Scientifically speaking, the anus is one of the most erogenous zones in the body for both men and women. It contains a proliferation of nerve endings, which can produce orgasms that have a very different quality than vaginal ones. The “back door” is also the entryway for the male G-spot otherwise known as the prostate. Whatever you are using for anal penetration, be it a finger, toy, penis, or strap-on, be sure to take it slow and wet with plenty of lube.
Finger penetration is great way to experiment with anal play. Start slow and gentle by caressing the curves of her buttocks, and then trace small circles around her anal pucker. When she is ready, insert your finger and gently pulse it. You might just bring her to a new level of orgasm. In order to have the most fun in the backyard playground, take things slow and easy at first. A single digit, well lubricated, is the way to begin. You will want to softly massage around the sensitive rim of the anus before you take the next step. If you tease your partner in this way, you will find the muscles of the anus relaxing and inviting you in.
Before you leap into intercourse, start with some toy play. Butt plugs (with lubricant) are a great way to get him used to the sensation of anal penetration. For a fun twist on oral sex, give him some anal play with your finger or a butt plug while you pleasure his member with your tongue and mouth. Use a flared butt plug for pleasurable penetration and for stimulating the male G-spot, the prostate gland. ALWAYS make sure any anal toys have a flared base so you don’t lose them AND that they have a generous amount of lube.
Kneeling positions offer shallower penetration, which may be ideal for those just beginning to explore anal sex. He uses his hands to gently position her to receive him. Take it slow and watch her cues. When she is ready for deeper penetration, she can back up onto his penis or reach back with her hands to pull his hips toward her.
In this position, she lies on her back and elevates her hips with a pillow under the small of her back. Throwing her legs back toward her face will bring her “rising star” within easy reach of her partner’s gentle thrust. His hands provide leverage and support and regulate the amount of pressure on her tender opening. Her hands can fine-tune his alignment and push and pull her partner as her desires command.
With both partners lying on their left or their right sides, she will be the one in front and will nestle the soft cushions of her buttocks into the nest of his groin. His knees between her legs will allow him to spread her legs to such an extent that he can slip his excited member deep inside her. By pulling her topside buttock toward herself with her hand, she can help spread her cheeks, thus offering her secret flower. With his free hand, it is a simple matter for him to reach in front and offer clitoral stimulation or a gentle pressure that snuggles her nestling body into his.
She kneels astride a mound of pillows and relaxes her breasts and face into the softness before her. With her knees well apart and her posterior thrust high in the air (supported by even more pillows), he can enter her and offer her slow, deep thrusting. He will need to support himself with his hands and perhaps other pillows to be able to lower himself slowly into her waiting cleft. His control is the key to her pleasure.
While he lies with his torso propped at about forty-five degrees, she kneels astride him. If she is fully open and aroused, this angle gives him leverage for rocking and bucking. Her astride position still gives her the control to lower and raise herself on his shaft and control the depth of penetration.
You don’t have to be part of a circus act for this one . . . but it would help. She is suspended upside down, facing her lover at precisely the right height to bring his throbbing member into her waiting rear passage. He is supporting her by holding her under her parted thighs, while she is taking some of the weight off him by grasping onto his legs. If you are fortunate enough to make this one work for just a moment, you can go to the head of the class.
Holding this pose long enough to actually have completed coitus is likely to be an impossible dream. Our advice for those who refuse to accept defeat is to find an alternate means of vertical support. A hanging harness could be just the ticket. Or if you happen to have one of those exercise machines that stretch your spine by turning you upside down on a padded board that swivels 180 degrees, you may have discovered the one use that makes the price you paid for it all worthwhile.
He reclines comfortably against pillows with his torso somewhat elevated and his proud member standing aloft. She backs carefully onto it until she is “sitting pretty,” using her arms for leverage. For this position, she will have to have both feet planted firmly on the bed in front of her and while leaning back, support her upper body with a hand on either side.
This reliable rear entry posture is best achieved if she slips a firm pillow under her midsection so that her buttocks are raised boldly in the air, enticing him and providing her with a great angle to accept penetration.
Bringing his face next to hers allows connection and communication about depth and speed.
In this position, the woman lies on her right side and, turning outward, she bends her left knee and clasps the leg, pulling it to her breast. Her partner kneels against her upraised buttocks and enters her. The twist of her body provides interesting sensations for both him and her.
In this delightful reversal of roles, he kneels beside the bed, as if saying his prayers, and bends over the side of the mattress with his posterior thrust high. By placing one knee on the bed and the other foot on the floor, she finds the right angle to give him exquisite pleasure and stimulate his prostate.
