Kin and Household
September 1319, Brigstock Court: Alan Koyk transferred a house to his son Richard, and Richard immediately thereafter transferred the same property to William Penifader. The house was described as nineteen-feet wide and sharing a wall, on one side, with Alan Koyk’s house and, on the other side, with Cecilia Penifader’s house. William received only the building itself, with no access to the farmyard around it. He paid the court 3 shillings and 4 pence for approval of his acquisition, and Gilbert son of Geoffrey stood as his pledge.
When Cecilia Penifader was a young child, the kin on whom she most relied were the people with whom she lived: her parents and her siblings. As she grew older, this straightforward situation changed. Cecilia never married, but if she had, she would have added husband, children, and in-laws to the parents and siblings of her childhood. This is what happened to her sister Christina after she married Richard Power of Cranford in 1317 and to her other sister Agnes after she married Henry Kroyl in 1319. Yet even without marriage, the meaning of kinship changed for Cecilia over time, as her parents died, several of her siblings married, and one sister moved away. By the time she was in her early twenties, Cecilia no longer lived with kin, and she had added brothers-in-law, sisters-in-law, nephews, and nieces to her pool of relatives. The nuclear kin of her childhood, the parents and siblings with whom she had eaten, worked, and slept, had been partly replaced by an extended kinship network scattered through many houses in Brigstock, Stanion, and beyond. For Cecilia, kinship was always important, but its meaning in her life was constantly changing.
Moreover, while kin were important to Cecilia, so too were the people with whom she lived, whether they were kin or not. Indeed, in Cecilia’s time, the Latin word familia and the Middle English word familie meant a household, not a group of people related by blood. Three things made the household a central part of peasant life in the Middle Ages. First, households were a basic unit of social organization. When the king’s officers arrived in Brigstock to collect food for the army or to levy taxes, they took food and taxes from households; when the vicar collected tithes, he proceeded household by household through the parish; when tenants had to agree on when and what to plant in each of the common fields, they met together as heads of households. Second, households were hierarchical places. Every household had a head (most often, a father and husband) who exercised clear authority over everyone else. This authority was recognized from without as well as within, for heads of households were often brought to public account for the actions of their dependents. Richard Everard understood this authority when he complained in 1316 about Robert Penifader and Cecilia taking hay from his fields (see the case that opens Chapter 2); he addressed his legal complaint to Robert because Cecilia, who was then a dependent in her father’s household, was Robert’s responsibility. Third, households were intimate places. People who lived in the same household shared many fundamental things, whether they were kin or not: they used the same bedding and ate the same food; they sweated in the same fields and worried over the same sickly lambs; they hungered together in bad times and feasted together in good; and by the time Cecilia was grown up, they also locked the door of their house against intruders. When Cecilia shared a household with someone, she shared the intimacy of day-to-day life and, at least in the short term, a common fate. Households, which often included non-kin and almost invariably excluded some kin, were as important as kinship in the daily life of the people of Brigstock.
Kin and Household in Childhood
The household of Cecilia’s childhood was about twice the usual size. Her mother Alice gave birth to at least eight children and raised six to full adulthood. Most mothers had fewer children, buried more of them in early graves, and saw only three reach maturity. In another respect, however, Cecilia’s household was likely to have been typical: like many other households in Brigstock, it was a nuclear family household, consisting primarily of parents and their children. Peasants elsewhere lived in different sorts of households. Stem family households—households that contained three generations (grandparents, parents, and children)—were also common among the peasants of medieval Europe. In some places, especially southern France and Italy, peasants lived in frérèches, households containing two or more married brothers with their wives and children. In most English villages, however, smaller households were the norm, and most were formed around a nuclear core of husband, wife, and children. Low life-expectancies partly accounted for the nuclear structure of households; since most people died in their forties, few lived long as grandparents. Housing and settlement patterns also contributed; houses could be built relatively quickly and cheaply, so it was easy to accommodate any aged grandparent in a separate house in the farmyard or village.
We do not know whether the Penifaders brought servants into their household, but it would not have been unusual if they had. (Servants, like underage children, were rarely mentioned in the Brigstock court, so we know frustratingly little about them.) Whenever the Penifaders needed an extra pair of hands, they had two options: they could hire a laborer to work by the day or task, or they could employ a servant for a year, offering room and board as well as some further reward (in cash or clothing) at the year’s end. Laborers were often hired to help at harvest or other especially busy times of year; servants were hired, usually beginning in the late autumn, whenever a household needed help on a long-term basis. Servants were common in Brigstock and elsewhere; in one well-documented village not far from Brigstock, more than a third of the households contained a servant.
