WHEN I ARRIVED IN LAREDO, TEXAS, during a late August afternoon in 1990, the houses were painted in shades of mustard yellow, baby blue, dark red, light green, dingy brown or a white color that had yellowed around the edges. I remember it well because it reminded me of a bad Andy Warhol painting. I had looked over Warhol’s work in the Memphis library only weeks before and, there I was, a sixteen-year-old girl driving through a shabby version of one his creations.
The ridiculously colored dwellings were caged in with wrought-iron fences spread between squared cinder block or brick posts. My mother and I drove through a sea of yellow grass, brown, scraggly bushes, palm trees, large, spiky plants and cacti. The scorched lawns of the houses came all the way to the street, leaving no room for sidewalks in the neighborhood.
Paint peeled down the sides of many houses in long, jagged strips. Bent chain-link fences hung orange and brown with rust. Basketball rims with wooden head-boards from the ’50s stood in the street without their nets alongside broken-down cars with missing hubcaps. We drove past a cemetery with hundreds of tombstones, each one covered in elaborate displays of floral arrangements and ribbons.
At the age of sixteen I wasn’t very impressed with Laredo, especially not with the neighborhood where my grandmother lived. As my mother and I drove on the rocky asphalt roads in our maroon Pinto, the pit in my stomach widened. We drove from the real world—what I knew as America—into another country, one that did not fit with my notion of what a U.S. city looked like.
Commercial businesses were being built along the main highway, but they were tire stores, local restaurants and clothing stores with names that I didn’t recognize—many had Spanish names.
My mother and I had never lived in a house. Our “homes” consisted of cheap, moldy, one-bedroom apartments on the run-down side of town . . . if we were lucky. The times we weren’t lucky, we stayed in carpet-stained, moth-eaten-sheets kind of hotels with drug deals going down in the rooms next to us. Our neighbors had been mostly black or white with a few Hispanics from Puerto Rico or Cuba mixed in.
Despite this—or maybe even because of it—I had a grand idea of what houses should look and feel like. They were in magazines, on television and in movies: houses were supposed to be made out of rusty red to light tan bricks, complete with tan, white or gray siding, and lush, green evenly mowed lawns. You could practically smell the fresh paint job, and the sidewalks that ran in front of the houses were being used by neighbors walking their dogs or kids riding their bicycles.
But that was not Laredo in 1990.
Little children played on the lifeless lawns while their brown mothers seemed to melt in the heat on plastic green and white lawn chairs. Men stood in groups, some with their shirts off, displaying black hairy chests tattooed with symbols and words that made my heart beat faster in fear. Others wore bandanas, and even the older men with salt-and-pepper hair stood on porches or on the lawns with beer bellies and hard eyes, watching our car as we passed.
We were a few blocks from my grandmother’s house when we halted at a stop sign that had black symbols spray-painted on it, none of which meant anything to me. Four men stood at the corner talking among themselves, but all at once they stopped to look at our Pinto. Their eyes stared through our cracked windshield, glaring at us, as if they knew we were not from Laredo . . . at least not me. They stood closest to my door, the one that never locked. I reached out slowly and held onto the handle, a naïve action, because if they rushed the car, I didn’t stand a chance.
Everything about the men put me on edge:their slicked-back black hair complimented their black mustaches and goatees, three wore stained wife-beaters with jeans and had tattoos up and down their arms. The oldest of the bunch—by some forty years—wore a gray work shirt that he left unbuttoned to expose an oil-stained T-shirt. The one closest to my door smiled mischievously and took a step forward. At that same time my mother’s foot finally found the gas and we left the men behind.
When the men were a block behind us, I turned to my mother and asked, “Is this safe?”
She laughed. “Is what safe, darling?”
“Is this . . . this area safe to be in?”
“Of course it is, Martha. You always ask this.” Her voice rose in a mocking manner: “‘Is Memphis safe?’ ‘Is Orlando safe?’” She huffed. “You really need to calm down. Your grandmother wouldn’t live somewhere unsafe.” Black sunglasses with silver rims hid her eyes as she smiled in a reassuring way. I wanted to barf.
