Chapter Seven: Create a Safe Place for Loving

[1] “All night long” expresses the full force of the Hebrew. G. Lloyd Carr, The Song of Solomon: An Introduction and Commentary, Tyndale Old Testament Commentaries (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 1984), 105.

[2] The perfect verb “qal” is often translated “grasp, take hold, take possession.” F. Brown, S. R. Driver, and C. A. Briggs, Enhanced Brown-Driver-Briggs Hebrew and English Lexicon, electronic ed. (Oak Harbor, WA: Logos Research Systems, 2000), s.v. “qal.”

[3] Tremper Longman III, Song of Songs, The New International Commentary on the Old Testament (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2001), 130–131.

[4] Dennis Rainey, Lonely Husbands, Lonely Wives: Rekindling Intimacy in Every Marriage (Colorado Springs, CO: Focus on the Family, 1989), 17.

[5] Adapted from Rainey, 15.

[6] Harville Hendrix, “Ten Ways to Get What You Want,” Family Circle, April 1, 1992, 31.

[7] Mike Mason, The Mystery of Marriage (Portland: Multnomah, 1985), 95.

[8] W. E. Vine, M. F. Unger, and W. White, Vine’s Complete Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words (Nashville: Nelson, 1996), 184.

[9] W. E. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words (Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 1981), s.v. “thalpo.” See Deuteronomy 22:6.

[10] Hebrew word sakan (see 1 Kings 1:2).

[11] Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2000), 185.

[12] Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs, Motivating Your Man God’s Way (Grand Rapids, MI: Love and Respect Ministries, Inc., 2003), 45.

[13] Robert Lewis and William Hendricks, Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage (Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress, 1991), 120–121.

[14] W. Arndt, F. W. Gingrich, F. W. Danker, and W. Bauer, A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament and Other Early Christian Literature: A translation and adaptation of the fourth revised and augmented edition of Walter Bauer’s Griechisch-deutsches Worterbuch zu den Schrift en des Neuen Testaments und der ubrigen urchristlichen Literatur (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1996), 1062.

[15] Robert Lewis and David Boehi, Building Teamwork in Your Marriage, The HomeBuilders Series (Loveland, CO: Group, 2001), 46–47.

[16] Dr. Laura Schlessinger, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands (New York: HarperCollins, 2004), 145–146.

[17] Tommy Nelson in Simply Romantic Nights, by Dennis Rainey and others (Little Rock: FamilyLife, 2000), 14.