Most servants were adolescents, learning new skills and earning a bit of money in the hope of someday acquiring land of their own and marrying. Associated with youthfulness rather than poverty, service was not demeaning; parents at all levels of medieval society sent their growing children away to live and work in other households. Even among the richest households, teenaged children were sent to monasteries; or married young; or served in the households of family friends. The practice both encouraged independence and ameliorated parent-child conflict. Among peasants, both young men and young women worked as servants, and they worked like everyone else in the household, doing whatever needed to be done. Servants in the Penifader household would have shared its general life, sleeping and eating alongside Cecilia and her siblings, and accepting, like all the Penifader children, the authority of Robert and Alice Penifader. While living in the Penifader household, a servant had a stake in its success; a bad harvest or poor lambing meant a troubled household in which to finish the service contract. The main distinction, therefore, between servants and children came from the link between kinship and inheritance; unlike Cecilia, a servant of the Penifaders could not expect to inherit land or goods from the household. Yet, because inheritance customs favored some children over others, Cecilia could not be confident of inheritance either, and some servants did, in fact, obtain bequests from their employers. In 1339, for example, Hugh and Emma Talbot of Brigstock arranged for their servant Agnes Waleys to inherit their house and farmyard. Agnes was not related to the Talbots by either blood or marriage, but she had lived for at least five years as a valued member of their household. Even in inheritance, then, the gap between children and servants could be a small one.
The cramped and smoky house of Cecilia’s childhood, then, contained her father (the head of household), her mother, her siblings, and a servant or two. More than likely, she had other kin nearby (a grandparent or some uncles, aunts, or cousins), but if so, they lived in other houses in Brigstock. Cecilia also saw her household expand in some times and shrink in others. Sometimes her parents might have earned extra cash by taking in a lodger or might have provided housing for laborers at the harvest. At other times, her siblings left home either to seek their fortunes elsewhere (as William did in 1308) or to settle in separate houses (as Christina did after she married in 1317). The size and shape of Cecilia’s household varied with time, but like most households in Brigstock, its nuclear core of parents and children looks surprisingly familiar to modern eyes.
Today, it is possible to touch medieval timbers blackened by the smoky houses of peasants like the Penifaders. But there are no archaeological remains, and precious few remains of any other sort, that can reveal whether these houses were filled with love and affection as well as smoke. It is tempting to dismiss medieval parents as indifferent or even cruel. For example, medieval parents readily beat their children with sticks and boxed their ears. Robert and Alice Penifader would have thought themselves negligent if they had not disciplined Cecilia in such ways when she misbehaved, and, indeed, all adults were ready to strike any bad child. For another example, medieval parents put their children to work at young ages. By the age of four, Cecilia was expected to mingle work with play—guarding hens and geese, supervising younger children, and taking on small domestic chores (see Figure 15). By the age of eight, when she was old enough to work without supervision, she took on a wider variety of tasks. In the house and farmyard, she helped with cooking, gardening, cheese-making, or brewing. In the fields, she weeded, goaded plow-teams, and waved hungry birds away from ripening grain. In the pastures, she guarded sheep against predators, herded them home, and made sure they did not feast in a neighbor’s garden. In the woods, she picked nuts and berries, searched out herbs, and collected fallen wood. When we think of a small Cecilia, beaten by her parents and busied by work at so young an age, it is hard to imagine that there could have been much love in the Penifader household.
But the evidence suggests otherwise. To begin with, Cecilia must have been carefully tended as an infant. If her parents had neglected her, she would surely have numbered among the 20 percent of infants who never reached their first birthdays. Most of these children died from diseases that no parent’s love could cure, but neglect could quickly hasten healthy infants into their graves. As a toddler, she was also closely watched by her mother or older siblings. Unwatched children tended to knock over pots of boiling water, fall into ditches, or tumble down wells. Clearly, then, medieval parents had to attend closely to their children; if they failed to do so, death or injury was a likely result. By this measure, the Penifaders, with the excellent survival rate of their offspring, seem to have been loving parents.
