Index

Abundance, 50, 54–55

Allowances, 85–88

Alternative investments, 41–43

Anabolic energy, 55, 62, 145

Asset-based pricing, 35–37

Asset protection, 29

Assets under management (AUM), 35–37

Attorneys, 29, 30, 31, 34

Atwood, Joan, 66

Avocational work, 21

Baker, Dan, 84

Bankers, 34

Banking systems, 32

Benchmarks, 141–145

Britt, Sonya, 66

Brokerage systems, 32

Brown, Brené, 4

Buffett, Warren, 90, 92

Burnout, 4

Capital: experiential (play), 127–128, 141; intellectual (mind), 130, 142; physiological (health), 129–130, 141; social (relationships), 128–129, 141; spiritual (purpose), 130–131, 142; vocational (work), 128, 141

Carrey, Jim, 6

Catabolic energy, 54–55, 58, 114

Certified financial planners (CFPs), 18

Certified public accountants (CPAs), 1, 18, 29, 30, 31, 34

Charitable contributions, 15, 29; connecting with charities, 10, 111–112; as trusts, 29, 46. See also Generosity; Philanthropy; Trusts

Chartered financial analysts (CFAs), 2, 18

Children: allowances for, 85–88; bank accounts and debit cards for, 88; education for, 19, 50–51; and family budget, 88; financial education for, 86–89; financial support for, 92–94; hopes and expectations for, 7, 50–52; impacts of affluence on, 20, 21, 22, 34, 83–84; inheritance questions, 94–96; and money issues, 83–84; setting expectations, 92–94; talking to kids about money, 84–86; teaching to invest, 89; and trusts, 97–98; and work, 89–91

Coaching approach, 34

Company stock, 40–41, 59–60

Compassion, 15, 107, 111

Complexity, 27–28, 47; situations contributing to, 29

Conflicts of interest, 32

Core values, 101–102, 137. See also Values alignment

Cotter, Dave, 109–110

Counseling approach, 34

Custodial arrangements, 29

Debt, paying down, 19

Do-it-yourself (DIY), 18, 27, 31–32

Donor-advised funds, 29, 46

Education: for children, 19, 50–51; financial, 86–89

Einstein, Albert, 54

Emotional intelligence (EI or EQ), 49

Emotional stress, 16–17

Energy, 55; anabolic, 55, 62, 145; catabolic, 54–55, 58, 114

“Enoughness,” 8–9

Estate planning, 94–96

Ethics, issues of, 14–15

Exchange-traded funds (ETFs), 33

Experiential capital, 129, 141

Family. See Friends and family; Marriage; Relationships

Family mission statement, 85

Family office, 2

Financial advisors, 18, 31–32, 34–35

Financial capital, 127–128, 141

Financial consultants, 31–32

Financial education, 86–89

Financial planners, 31–32

Financial planning, 8–9

Financial priorities, 69–71

Financial safety, 16–17, 92

Financial services industry, 31, 33

Finology, 35

Fixed fees, 36–37

Foundations, 29, 46

Freud, Sigmund, 89

Friends and family: financial support for, 80–82, 107–108; healthy relationships with, 65; and money issues, 75–79; paying for things, 79–80; social capital, 128–129. See also Children; Marriage

Furnham, Adrian, 66

Gates, Bill, 45, 92

Generosity, 9–10, 15, 21. See also Charitable contributions; Philanthropy

Giving Compass.org, 46

Giving Pledge, 45

Goleman, Dan, 49

Guilt, 34, 52–54, 60

Health and wellness, 4, 129–130, 141; mental health, 4, 129

Hedge funds, 29

Hero’s journey, 113

Hettig, David W., 68

Higher calling: and identity, 114–116; journey to find, 118–121; and life purpose, 113–114; maximizing your return on life, 122–123; and the reason for existence, 116–117; and your unique contribution, 118–121