Whatever. I leaned forward and adjusted the air-conditioning vent so that the cool air hit my sweaty face. I missed Memphis and its 97-degree weather. Memphis was like an igloo compared to Laredo’s 112-degree heat wave. I peeled my sweat-soaked shirt off my chest so that some air could make its way through the cotton and to my burning skin.
“I can’t believe you grew up here,” I said.
“What was that, honey?”
“Nothing.”
My mother shrugged, leaned forward and turned the music up. It was the only station that she could find that played some pop crap and not Mexican music. I slouched back in my seat and stared at the dashboard, trying not to look around at the next crappy city where we were going to live.
It was difficult to imagine my mother living in a place so . . . Mexican. With her Family Dollar-dyed blonde hair, her light skin and her inch-thick layer of make-up, she had worked hard to look as white as possible. She even refused to walk in direct sunlight for fear her skin would darken.
That day, my mother wore a tight red spaghetti-strap top that stopped just above her navel. Her boobs bounced up and down, ready to fall out of her tight top as she danced to a Madonna song. Her jean shorts were shorter than mine and hugged her butt tighter than a child could hug its mother. Below, her feet were encased in bright red heels. Someone had a funny sense of humor placing me with this woman.
“How much farther?” I asked.
“Just down the street. You’re going to love meeting your grandmother.”
A week earlier, my mother had come into our kitchen while I was drawing hands for my art class and announced that we were going on a “vacation.” We were going to visit my grandmother, whom I had never met before. She made it sound like a fairy tale, and I was Little Freaking Red Riding Hood. She started chatting on and on about how much fun it would be and how I would love Laredo. I knew it was her way of keeping me from asking questions: Have we been evicted again? What do you mean I have a grandmother? After a few minutes, I stopped listening.
We never stayed longer than two years in one place, moving from city to city. I had five spiral notebooks with drawings and scribbles chronicling the places we had stayed. My mother wanted to be rich, so we moved to any city where she thought she could do that: Atlanta, Boston, Memphis. . . . I’m sure we had moved a lot more in the years after I had been born, I just couldn’t remember. My youth consisted of moving from school to school, and friends were far and wide. I never owned more than could fit in my one large suitcase, which always sat next to my bed filled to the brim with all my clothes.
We definitely weren’t visiting my grandmother because my mother thought she could become rich in Laredo. I was sure we’d been evicted from our apartment in Memphis and didn’t have the money to go anywhere else. Memphis hadn’t been as successful for my mother as she had hoped. Waitressing part-time at a local diner never helped much financially barely paid for bills, and her boyfriends—musicians mostly—didn’t either. We had slept in our car in parks and campsites, on the way here; we had changed and washed up in gas stations that had rusty rings around the sinks, stained floors and blackened toilet bowls. I didn’t smell good, and my hair looked greasy from a lack of wash, which was only made worse from the dirty water I had to run through it at the last gas station.
My mother continued chatting. I tuned in halfway to something she said: “ . . . she’s a very sweet woman. Although she can’t speak English, she can underst—”
“Who can’t speak English?”
“Your grandmother, but she can understand you.”
“What do you mean?”
“I mean, she doesn’t speak English,” she repeated.
“So how the hell am I supposed to understand her? I can’t speak Spanish.”
She flipped her wrist in a backhanded manner, which made me grit my teeth in annoyance. That movement could be translated to many things: “Don’t worry” or “You’re crazy” or “No big deal” or “Oh, stop!” I wanted to slap her hand every time she did it.
“It’s so easy, and you’re so smart. You’ll pick it up in no time.” She thought flattery would make me feel better about anything. She used it so much that it had lost its power long ago, just like that damn smile she gave me.