Moreover, neither child beatings nor child labor meant to the Penifaders what they mean today. First, although medieval children were beaten, so too were adults. Husbands beat their wives; parishioners whipped sinners around the parish church; and corporal punishment was built into the legal system. A miller or baker who cheated clients was put in the stocks, a wooden frame into which ankles or wrists (sometimes both) were locked. A cheating brewster (that is, a female brewer) faced the dire prospect of the cuckingstool, an instrument reserved for the punishment of women; it consisted of a chair set at the end of a pivoting bar from which a brewster would be exhibited to her neighbors and ducked in a pond or ditch. Every manor was supposed to have stocks and cuckingstool, and most people seemed to enjoy throwing rotten food, stones, and clods of earth at those whose misdeeds merited such punishments. Second, although Cecilia worked at a young age, neither she nor her parents would have equated child labor with child abuse. After all, Cecilia’s work was different from the child labor we now associate with factories in developing countries and sweatshops everywhere. Cecilia worked alongside her parents and siblings, and as she worked, she also played. For Cecilia and her parents (but less so for many modern workers), the boundaries between work and leisure were underdeveloped and fluid. As the Penifaders worked, they sang, told stories, exchanged gossip, and paused for meals and naps. As the Penifaders relaxed, they also spun wool, fixed tools, and otherwise finished small tasks. In a world that so mingled work and leisure, Cecilia worked as soon as she was able because everyone worked, and because working was, quite simply, living.
HOW DO WE KNOW ABOUT MEDIEVAL PUBERTY?
We have a lot of written evidence about medieval adolescence, but some of our best information comes from the bones of dead teenagers. Most have been excavated from London cemeteries, but some were buried in other cities and a few in rural parishes too. The analysis of these bones is not easy: the skeletons must be complete or nearly complete; they must show clear indications of biological sex (sex is hard to determine in skeletons of the very young and very old); they must have good dental evidence; and only after these criteria are met, can osteoarchaeologists—that is, archaeologists who study bones—use them to estimate when puberty began for these individuals and how long thereafter they reached full physical maturity. These requirements can quickly make a big sample much smaller. One study started with 994 skeletons aged between ten and twenty-five years at death. Of these, 645 could be assigned estimated age at death, based on their teeth. Of these, only 470 could be assigned a sex (as seems to have been common in medieval cemeteries—we are not yet sure why—the sex ratio is skewed: 283 males and 187 females). And of this precious subset of individuals whose age and sex could be determined, pubertal stage could be assessed for only 152 males and 84 females.
In forensic crime dramas, medical examiners wring amazing—and amazingly clear—results from their work with dead bodies. This makes for great fiction, but reality is messier, especially when working with the skeletons of the long dead. Determining the sex of adolescent skeletons is so hard that even the best indicators (mostly based on the pelvis and the humerus) are only accurate about 80 percent of the time. Seeing an injury in a bone is not the same as understanding its cause—so that, for example, a broken rib could be a injury sustained by work, play, or even fighting. And the dead are not always a clear reflection of the living. Because of extensive migration into towns, for example, urban cemeteries contain skeletons whose diseases and injuries might tell more about rural hazards than urban ones. And the “osteological paradox” is perhaps the biggest worry of all—namely, that a person who dies quickly of a disease will show no evidence in their bones, whereas the skeleton of someone who suffered from the same disease and survived will carry telltale lesions. In the face of these challenges, osteoarchaeologists constantly develop ever-better techniques, and they offset possible error by relying on multiple indicators drawn from large samples.
Back to puberty. In the human species, puberty proceeds in three main stages. First, both girls and boys grow taller, very quickly, and this growth spurt is indicated skeletally by, among other measures, the early development of the wonderfully named “hamate hook,” a tiny bone in the palm of the hand. Second, just after the peak of this growth spurt (PHV or “peak height velocity”), girls begin to menstruate and boys’ voices change. This stage can also be tracked in the hamate hook, which reaches full development just a few months before PHV. Third, growth slows, puberty ends, and individuals reach full biological maturation. Since the hamate hook is by then fully formed, some of our best evidence comes from elsewhere in the hand—from the fusion of bones that make up the fingers (the phalangeal epiphyses).
