Great sex is all about experimentation, and toys and kink are great ways to play with boundaries, reverse roles, and add playfulness to your lovemaking. For one thing, toys can vibe, angle, and add pressure in ways that fingers, penises, and vaginas can’t. Toys can also be used to spice up solo sex and add incredible sensations to hand jobs and oral sex with your partner. Kink play allows you to switch roles, breathing new life into familiar patterns and positions. So hit the “on” switch and bring the thrill back to your bedroom.

Lightly run the wand over and around your clitoris. For this move, you want to keep your panties on, because direct contact with the vibrator might be a little too intense. Keep the pressure light. Try simply holding the wand over your clitoris and letting it vibrate. If you are relaxed enough, this simple move will send ripples of pleasure through your body, and you won’t need to move a muscle.

Position the wand on pillows below you so you can move onto it from above. This relieves you of the job of holding it and more nearly approximates a woman-on-top position, and if you close your eyes . . . you are there!

Toy play is meant to be shared. Lean back in his arms and let him tease and explore you. He’ll be even more turned on than you are.

The P-spot is huge pleasure spot for him. If he is shy about anal penetration, you can stimulate it indirectly by running a vibrator over his perineum, those sensitive few inches between his testicles and his anal opening.

Often we spend way too much energy supporting our partner’s weight or our own during sex. A sex swing saves your knees, arms, and back and lets you explore sexual variations you never thought possible. Use the suspension to have her gently rock and bounce on your penis without having to support her weight the way you normally would in standing positions.

The G-spot can be hard to hit, even for the skilled lover. Using a dildo specifically designed for G-spot play will give you just the right angle for experiencing amazing orgasms and female ejaculation.

The secret is getting very relaxed and then slipping it in and moving in a smooth rocking motion with the right amount of pressure for your pleasure. Angle it toward the front of your body and firmly press. When you’ve found the spot, rock your wrist back and forth.

G-spot vibes come in all shapes and sizes, but be sure to find one with the distinctive curved shape at the head.

A penis sleeve may not be quite as amazing as being inside someone, but it’s as close to the real thing as anyone has gotten so far! Just add some lube and enjoy. The toy provides the kind of pressure that closely resembles oral, vaginal, or even anal sex with surprisingly accurate sensations.

Strap-ons are great for anal play, and he may find that just looking at your wearing it is a huge turn-on in itself. Be sure the harness fits well and the dildo is touching you in just the right spot to get a good clitoral rubbing while you are giving it to him good.

Take it slow and easy. Even just gently penetrating his opening by an inch (2.5 cm) can be hugely orgasmic for him. With strap-on play, all movements should start small and subtle. As he becomes more aroused, you can deepen penetration and thrusting one delicious inch at a time.

He loves to look at your naked body. He’ll love it even more if you make him wait to see it. Don some sexy lingerie and drive him crazy taking it off one piece at a time. If you really want to give him a show, touch your body and give him a XXX-rated striptease.

A little honey, chocolate, whipped cream, or maybe even some champagne may feel delightful on the body . . . and taste even better. Licking it off will provide some nourishment and plenty of sensual delight.

For some, pain is pleasure. If you are just starting out, go slowly and explore each other’s boundaries carefully. Most important, you and your partner need to designate “safe words” so you can slow down or stop the action if necessary.

Sex is about sensation play. Use a feather (or piece of silk or fur) to lightly tease her nipples and excite the nerve endings in her skin.

The beauty of bondage is that while your lover has you in his or her power, you have no choice but to give in to his or her sexual demands. Now is the time to lie back and enjoy it! Start experimenting with something like handcuffs, which can work well. Try lining them with fur or foam so they don’t cut into your wrists when you are in the throes of passion.