My mother had this smile—the “Big Fake.” It annoyed the hell out of me. She did it when I was little, and for a while it worked, but as I got older I saw it for what it was, a lie. The Big Fake consisted of her lips rising as far as they could, making her cheeks pop out like a chipmunk’s full of nuts. Her shiny, white teeth would sparkle in contrast to her dark lipstick, and each time I had to hold back a gag. She used it on everyone, not just me. Each time she did, I saw the quiver at the edge of her lips, shaking more and more. She hated the Big Fake more than I did.
We turned onto Garfield Street. A few minutes later the car slowed down. We parked behind a gold Cadillac. I sat up in my seat and looked out the window.
“She lives here?”
My mother didn’t smile, but only stared at the house before giving a slight nod.
“You’re kidding me, right? My grandmother lives in a Pepto-Bismol-colored house?”
She nodded again.
God, it explained so much—like my mother’s preference for outrageously bright colors for clothes.
The pink paint, even chipped and faded, made the house stand out bright and loud next to the blue and brown houses on either side of it. Despite its humorous coloring, it called for attention and respect. Even the houses next to it seemed to be leaning ever so slightly towards its wooden frame. I looked up and down the street. None of the houses, as far as I could see, were pink like the one in front of us. Why would someone voluntarily paint their house that color?
My mother stepped out of the car, not waiting for me to get over my astonishment. After she shut her door, she stretched, pushing her breasts and butt out at the same time. You would have thought she did it for an audience, but the only people I saw around were two old ladies sitting on a porch on the opposite side of the street.
I slipped on my sandals and followed her. The intensity of the sun and heat slammed into me as soon as I stepped out of the car. It was 5 p.m. and still broiling? My mother had already moved to the trunk and begun pulling out my suitcase. I prayed to God that the person I found inside would not be an older version of the person I had been stuck with for the last sixteen years.
I reached into the trunk to grab one of mother’s suitcases when she batted my hand away.
“We’ll come back for mine later. I want you to meet your grandmother now.”
“But . . . ”
She ignored me and shut the trunk. “I’ll get it later, honey. We’re wasting time.”
Behind us, a door slammed. We both turned to my grandmother’s house. A girl around my age, maybe sixteen, or seventeen, wearing an oversized white T-shirt and blue jeans, made her way down the porch steps. Who was she? My mother stopped moving beside me.
The girl finally noticed us, stopped and stared. Her body stiffened. Her hands, which were at her sides, curled into fists. Her eyes darkened until it appeared that only black filled the white spaces. She was breathing heavily, boiling with anger. She looked over her shoulder at the house, then back at me full of malice. I flinched. She noticed, and it made her smile—a small upturn of the corners of her lips. After a moment, she stomped through the open gate and down the street, leaving me with an uneasy feeling.
My mother and I continued to watch the girl in silence. When the girl turned the corner and we weren’t able to see her anymore, the spell broke and I was able to move.
“Who was that?” I didn’t even know the girl, and yet the hate that had emanated from her eyes had turned me cold in the sweltering heat.
“I don’t know.” For once, her voice didn’t sound fake. Her forehead wrinkled in confusion as she continued looking at the place where the girl had disappeared.
I waved my hand in front of her face. “Hello?”
She blinked out of her trance and turned to me with the Big Fake. There was my mother.
“C’mon, let’s get out of this sun. I can feel my skin turning brown.”
As we walked up the steps to the cement porch, cramps assaulted my stomach. My mother had never spoken a word about her family before the day she told me we were going to visit my grandmother. For so long, I thought my mother and I were alone.
Questions ran through my mind. What would my grandmother look like? Would I look like her? Would she like me? Would we be welcomed or left on the porch homeless? Did she even know about me? But I didn’t have time to think about what was about to occur because my mother sat my suitcase down on the porch, opened the screen door and knocked. I stood behind her, a bit toward her right. I pulled one of the short pieces of hair that had fallen in my face behind my ear, even though I never put my hair behind my ears.
The porch was relatively small and felt crowded with all the potted plants on it. How had they not withered and died in the excruciating heat? Then again, I had seen an orange tree in the small courtyard, and it didn’t look dead. The plants bloomed in varying shades of green and yellow, and some even sported small clusters of flowers.