Using the hamate hook, the presence of phalangeal epiphyses, and a variety of other measures, osteoarchaeologists have determined that most medieval skeletons indicate a growth spurt beginning around ten to twelve years of age; PHV was reached at about fifteen years; and full maturity by sixteen to nineteen years. Compared to modern teenagers, medieval adolescents began puberty at about the same time, but took longer to mature. Medieval girls began menstruating at about fifteen years, roughly two years later than modern girls, on average. Interestingly enough, Londoners—both females and males—seem to have matured especially slowly, perhaps because medieval cities had poor sanitation and many diseases.
Bones also tell us that medieval adolescents worked very hard: many individuals, for example, had lesions in their spines (called Schmorl’s nodes) that were caused by carrying heavy loads. Girls had more respiratory diseases and more injuries to their legs and backs; these suggest that they spent a lot of time indoors (near fires) and doing domestic work. Boys had more fractures, perhaps caused by outdoor labor, and more traumas to noses, teeth, and ribs, perhaps caused by fighting.
WANT TO KNOW MORE? See particularly the research of Mary Lewis: “Work and the Adolescent in Medieval England AD 900–1500: The Osteological Evidence,” Medieval Archaeology 60 (2016): 138–70; Paleopathology of Children: Identifications of Pathological Conditions in the Human Skeletal Remains of Non-Adults (2018); and with Fiona Shapland and Rebecca Watts, “On the Threshold of Adulthood: A New Approach to the Use of Maturation Indicators to Assess Puberty in Adolescents from Medieval England,” American Journal of Human Biology 28 (2016): 48–56.
The love that Robert and Alice Penifader felt for their children can be seen most clearly in something practical: their attempts to provide for the future well-being of each child. All medieval villages had customs of inheritance. When a man died, his widow took some of the family lands as her free bench or dower, and the rest went immediately to his heirs. Most villages practiced either male primogeniture, whereby the first-born son inherited the entire family property, or male partible inheritance, whereby the family property was divided among all sons. Brigstock had its own rather unusual custom that divided the deceased’s lands between two sons: the youngest son inherited the lands his father had himself inherited, and the eldest son inherited the lands his father had purchased during his life. All three customs—male primogeniture, male partible inheritance, and what was locally called the “custom of Brigstock”—preferred sons to daughters. Women inherited only if they had no brothers, and in such cases, all sisters shared in the inheritance. Each of these customs of inheritance could leave some children without portions, and in such cases, parents often took great care to ensure the well-being of non-inheriting children.
This was certainly true of Robert and Alice Penifader. They began to provide for their sons early; in 1292, when Robert and William were just boys, they already held lands for which their parents were primarily responsible. In 1297, the Penifaders purchased still more land for Robert and William; in 1314, they gave some property to Henry; between 1312 and 1316, they gave lands to Christina on three separate occasions; and in 1317, they probably helped Cecilia acquire her first small properties. We do not know about provisions made for three other children: Emma, Alice, and Agnes. Emma and Alice seem to have died young. Agnes, the youngest child, seems to have received movable goods such as animals, furnishings, cash, or other commodities at the time of her marriage to Henry Kroyl in 1319. (As a rule, daughters were more likely than sons to receive portions that involved goods or cash as distinct from land; unfortunately, such gifts were rarely noted in the court records now available to historians.) When Robert died in 1318, two of his sons, probably Robert and Henry, were his primary heirs, but he had provided something for all of his living children, except for Agnes, the youngest. By the time Alice died a few years later, she had settled Agnes in a marriage to Henry Kroyl. The generosity of Robert and Alice Penifader toward their children reflected, in part, their relative wealth; poorer peasants gave their children goods instead of land, and still others could offer their children nothing. Yet the Penifaders’ generosity also reflects, it is fair to conclude, their careful and loving concern for their children.
Kin and Household in Adulthood
As Cecilia grew up, her household slowly changed in size and shape. By the time she reached her tenth birthday, her siblings were beginning to leave home. William went away to get an education, and Robert and Henry probably moved out once they acquired sufficient lands of their own. In these same years her sisters Emma and Alice seem to have died. Then her sister Christina married, a result of long and careful planning by their parents. In 1312, 1314, and 1316, Robert Penifader had gone into court and transferred properties to Christina—first a small plot, then thirty-six acres of meadow, and finally, four small bits of arable land. The next year, Richard Power of Cranford (a village located about seven miles to the south of Brigstock) married Christina. They lived briefly in Brigstock and then moved back to Cranford. Cecilia, just reaching her twentieth birthday, was left at home with her father, her mother, and her sister Agnes.
