Sexy Girls

chapter 4

THE ART OF

THE BODY

Tattoos and piercings.

Another thing you have to consider in creating your image is body art. You can do so many things to your body to “improve” it, I guess. Lots of people just can’t feel complete without a few more earrings, an eyebrow ring, and a tattoo of their favorite animal. And it’s all part of the marketing campaign that tells the world who we are and how we want to be thought of. For the purposes of this book, I’m not going into the ethical value of using the body as a blank canvas. If you feel a need for eyebrow piercings or a nose ring, you’ll have to take that up with your parents and any prospective employer that might have a hard time hiring someone with metal all over his or her face. Some people can handle it; others can’t. But what I am going to talk about is piercings and tattoos that are sexual in nature.

Yes, some body art is created for sexual arousal, not just fashion. The belly button ring, for example. It isn’t just the latest fashion statement; it’s a sexual statement. It’s like this: Remember how what you’re showing immediately goes onto a menu that guys feel they can now choose from? Okay, have you ever been to a restaurant where they put little icons by their best-selling items so they can get your attention with the best of the best? Well, getting a belly button ring or a tattoo in the small of your back just above your pant line is like putting up a sign for the special of the day. It lets everyone know that this area is your featured best seller. In your marketing campaign it’s the one thing you want the world to know about you. I know, to you it just looks cute and cool and oh so hip, but to the rest of the world it’s just a featured item symbol. Those sexual kinds of body art were created expressly to sell the sexuality of the area where they are placed.

The tongue ring is a blatant example of the sexual body art piece. When a guy sees your tongue ring flashing from between your teeth, he’s imagining how amazing it will feel on his body. If that’s not what you got it for, then you might be totally grossing out right now, ’cuz that’s exactly what it’s for. And if you knew about this little nugget of information before you got your tongue ring and you got one anyway, you’re either a tease or a sexual girl. If this is you, don’t expect your romantic dreams to come true. Don’t expect guys the world over to be so excited that they all want to shower you with gifts of affection and battle for your undying love. To make yourself a sexual object is to kill a part of you that was created expressly for relationship. God didn’t create you to be some boy’s toy. He didn’t create you to meet the sexual needs of random guys. He made you to be a girl with purpose, someone who will change the world for good just because she lives in it. He made you for one man and one man only, and that man won’t be too happy to know that you shared yourself with other men just to get the feeling of being loved.

DEAR CURIOUS, Belly button rings are cute, I agree. They are not only cute but they are sexy. My one question for you is, what is your goal in wanting one? To show it off? I mean, really, why get one if you aren’t going to show it off? But the trouble with that is, it gets guys all excited. A belly button ring is a sexual decoration, plain and simple. You might say, “I’m not going to show it. I’ll just know it’s there.” To that I say, but I bet you’re going to tell people about it. And that’s almost as bad as showing it. It’s a tummy tease. You don’t need a belly button ring unless you want to make your stomach more sexy. And sexy stomachs drive men crazy. So it’s up to you. What’s your goal? And who do you want to be? Hayley

Here’s how God’s Word puts it: “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2 NIV). So change. Get over what the world says you were created for (the sexual fulfillment of guys) and start to explore what God says you were created for—much, much, much more than that! “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV).

“My wife just started a girls’ group to help them look at the way they dress. She calls it ‘The Navel Academy.’”

—Confessions of a Youth Pastor

All right, I’ve had my rant. I’m done harping on the little hottie who wants to sexually excite every guy she sees. I want to get back to the average girl, the one who didn’t mean to turn on every guy she encounters. The girl who really wants to be obedient and follow the commands of God. I want to get back to the believer who knows God’s Word to be true but just didn’t know how it applied to everyday things like body art. If you have pierced or tattooed and are starting to feel convicted, don’t let the enemy take you down. What you did before you knew the truth is forgiven. It’s over. It’s water under the bridge. The only thing you have to do now is to repent—that is, to change. To go in a different direction. If you have a sexy tattoo, keep it covered up. Don’t flaunt it anymore. If you have a belly button ring, take it out. The only reason you need it is to solicit the sexual attention of guys. And if you don’t want to be about that anymore, then be done with it. I don’t know how to put it any more clearly. Any piercing or tattoo that is strategically placed on a sexual part of your body achieves only one thing: it gets sexual attention. If you want to change your image, then get rid of the old ways. Become a new person.