Higher power/God, 62, 116, 117, 122

Ideal outcomes, 22, 103

Identity, 114–116

Impact investing, 44–45

Income tax minimization, 29

Index funds, 33

Inheritance, 94–96

Insider trading, 40–41

Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), 54

Insurance agents/brokers, 29, 30, 34

Intellectual capital, 130, 142

Investing Your Life framework, 125, 131, 137, 145–146

Investments: alternative, 41–43; company stock, 40–41; with a conscience, 43–45; environmental, social, and governance (ESG) factors, 44; illiquid, 29; robo-, 32–33; strategies for, 29

Investment theory, 38

Isolation, 13–14, 15, 24

Jealousy, 53

Kenny, Robert, 83

Kierkegaard, Søren, 116–117

Koblas, David, 68

Kurtz, Marty, 35

Liability, 29

Life and disability, 29

Life balance, 3

Life meaning, 21, 23, 130

Life portfolio, 125–126, 127; benchmarks, 141–145; building your life portfolio, 131; experiential capital, 129, 141; financial capital, 127–128, 141; intellectual capital, 130, 142; investing your life, 145–146; living fully, 126–127; money supply, 134–137; physiological capital, 129–130, 141; price targets, 139–141; research, 137–139; social capital, 128–129, 141; spiritual capital, 130, 142; taking stock, 131–134; vocational capital, 128, 141

Life Portfolio Assessment, 142

Life purpose, 21, 113–114, 130, 137–139

Limited liability companies (LLCs), 29

Living fully, 125–127, 131, 148

Living Fully audit, 132

Loss, protection from, 19

Luthar, Suniya S., 13

Marriage: determining financial priorities, 69–71; and money, 66; “my money” vs. “our money,” 72–74; role decisions in, 66–67; spending and saving decisions, 68–69; values alignment, 71–72

Mayer, John, 49

Mental health, 4, 129

Millennials: expectations and measurement of success, 7; and impact investing, 44–45; and socially responsible investing (SRI), 44

Money: conscious vs. unconscious, 57–58; and dating, 74–75; defining “enough,” 8–10; determining financial priorities, 69–71; keeping quiet about, 78–79; and marriage, 66; “my money” vs. “our money,” 72–74; role decisions, 66–67; spending and saving, 68–69; as success, 4–5; values alignment, 71–72. See also Wealth

Money EQ: assessment of, 58–63; conscious vs. unconscious money, 57–58; ownership vs. stewardship, 55–57; relationship with and emotional response to money, 10, 49–52, 144; scarcity vs. abundance, 54–55; shame and guilt around money, 52–54

Money EQ assessment: caution, 60; concern, 58–60; content, 61–62; control, 60–61; diagram, 59

Money history, 50–52

Money management. See Wealth management

Money supply, 134–137

New money, 11–12

Old money, 11–12

Ownership, 55–57

Parkinson, Cyril Northcote, 92–93

Philanthropy, 21, 22, 29, 85; connecting with charities, 10, 111–112; managing, 45–47. See also Charitable contributions; Generosity

Philanthropy advisors, 46–47, 111

Physical health, 4, 129–130, 141

Physiological capital, 129–130, 141

Play, 129, 141

Portfolio managers, 29. See also Wealth management

Powers, Kirsten, 6

Price targets, 139–141

Private equity, 29

Private real estate, 29. See also Real estate

Professional team/advisors, 29–30; attorneys, 29, 30, 31, 34; bankers, 34; certified financial planners (CFPs), 18; certified public accountants (CPAs), 1, 18, 29, 30, 31, 34; chartered financial analysts (CFAs), 2, 18; financial advisors, 18, 31–32, 34–35; financial consultants, 31–32; financial planners, 31–32; insurance agents/brokers, 29, 30, 34; philanthropy advisors, 46–47, 111; portfolio managers, 29; stockbrokers, 30, 31, 32; trusted advisor, 34–35; wealth coaches/confidants, 24, 53–54