Then Robert Penifader died during the Great Famine, sometime before July 1318. Robert’s death left his widow Alice as head of a household that contained herself and her two youngest daughters. She reacted to this new situation in two clear ways. First, she married off one of their remaining daughters; within a year of Robert’s death, Agnes was married to Henry Kroyl. Second, she withdrew as much as she could from the usual obligations of a householder; for example, she regularly avoided going to court. Some widows assertively assumed the headship responsibilities vacated by their husbands, but Alice Penifader was not one of these. She settled one daughter in marriage and otherwise sought to be left alone. Cecilia might have stayed with her, perhaps in the house in which she had grown up or perhaps (if Robert or Henry had wanted to move into the old familial home) in another house nearby. In any case, this situation was temporary. Alice apparently lived only a year or so after Robert’s death.
For the next twenty-five years, Cecilia lived in Brigstock and Stanion as a singlewoman (singlewoman is a medieval term; for Cecilia, spinster meant “a woman who spins for a living”). She was well off, as her parents had left her with some properties, and she later acquired more. Before he died, Robert Penifader had stood pledge for Cecilia when she acquired a small plot and a rod of arable from Richard Koyk (a rod was one-quarter of an acre). Before she died, Alice Penifader watched as Cecilia acquired another half-rod, this time from John Tulke. Robert and Alice might have silently financed these acquisitions, and in any case, they left Cecilia with sufficient wealth to purchase still more property. By 1322, she held another rod purchased from Richard Koyk, as well as thirtysix acres of meadow bought from Ralph de la Breche. She acquired still more land in later years.
Cecilia’s parents, then, provided her with enough land and capital to sustain herself. They also left her with a supportive network of kin. For example, when Cecilia bought land, she often acquired properties that abutted those of her brothers or otherwise complemented their own acquisitions. When Richard and Alan Koyk were forced to sell land during the famine years, Cecilia and her brother William bought up several of their properties. In 1317, Cecilia purchased a plot from the Koyks that likely was adjacent to a property bought two months earlier by William; in 1319, in the transaction described at the beginning of this chapter, William bought a small house that lay between the houses of Cecilia and Alan Koyk (this purchase passed through the hands of Richard Koyk in order to guarantee that he, as his father’s heir, would not later challenge the sale); and in 1322, Cecilia and William each separately purchased Koyk land in what likely was an orchard (the field was called appletrees). In 1328, Cecilia and William together acquired one-eighth of an acre from Richard Everard, and Cecilia, William, and their brother Robert also each acquired land from John Tulke. Within a few years of her parents’ deaths, Cecilia managed properties that lay throughout the fields and meadows of Stanion and Brigstock, but these lands were not randomly scattered. With properties that often lay near those of her brothers, Cecilia could work the land with them—plowing, weeding, harvesting, tending sheep, and the like. She was better able not only to help them but also to seek their help in return.
Kin were also important to Cecilia when she had to go to court, which as an independent tenant, she did every three weeks. Each time she purchased land or transacted other business in the Brigstock court, she needed a man to serve as a pledge that she would do as she promised. Most men in Brigstock and Stanion could have done this favor for her, but she usually turned to the same person: her sister’s husband Henry Kroyl. Her brother Henry also pledged for her, as did John Kroyl, brother of Cecilia’s brother-in-law; all her other pledges were friends of her brothers. In other words, when Cecilia needed help in the court of Brigstock, she relied exclusively either on her brothers or on men well known to them.
Yet although kin were important to Cecilia, she was able to pick and choose among them. Cecilia reckoned kinship, as we do today, bilaterally through both male and female lines. She was an aunt, therefore, to the children of all her sisters and brothers. But she did not treat these children equally, for she seems to have paid special attention to the least advantaged of her siblings’ children—her two nieces (Matilda Kroyl and Alice, the bastard daughter of Robert) and John, the bastard son of William. She treated her siblings with similar discretion. She seems to have spent much more time with her brothers William and Robert than with her brother Henry, and although she dealt often with her brother-in-law Henry Kroyl and his brother John Kroyl, she seems to have had no dealings at all with the other Kroyl brothers. For Cecilia, kinship created a potential of relationship; in some cases, she developed the relationship fully, in others she maintained minimal contact, and in still other cases, she so ignored a tie of kinship that it did not matter. Kinship was a gentle web with some strong strands and others weak or broken.
