6. Learn to enjoy the silence

In order to hear what’s happening on an inner level, we have to cut back as much as possible on the external racket. Start becoming aware of the continuously high noise levels you are subjected to every day.

It often begins with the nerve-jangling clamor of the alarm clock, the buzz of an electric toothbrush, or the blast of a hair dryer. This is followed by the drone of the latest news report or the babble of morning talk shows. Then comes the revving of car engines, and the honking of horns in rush hour traffic.

Our days are often filled with the nine-to-five sounds of ringing telephones and office equipment, not to mention the countless interruptions of coworkers, customers, and bosses. Even if you work at home, there can be a constant din from which there is seldom any respite.

On weekends there’s the often ear-shattering roar of lawn mowers or leaf blowers. How can we possibly hear ourselves think?

Often we can’t. We’re stressed by all the noise in our day-to-day lives—frequently without even being aware of it. At the same time, we’re so used to it that it’s hard for us to imagine being without it.

As you begin to go within, you’ll want to eliminate as much of the outer commotion as possible so you can hear your inner voice.

There may be some noises you won’t have any control over—such as traffic or the festivities of neighbors. But you can start by creating as much quiet in your own space as possible.

Learn to wake up without an alarm. Go into your right brain mode (#30) as you’re about to fall asleep, and simply visualize yourself waking up at whatever time you choose.

Try going without the TV or stereo for periods of time. Also, leave your Walkman at home when you’re walking or exercising, and keep your radio and tape player off, especially when you’re driving. Bask in the silence, and use that time to simply be with the moment rather than letting those forms of entertainment distract you from your inner life.

Turn off your phone. Let your answering machine silently pick up messages, which you can listen to at your convenience.

Arrange a formal retreat (#95) or a private weekend of solitude at home (#93) so you can start tuning in to the joy of silence.

If you haven’t been used to it, silence may seem strange at first, but you’ll gradually come to treasure it. Eventually you’ll find it indispensable for your inner search.