Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Epigraph
Preface
Beginnings
How we can be possessed by a story that cannot be told
On laughter
How praise can cause a loss of confidence
The gift of pain
A safe house
Telling Lies
On secrets
On not being in a couple
A passion for ignorance
On intimacy
The bigger the front
Loving
At home
How paranoia can relieve suffering and prevent a catastrophe
On the recovery of lost feelings
Why parents envy their children
On wanting the impossible
On hate
How lovesickness keeps us from love
Changing
How a fear of loss can cause us to lose everything
How negativity prevents our surrender to love
On losing a wallet
A change in the family
Why we lurch from crisis to crisis
On being boring
On mourning the future
How anger can keep us from sadness
On being a patient
Going back
On bearing death
Leaving
Through silence
On closure
On waking from a dream
Sources and Notes
Acknowledgements