In her life as a singlewoman in Brigstock, Cecilia must often have appreciated the support of this gentle web. She worked her lands in concert with her brothers; they assisted her in legal business, as did her Kroyl in-laws; and in the small ways that were so important but so little reported in court rolls, her brothers, sisters, in-laws, nephews, nieces, and other kin enriched Cecilia’s world. When she went to church on Sunday, she stood with female kin in the nave; when she sat in front of her house on warm evenings, she bounced nieces and nephews on her knees; when she walked about Brigstock and Stanion during the day, she shared food, chores, and gossip with her sister Agnes and her sister-in-law Isabella (wife of Henry Penifader); when she drank a pot of ale on May Day, she told old family stories.
For much of Cecilia’s adult life, however, the web of kinship that enfolded her so gently did not extend into joint residence. Many singlewomen, like many widows, lived alone in small houses, and perhaps Cecilia did the same. If so, she might have stayed alone in the house she had shared for a year or so after 1318 with her widowed mother. Since many other singlewomen lived together in twos or threes, it is also possible that Cecilia was able to live with women in circumstances similar to her own. Most probably, however, Cecilia lived by herself, possibly with a servant or two. If so, she was never far from kin. As described in the entry that opens this chapter, Cecilia’s unmarried brother William bought a house that shared a wall with her own home in September 1319. For the next ten years, he lived next door, perhaps even sharing a farmyard with her.
However she lived before, Cecilia’s living arrangements seem to have changed dramatically in 1336. In June of that year, she and her brother Robert combined their resources and their households. Robert gave Cecilia his lands; Cecilia gave Robert her lands; they agreed to hold all properties together and undivided. This arrangement suited them well. Robert, like Cecilia, never married, and they were approaching the last years of life. By combining their resources, they supported each other better as they aged, and they also provided more amply for whoever lived longer. According to the agreement, the survivor (it ended up to be Cecilia) was to enjoy the use of the combined properties. Just before Robert died, however, the agreement of 1336 was superseded by a new one. In 1340, he transferred his lands in Brigstock to Cecilia and his lands in Stanion to his illegitimate daughter, Alice daughter of Joan de Lowyk. Cecilia must have acquiesced in this new arrangement. In any case, for several years in the late 1330s, Cecilia and Robert, a singlewoman and a bachelor, combined their resources and created their own household.
Of the six Penifader children who grew to adulthood, William, Robert, and Cecilia did not marry. They were by no means chaste (William and Robert fathered bastards), but they never formed marital households with spouses and children. Although it was unusual for three children in one family to eschew marriage, neither singlewomen nor bachelors were uncommon. Some people did not marry for religious reasons, as was doubtless the case for William. Others were too poor or too mobile to marry; landless men and women who wandered the countryside in search of work often formed informal unions, but they were unlikely to have either the means or the need to marry (see Figure 16). Still others were deemed unsuitable for marriage, due to physical or cognitive disabilities. And others could have married but did not for reasons about which we can only speculate. (Sexual preference was likely only a minor cause of nonmarriage. We know much less than we would like about LGBTQ life in the Middle Ages, but it is clear that being attracted to one’s own sex did not preclude heterosexual marriage, which was as much about forming a functional economic unit as about sex or love.) Cecilia and Robert fall into this last group of people who had the means to marry but did not. They came from a settled family, they possessed ample lands, they were fully competent adults, but somehow—from choice, procrastination, or disappointment in love—they never took wedding vows.
During the Middle Ages, marriage united a man and a woman. The Christian Church had a few liturgies for uniting two men, but these created more a brotherhood than a marriage, and, to date, no such unions have been found for England. If Cecilia had cast her fate with marriage and a husband, her adult life would have developed differently, in terms of both household and kinship. Her sister Agnes provides a good contrast. When Agnes married Henry Kroyl in 1319, she moved from a household headed by her father into a household headed by her husband. In the first, she was a daughter; in the second, a wife; and in both, she was a dependent under the authority of a man. Agnes and Henry were married for thirty years or more, and they produced two children, John and Matilda, who lived to adulthood. They probably also kept servants in their household, at least occasionally. Agnes, in other words, more or less re-created the household of her childhood in the household of her marriage. Her position changed from daughter to wife and mother, but she spent her life in small, nuclear family households. Compared to Cecilia, Agnes’ domestic circumstances were much more stable and continuous.
