Fellatio: What She Needs to Know No one is a master of the blow job “from the get-go.” It is an acquired skill, and for many women an acquired taste. The secret is, don’t make any hard and fast rules. Let things develop in a way that is comfortable and exciting for you both. If you allow yourself the ultimate pleasure of both giving and receiving, you have a lifetime of erotic delight ahead of you.

Cunnilingus: What He Needs to Know You are about to devote all your tenderness and erotic attentions to what is probably the most tender and sensitive place on her body. This is not the time for the “macho” caveman approach. Let nothing be sudden in your approach. Take your time and use a slow hand.

The traditional position for cunnilingus. This allows her to completely surrender and enjoy the sensations. Intertwining your arms around her legs and pulling her toward you is a sexy “take-charge” move that lets her know you are in control and she is in for mind-blowing pleasure.

Half of giving him a great blow job is anticipation. Take your time working your way down and slowly unzip him. Give him a teasing smile. He’ll be ready to explode before you take your first long lick. Control his urge to thrust by gently but firmly pushing down on his hips to set the pace. Also, his thrusting usually means that he needs more stimulation. Increase mouth speed and pressure or bring your hands into the act placing one hand on top of the other and pumping his shaft.

Alternate between a few basic moves. Give her long licks with the flat of your tongue to build excitement. As her arousal peaks, flick the tip of your tongue across and in between her luscious folds or to circle her clitoris.

The best sexual technique is anticipation. You need to get her wet before you go down on her. Stroke her thighs, caress her breasts, and kiss her neck. Take the leisurely route. By the time you arrive between her legs, it won’t take much to bring her over the edge.

Take his erect penis into your mouth in stages. Mix it up. Part way in. Part way out. Don’t let him know your next move. Use both suction and a wet tongue to add variety to his sensations. If you intend to try to take him all the way in, do it slowly and without letting on what you are doing. You will be surprised to learn that he may not even realize you have done it. But once he realizes it, it will blow him away.

Don’t neglect his testicles as you lick his shaft. Cupping his testicles or a little ball play can take oral sex from great to mind-blowing.

Make the journey to the clitoris as long and as delicious as both of you can stand. Kiss your way up her thighs and use your hands and fingers to play with her folds and gently rub her clitoris. But don’t linger in any one spot too long. Too much too soon will turn her off rather than on.

Nearly every woman we have interviewed has agreed that oral sex is great, but oral sex with additional manual stimulation is amazing. Use your free hands to dance your way around her vulva and let your tongue slowly massage the harder tissues that are the rims leading to her vaginal opening. Encircle her vagina with your tongue, then dance away to her clitoris above. Simultaneously penetrate her vaginally with your finger and she will be in heaven.

Environment or a feeling of risk can make even the most basic blow job extra thrilling. The advantage of blow jobs is that they can usually be done almost fully dressed. So find a secluded spot, unzip him, and give him a thrill he won’t forget.

Cover your teeth with your lips and make a soft, cushioned “O” with your mouth. Use your tongue to keep things wet and exciting. You can also make the shape of an “O” with your thumb and forefinger and use it to rhythmically stroke his shaft as you suck on the head of his penis.

Take your time getting to her clitoris. Once you are there, here are a few things you will need in your repertoire: a slow languorous tongue that moves like a moist massage left and right or up and down, a dancing tongue that floats like a butterfly and lands like a kiss, and lips that can gently encircle this sensitive little nub and create sensual suction.

For a man, there are very few things more exciting than having his lover “sit on his face.” Use your hands to stimulate both her nipples and her clitoris.

Using your hand to stroke his scrotum and rub the length of his penis while you concentrate elsewhere with your mouth will multiply his sensations and the speed of his response. Stack one hand on top of the other and gently twist in opposite directions while you gently nibble on the head of his penis.

This is slow and sensual position that allows maximum comfort for your backs and necks. The sideways position also provides easy access if you want to get hands and fingers into the action.

Him on top allows her to surrender while still giving him plenty of pleasure.

Her on top may be more comfortable if he is significantly bigger than she is. This position also gives him a delicious view of her buttocks and the access for a little anal play as well.

Have her place the top of her head flat on the floor. She can leaning forward on her forearms with her head pressed against the inside of her interlocked fingers. He can stand behind her as she kicks one leg up and then the other. He can guide her legs over his shoulders as she kicks up. He lifts her up and holds her firmly around the waist while she wraps her arms around him. She can then take his penis into her mouth while he orally pleasures her.