1. Infidelity is completely destabilizing. However, once discovered it provides an opportunity to put a relationship back together in a way that not only makes it better but, also, ultimately more satisfying.
2. Really listen to one another and understand where each of you is coming from. Don’t hold anything back but at the same time don’t yell and scream.
3. Don’t make any quick decisions. There will be setbacks but, with patience, these can be overcome and your relationship put back on the road to recovery.
4. During the dark times, stay around positive people. You can learn to trust again.
5. It is better to hear the truth, however painful, than to be told sweet lies. (If the Discovered is determined to continue contact with the third party, let him or her go. The affair will more than likely self-destruct. However, it is extremely hard for your relationship to survive if your partner has promised to end the relationship but is discovered to be still unfaithful.)
6. The aftermath of an affair provides the opportunity, determination, and focus to completely overhaul your relationship.
7. Forgiveness is a gift to yourself and frees you for a better tomorrow.