As a married woman, Agnes also differed from Cecilia in her use of kinship. For Cecilia, her brothers William and Robert were important; for Agnes, these brothers seem to have mattered little. When Agnes went to court, the men on whom she most relied were her husband and two of his closest associates, his brother John Kroyl and his friend William Werketon. It was as if Agnes, having married, redirected her attention away from the Penifaders and toward the Kroyls. To be sure, she certainly visited with Cecilia and chatted with her brothers when she met them in the street, but when she needed help in court, she turned to Kroyls, not Penifaders. Interestingly, Agnes’ husband Henry made an equivalent transition. Before marriage, he relied often on his father, but after marriage, he became much more independent of paternal influence. In different ways, Agnes and Henry achieved similar ends: at marriage, they turned away from their parents. Their actions underscore how marriage created not just a new household but also, and this is important, a household separate from the parents of the new couple.
Just as we do not know whether Cecilia chose to remain unmarried or was unable to marry, we also do not know whether Agnes and Henry were sweethearts who married for love. Perhaps they were, for they would certainly have known each other from working together in the fields and from relaxing together on feast days. Brigstock and Stanion were too small for them to have been strangers. Agnes and Henry would also not have been strangers to love, perhaps not the courtly love that was becoming so popular among their social superiors, but certainly the companionable love of husband and wife. Some marriages were terrible; Agnes Pole of the nearby village of Houghton-cum-Wyton, for example, was so unhappy in her marriage that she publicly consorted with her lover and harassed her poor husband. Yet other marriages were affectionate and strong; in Brigstock, the love that one couple bore toward each other was daily recognized in the nickname, Truelove, of one of their sons. Agnes and Henry probably hoped for such a marriage when they married in 1319.
In any case, the decision to marry was not theirs alone. The death of Agnes’ father in 1318 seems to have precipitated the marriage, and a substantial land settlement by Henry’s parents in 1319 made it feasible. As everyone agreed in the Middle Ages, a good marriage needed much more than the loving consent of bride and groom. First, it needed to be economically viable—the bride and groom needed to have land, a house, and sufficient goods to set up on their own (see Figure 17). Parents almost always helped out. Henry’s parents arranged for the newlyweds to inherit from them a standard 15-acre landholding, and they likely also financed the purchase of a small property (a house, a farmyard, and six rods of arable land) that was given to Agnes as her dower. Agnes’ widowed mother Alice Penifader likely reciprocated by giving the new couple cash and other goods (some of her neighbors, we know from another case, gave their marrying daughter an unspecified amount of cash, a cow worth 10 shillings, and clothing worth more than 13 shillings). Second, a good marriage required the acquiescence of friends and neighbors. Friends helped to arrange the Penifader-Kroyl match (Henry’s friend William Werketon, for example, stood pledge for him when the Kroyls settled land on the new couple), and friends celebrated with feasting in the aftermath of the church wedding. One such feast in Brigstock cost 20 shillings, more than a year’s wages for a male laborer! Third, everyone also agreed that a good marriage required the approval of the Church; in every parish, the parson was expected to publicize the intended marriage to ensure that no impediments stood in the way and, then, to bless the marriage before the altar. So, although the consent of Agnes and Henry was a legally necessary part of their marriage, its full success also required the involvement of parents, the approval of friends, and the cooperation of priests. Moreover, had the Penifaders and Kroyls been ordinary serfs instead of privileged tenants of a royal manor, a fourth sort of consent would have been needed—that of their manorial lord or lady.