During my overview of the plants, I noticed a glass bowl with water sitting next to the door. Three limes floated on the surface.
“What’s with the limes?” I asked my mother.
She looked down to where I pointed and pursed her lips. “That’s not good.”
“What’s not good?”
The knob on the front door turned and I forgot about the heat, the plants, the limes. The door opened a few inches, an old woman’s head appeared behind the screen. I peered around my mother to get a better look, but the screen door obscured the woman’s face. She muttered something in Spanish that I didn’t understand.
“Mamá!” My mother said before she released a rampant flow of foreign words.
The woman opened the door a little more and peered around my mother. She nodded toward me with her head and then turned to my mother and said something in Spanish. My mother replied with more alien words, but somewhere in the flow I caught my name. The woman shook her head back and forth and turned slowly away. She left the door wide open as she walked into the house. My mother opened the screen door, picked up my suitcase and entered. She turned to see if I followed.
“Goodness, Martha, stop standing there. Get inside.”
“Since when do you speak Spanish?”
I had never heard my mother utter one word in Spanish my whole life, not even to the Puerto Rican and Cuban staff she used to work with at diners. And here she was, speaking as if it had been a daily practice. How could she have kept this secret from me? Instead of answering, she ignored me and disappeared into the house. I caught the screen door before it closed, released a huff of anger and followed her in.
As soon as I stepped through the door, I was overcome by a variety of odors. A mixture of something spicy and hot and a hint of musk, like the house hadn’t been aired out in years. It took my eyes a few moments to adjust to the dim lighting. I found myself standing in a small living room. On the opposite wall sat an old yellow couch with a brown coffee table in front of it. A shag carpet covered the floor. It might have been brown or a light brown and had darkened over the years with dirt and wear.
Next to the couch sat a blue, oscillating fan that pushed the hot air around the room. Another one sat in the far right corner. Tiny figurines, plates with pictures of angels, God, Jesus and Mary littered every shelf and table, even the floor. I stood in a small, Christian shrine. I looked around trying to take in every little object—a three-foot wooden statue of Mary holding a baby Jesus in the corner, the quilted blanket that lay folded on the corner of the couch, the many-colored candles halfway melted in their decorative holders.
My mother’s voice interrupted my inspection of the house. “Martha, come into the kitchen. I want you to meet your grandmother. And close the door, you’re letting the heat in!”
The heat was already in the house. I expected to be hit by the cold from an air conditioner as soon as I stepped in, but found ten-year-old fans instead, and they didn’t do much to cool the house down. Regardless, I turned and pulled the door closed. I would have locked it, but there wasn’t anything to lock.
My focus went to the doorway that my mother had disappeared through. Sunlight streamed into the dimly lit living room, causing the miniature, crystal statues on a table to sparkle. I couldn’t walk through. My grandmother was in the kitchen. My grandmother, a woman I had never met. My doubts had returned and had frozen my feet. My mother spoke on the other side. If my grandmother responded, I didn’t hear.
I took a deep breath and the ice that froze my feet melted a little. You got this, Martha. My heart beat faster and faster as I walked through the doorway and into the kitchen. I don’t know what I expected, but it wasn’t the burning smell of chilies. My eyes watered a bit, and through the tears I had my first look at the kitchen.
It had been painted a sunny yellow—a yellow kitchen in a Pepto-Bismol house. Everything in it had been painted varying shades of yellow: the walls, the chairs, the table, the cabinets—even the little hand towels were white and yellow. The only non-yellow things in the kitchen were the worn-out tan, floor tiles, the white linoleum counters and a large, square-shaped, white fan that sat on the table and blew a warm breeze.
During my overview of the kitchen, I spotted a few green peppers on a cutting board on the counter. A knife lay beside the board, just used and dotted with the seeds of the peppers. Strings of red and orange chili peppers hung on the opposite wall. Next to the chilies stood a door with a window from which the evening light shone. More pots filled with odd-looking shrubs and trees crowded around the door, making the kitchen appear smaller than it already was.
