was in that time frame, in those moments, that I truly learned who I was, what I wanted to do, how to work, and how to get things done. Yes, I learned through trial and error, but hopefully this book will help you skip some of those errors and become the confident, organized, and successful person I know you can be.

Here I get the opportunity to tell you what no one told me. I get to tell you how bad it can be but also how good it can get. This is information that you need to know before starting your first job. And through my own experience, I can relate to what you are going through. I know what it feels like to hate the daily grind, to feel stuck, to feel like you are bad at your job, and to feel like you’re on a slow path to nowhere. But I also know what it feels like on the other side. And most important, I know how to get there. I know how you can change your outlook, mind-set, and the quality of your work. I know how you can challenge yourself every day at work so that you don’t lose the passion and motivation that drives you in the first place, and how you can succeed in whatever version of the real world you choose.

You spend approximately 25 percent of your life at work. There are so many books written on how to find and land a job but what about actually keeping a job? What about turning your first job into your dream job? Keys to on-the-job success?

I’m sick of people calling us—the Millennials—lazy, privileged, entitled, or the trophy generation. We’ve always waited for our time, and our time is now. Now we shine and show the world the resilience we have inside. This book is the first step. It will give you a path to follow, ideas to think about, and something to aspire to.

Each chapter of this book provides helpful strategies on how to handle and manage different aspects of that first, second, or third job. Those of you who are on your fourth or fifth job will have my next book to look forward to! We begin our adventure with some pillars of success and basic rules that I follow in every work-related situation. One of the most important parts of chapter one is the section on rejection—something our generation often has a difficult time with. Later, I will cover how to do a standout job on common entry-level tasks, and how to organize, prioritize, and maximize your time. I love chapter five because it’s all about building and managing relationships inside the workplace. Of course, I include a section on personal branding, using social media to your benefit, and share specific techniques for each social network in terms of managing your presence and your relationships online. In chapter six, “Oops, I Did It Again,” I cover common mistakes in the workplace, issues with coworkers and your boss, and how to ask for a raise or a promotion. The last chapters of the book are all about your personal life—as your work life is only half of the battle. It’s so important that you understand how to keep yourself balanced as you navigate this crazy time. Organizing your finances isn’t fun, but it’s absolutely necessary. And going to the gym may interfere with happy hour, but you’ll feel so much better if you make it a priority at least once or twice a week.

Once you are done reading this book, you will

•    Shift the way you think about the workplace and adopt a new set of rules to follow for success

•    Increase your confidence, determination, and ability to follow through at work

•    Think big and execute well every time

•    Better organize your work life, desktop, inbox, and mind-set

•    Efficiently prioritize your day-to-day tasks

•    Properly maximize the time you spend at work

•    Successfully create and manage your personal brand at work

•    Build lasting relationships with your colleagues and team

•    Navigate sticky office situations

•    Embrace entrepreneurship regardless of position, rank, or title

•    Develop efficient time-management techniques inside and outside the office

•    Raise awareness in regard to your personal finances

•    Separate your personal life from your work life

•    Increase your probability of getting promoted

•    Hopefully, take your boss’s job (one day)!

Almost all of the subjects I’m discussing here apply to any industry. I’ve had lengthy and transformative conversations with all kinds of professionals and successful executives in many different industries: Journalism, publicity, publishing, banking, sports, law, and media. We all had similar stories, made the same mistakes, and shared the same laughs. And every single person lamented that they never had a book like this to show them the ropes of the real world.

 

WE ALL HAVE A POINT of origin. A place we credit for our successes and our failures—a place where we become the people we are today. When it comes to our personal lives, it’s usually where we grew up or at least the place we call home. When it comes to our professional lives, that place is usually our first job. For some it’s at college, for others it’s at an internship, but for most it’s at our first jobs where we grow up, learn the ropes, make mistakes, and launch our careers.

People sometimes think that because I’m an entrepreneur, traditional career advice never applied to me. They assume that no boss means no rules and no structure. Not true. Without my first job, I wouldn’t be where I am today. If I hadn’t been able to watch my first boss organize her workload, manage her time, deal with coworkers, contacts, and clients, I’d have no idea how to manage my time, run my day, or proactively excel in running my business. No matter how successful I become I cannot deny the power of that very first job—my miserable, emotional, terrible, magical first job. I grew up at that job, I became a professional at that job, and without that precious first experience, I don’t know where I’d be today . . .

Let’s talk for a moment about the origin of this book. Once my first book, All Work, No Pay, was published, I thought to myself, what’s next? I brought myself back to those first years after college and asked, “What did I need the most help with?” Right away, I was stuck on the concept of exploring that first job. Just thinking about that experience made me roll my eyes and chuckle at the same time. In brainstorming the content for this book, I thought about all the different mistakes I made (there were so many), everything I would have done differently, and the biggest lessons that I learned over the course of my first job. I kept thinking to myself, “What do you want to tell everyone? How can you help them rock that first job?” I wrote down ideas for days! I have so much ground to cover with all of you, and I’m excited to jump right in.

Your first job, just like life, will be filled with moments of doubt and frustration, but also moments where you feel truly rewarded. As we travel together on this roller coaster, it will be crucial to remember that everyone has his or her own starting point. Everyone has an origin, and I’m here to help you with yours. And so we begin . . .