Agnes and Henry contracted their marriage in a proper and public way, but practice often fell short of the ideal, especially in terms of consent. On the one hand, sometimes young people were married without much regard to their own feelings and opinions. Parents at all social levels sometimes tried to force their children to marry people they scarcely knew, but this was particularly common among aristocrats. When, for example, the Duke of Aquitaine lay dying in 1137, he arranged to marry his fifteen-year-old daughter Eleanor to the heir to the French throne; she had not been consulted, but she duly obeyed. On the other hand, sometimes young people married without consulting their parents or anyone else. For her second marriage in 1152, Eleanor of Aquitaine selected her new husband herself, quickly and quietly marrying a young man who shortly thereafter became Henry II of England. Moreover, although everyone agreed on the desirability of parental approval, priestly supervision, seignorial consent, and community acknowledgment in making a marriage, the Church taught that none of these was essential. A man and a woman could contract a valid marriage by exchanging binding vows in utter privacy, especially if they followed the vows with sexual intercourse (as usually happened). Couples could be punished for contracting such unions (they came to be called clandestine marriages), but the bonds so forged could not be dissolved. Children could and did use clandestine marriage to contract unions of which their parents disapproved. One such case involved Margery Paston, daughter of a Norfolk gentry family, who married her parents’ bailiff in 1469, much to the horror of her father, mother, and grandmother. They tried to get the bishop of Norwich to declare the marriage invalid, but after examining Margery and her new husband about the exact words with which they had exchanged vows, the bishop declared the marriage a true one.
Kinship and Inheritance
In 1344, as Cecilia lay sick in bed, she called into her house three young people: her nephew John, the bastard son of her brother William Penifader; her niece Matilda Kroyl, the daughter of her sister Agnes; and Robert Malin. As they stood around her bed, Cecilia gave them a twenty-four-year lease on her lands. In so doing, she effectively disinherited (for twenty-four years) her nearest heir, and she picked among her siblings’ children, favoring some over others. Illegitimate children could make no claims of inheritance, but Cecilia chose to favor William’s bastard. Girls could only claim inheritance in the absence of brothers, but Cecilia chose to favor her only legitimate niece, Matilda. The big puzzle is Robert Malin, who had settled in Brigstock eleven years earlier and whose relationship to Cecilia is unknown. He might have been a nephew born of an illegitimate liaison; he might have been the husband (or betrothed) of a niece; he might have been tied to Cecilia by friendship or service rather than blood. In any case, when these three young people gathered around her, Cecilia sought to manipulate kinship for one last time.
Her efforts failed. After her death, two juries met to discuss the proper deposition of her properties. The first jury judged conflicting claims of inheritance: one made by her sister Christina and the other made by her nephew Martin, son of Henry Penifader. Christina was declared the nearer heir; she and her husband Richard Power took the lands. They immediately transferred about half the land to the disappointed Martin, a move that suggests that an out-ofcourt arbitration had resolved the dispute by dividing the inheritance. A second jury then dealt with the claim of John Penifader, Robert Malin, and Matilda Kroyl to a twenty-four-year lease of these properties. The lease was declared invalid. A custom of Brigstock manor, designed to avoid disputes about deathbed bequests, required that anyone who transferred land from a sickbed had to be well enough thereafter to walk out of the house. Since Cecilia never left her house after she granted the lease, her gift to John, Robert, and Matilda was void. This second dispute had a nasty edge to it: Cecilia’s proper heir (Christina) and the eventual holder of some of her properties (Martin) claimed that the lease was invalid because Cecilia had not been mentally capable at the time of the gift. The jury rejected this claim. In their view, Cecilia had been sound in mind but weak in body.
As Cecilia’s kin argued over her lands, her cognitive health, and her last actions, they acted out the oldest and most enduring story in peasant communities: the story of inheritance, kinship, and land. Cecilia was free throughout her adult life to purchase and sell lands at will, without regard to the claims of any future heirs. She was also free throughout her adult life to use kinship in flexible ways, ignoring some kin, dearly loving others, and perhaps sharing a household with still others. But as she lay dying, these options ceased. The gentle web of kinship had one strand that always ran strong and true: the tie between blood and inheritance.
Suggestions for Further Reading
For a broad overview, see Peter Fleming, Family and Household in England (2001), as well as Barbara A. Hanawalt, The Ties That Bound: Peasant Families in Medieval England (1986). For marriage and sexuality, see Elisabeth van Houts, Married Life in the Middle Ages, 900–1300 (2019); Ruth Mazo Karras, Unmarriages: Women, Men, and Sexual Unions in the Middle Ages (2012) and her Sexuality in Medieval Europe (3rd ed., 2017); John Boswell, Same-Sex Unions in Pre-Modern Europe (1996). For primary sources, see Jacqueline Murray, Love, Marriage, and Family in the Middle Ages: A Reader (2001). For customary law, see L. R. Poos and Lloyd Bonfield, eds., Select Cases in Manorial Courts 1250–1550: Property and Family (1998).