My mother, who leaned against one of the kitchen counters, broke the silence. “Honey, this is your abuela, María.” She gestured to the tiny brown woman sitting in a yellow chair in front of me. Her hands were clasped in her lap and her lips were pursed as she watched my mother with suspicious eyes.
“My what?” I asked.
My mother laughed nervously. “Your grandmother, honey. Abuela means grandmother. Your first Spanish word.” She gave me the Big Fake and gestured once more to the lady in front of me.
Even though my mother said it slowly, I couldn’t have repeated it back if someone had asked me to. My brain clouded out the Spanish, leaving me without a word to grasp onto.
As I turned from my mother to my grandmother, my palms began to sweat at my sides. The woman in front of me stood up and appeared to be studying me. I didn’t know whether to say hello or to give her a hug, although I didn’t really want to do that. She was a stranger. She walked toward me, stopping a foot away.
My grandmother didn’t reach my shoulders. I had to be more than a foot taller than her and her stocky figure made her appear even shorter. Her large breasts stretched against her thin, white blouse, and her large thighs stretched her orange pants tight. She tilted her head to study my face, and as she studied mine, I studied hers.
Her dark brown skin stood in stark contrast to her long, white hair, twined into a single French braid down her back. Her bushy eyebrows were the same color, and went every which way. As she studied me, she sucked on her teeth, and as she did this, her wrinkles moved up and down, revealing pale, crisscrossed lines between her wrinkles where the sun hadn’t tanned.
My mother had a small, button nose. I had always wondered if I had inherited my father’s nose, but looking at my grandmother now, I discovered the truth: she and I both had the same long, slender nose with a round tip and a small hook on the end. She even had a few age spots covering the bridge of her nose—the same place my freckles covered. She and my mother shared the same lips: small in width and slightly pointed at the peaks. Unlike my grandmother, my mother smeared hers with cheap, red lipstick. My grandmother’s eyes were the only pretty thing about her. The irises, honey brown, shone with youth and knowledge.
I guess she had finished studying my face, because she began to waddle around me, looking me up and down. I felt like a prized pig on display for a purchaser. I turned to my mother behind me and mouthed: What is she doing? Luckily my grandmother’s height kept her from seeing. My mother batted her hand at me as if to say, “Don’t worry.” I rolled my eyes and turned around to find that my grandmother had finished. She gave me one last look, her right eye squinting as if she could see me better that way, and then she mumbled something in Spanish under her breath. She shuffled over to the peppers, picked up the knife and began chopping.
I turned around, confused at my grandmother’s behavior. My mother whispered to sit down. I let out a sigh and walked to one of the chairs. A hollow feeling grew in my gut.
My grandmother didn’t even speak to me. I felt like something to be measured or studied. Did she not like what she saw? And why didn’t she speak to me or hug me or something? I didn’t think grandmothers behaved this way the first time they met their granddaughters.
My mother, without noticing my hurt feelings, spoke to my grandmother in Spanish. While she continued to chop her peppers. She never once looked at my mother. When my grandmother replied, her tone suggested that she didn’t care one way or another about whatever my mother said. My mother’s voice rose and she began to speak faster. She sounded like an angry woodpecker compared to my soft spoken, nonchalant grandmother. At one point my grandmother even put down her knife and flicked her wrist backwards at my mother making a psht sound. I almost dropped dead. My mother had inherited that gesture from her own mother. I held onto my hand in fear that I would begin to do the same.
My mother actually grew quiet when my grandmother made that sound. I watched as she took a deep breath and controlled her anger. She looked once more at the old woman and pleaded for something in Spanish. I assumed she begged my grandmother to let us stay. My grandmother replied tersely. I grew impatient and a little bored with the exchange. I wanted a shower, a bed to fall asleep in and something to eat. My stomach growled at the thought of food.