Real estate, 29, 39, 49

Registered investment advisors (RIAs), 20, 32

Relationships: determining financial priorities, 69–71, 108–109; financial support for family and friends, 80–82; friends and family, 75–77; intimidation and empathy, 77; marriage and money, 66; money and dating, 74–75; paying for things, 79–80; with people with similar financial means, 77–78; values alignment, 71–72

Renewal Funds, 57

Restricted stock units (RSUs), 38, 40

Retirement planning, 18, 19, 29, 34, 56, 66

Risk: affordable amount, 19; correlation with returns, 38; embracing, 122; exposure to, 29; lowering of, 38–39; tolerance for, 33, 40; and values, 110–111, 120

Robo-investing, 32–33

Salovey, Peter, 49

Saving, 8, 17, 19, 23–24, 27, 45, 65–70, 72, 107, 134; children and, 85, 87, 88, 90–91

Scarcity, 50, 54–55

Schneider, Bruce, 54

Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC), 32

Shame, 34, 52–54, 78

Significance, 6, 7, 21

Social capital, 128–129, 141

Social Venture Partners, 46

Socially responsible investing (SRI), 43–45

Solomon, Joel, 57–58

Spending, 5, 8, 9, 19, 20, 45–46, 51, 56, 59, 60, 65–67, 70, 72, 85, 102, 107–108, 134; children and, 85–88; and saving, 68–69

Spiritual capital, 130, 142

Start-ups, 5–6, 49

Stellar, Jennifer, 15

Stewardship, 9, 55–57; and children, 89

Stockbrokers, 30, 31, 32

Stock market, 20, 38–39. See also Company stock

Stock option exercise timing, 29

Success: beyond money, 5–7; defining, 4, 102; measurement of, 36; and money, 4–5; redefining, 6, 7–8

Tax issues, 29, 33; filing your own, 30–31, 47

Tax loss harvesting, 29

Taylor, Lynn, 102

Taylor Protocols, 102

Trusted advisor, 34–35

Trusts, 29, 95, 97–98; charitable, 29, 46

Twist, Lynne, 56

Unethical behavior, 14–15

Values alignment, 71–72; fear factor, 109–111; putting your money where your heart is, 111–112; values discovery, 103–104, 105–106; walking your talk, 104, 107–109; what do you value most?, 101–102

Values discovery questionnaire, 105–106

Vocational capital, 128, 141

Vocational work, 21

Wagner, Richard, 35

Wealth: classifications of, 31; effect on personal life, 21, 34–35; and guilt, 14; and identity, 114–116; and isolation, 13–14, 15; and life purpose, 21, 113–114, 130, 137–139; maximizing your return on life, 122–123; pitfalls and risk factors, 13–16; and the reason for existence, 116–117; sudden, 12–13; transfer strategies, 29; and your unique contribution, 118–121

Wealth coaches, 24

Wealth confidants, 53–54

Wealth creation, 11, 16–18; vs. money management, 37–40; risk perspective, 38

Wealth creators: accidental millionaires, 12; characteristics of, 11–13; jobs attractive to, 12; as new millionaires, 11–13; as “new money,” 11–12; and “sudden wealth” events, 12–13. See also Generosity

Wealth life cycle: diagram, 17; phase 1: creating wealth, 16–18; phase 2: managing wealth, 18–20; phase 3: relating to wealth, 21–24; understanding, 24–25

Wealth management, 2, 18–20, 29–30, 31; approach to risk, 38–39; and complexity, 29; cost of services, 35–37; do-it-yourself (DIY), 27, 28, 31–32; finding trustworthy professionals, 31–32; need for professional help, 30–31; need for sophisticated advice, 33–35; vs. wealth creation, 37–40

Wellness, 4, 129–130, 141

Windfalls, 12–13, 23, 56, 73, 94, 121

Work: avocational, 21; value of for children, 89–91; vocational, 21; as vocational capital, 128; wealth creators’ preference of, 12–13