My grandmother’s response silenced my mother. She nodded her head Okay and then pushed herself off the counter. I stood up immediately.
Great, we were going to have to sleep in our car in Little Mexico. I couldn’t wash my hair in another gross gas station bathroom! I never cried, but I felt like crying then. Earlier I had thought this small house unsafe in a scary neighborhood, it now appeared to me as a four-star hotel.
My mother plastered the Big Fake across her face, but it faltered when she looked at me. “Honey, you look scared.” She rubbed the top of my arm.
“What are you doing?”
She drew her hand back and crossed her arms beneath her chest.
“We’re leaving, right?” I asked.
“No, of course not. Your grandmother is excited to get to know her granddaughter. And she’s making a special dinner just for you!” The corner of her lips rose, as if she thought smiling bigger helped.
“I doubt that,” I muttered.
“Well, believe it, honey. You and your grandmother are going to become so close. Now, you sit down. I’m going to go use the ladies room.”
“You didn’t need to announce that.”
I sat back down in the chair. With a smirk still on her face, she backed up toward a doorway I assumed opened to a hallway to the rest of the house. I had to do a double take, because she wasn’t giving me the Big Fake anymore. Her smile almost looked genuine. Which freaked me out.
“What?” I said.
“Nothing, honey. Love you.” She winked and disappeared through the doorway.
It always made me uncomfortable to hear my mother say the ‘L’ word to me. I glanced over at my grandmother, who still stood with her back to me. Something had changed: she had stopped chopping. She still clutched the knife, but her head hung down and her body had stilled. Then after a moment, she took a deep breath. Her back rose and, when she released the breath, she began to chop the peppers again.
I watched my grandmother as she continued to cook, suppressing all the uneasy feelings that assaulted me. I sat quietly in my chair, unsure if my grandmother even knew I sat behind her.
When she finished chopping the peppers, my grandmother stood on her tiptoes, opened a cabinet and pulled out a jar of white rice. She shuffled to the stove, which already had a large pot sitting on it. She sat the rice down and turned one of the knobs. From a pocket, she pulled out a match, lit it and placed it by the burner, allowing it to catch fire. I had never seen a stove that wasn’t electrical. My mother never cooked anyway, and at an early age, I became a protégé of the microwave. My grandmother’s kitchen lacked that magical food cooker, which made me a little uneasy. Regardless, I continued to watch my grandmother with something like fascination, since no one had ever really cooked for me or in front of me. She poured some rice into the pot, pulled a wooden spoon from a drawer and moved the rice around with it.
After watching her tend to the rice my attention wandered around the kitchen. Bright sunlight poured in through a window. It almost made me forget the stark, scary neighborhood that surrounded the house. For a moment, I felt safe with this stout woman, until the silence was broken by some shouts in Spanish, the slamming of a car door and the screech of tires on the road.
I jumped in my chair as my heart sped up. Yeah . . . safe my ass. If I didn’t get attacked by a creepy Mexican guy, I’d sure as hell get run over. My grandmother didn’t look up or hesitate at the sound, just continued to brown the rice.
It took my grandmother pouring the tomato sauce, water and spices into the pot for the realization to hit me. I wanted to stand up and march around demanding answers. I watched my grandmother pull out a bowl of already cooked chicken from the fridge, tear it into pieces and throw the pieces into the boiling pot. Her calm movements only infuriated the storm within me.
It had been long enough already. I knew this day would come sometime in my life, I just never expected it to be then. I thought it would be my decision, not my mother’s. The too-many times the thought had entered my mind before, I had locked it away. Things might have been easier for me if I hadn’t been in denial, but perhaps they weren’t meant to be easier.
It wasn’t until my grandmother sat a plate of rice and chicken and a mug of white milk in front of me, that everything came together, that I allowed the truth to hit me, gave it permission to cut right through me. The slammed door, the car, the screech, the yell, the Big Fakes, the “Love you,” her suitcases.
Suddenly, my hunger vanished.