“Grasping” here means ignorance as it misunderstands an object in the moment. We enter a pastry shop and see a single maple-coated donut left on the tray.

Temporarily blinded by our feelings for maple-coated donuts, even those of us who to some extent understand the Great Mistake begin to grasp, despite ourselves. Grasping doesn't mean grabbing the donut, or even wanting it a lot. It just means looking at it the wrong way: It's out there, on the tray. It's there because someone baked it. I will get it because I have money. None of which is true.

Now it's not wrong to like donuts. Spiritually advanced people en-joy things like donuts a lot more than we can. The very ability to like and dislike is what gets us enlightened: I like peace, I don't like pain, I dislike seeing people suffer.

Heaven itself is bliss, not some place where yogis sit around trying not to enjoy anything. But there's a difference between smart liking and stupid liking. How do we tell them apart?

Here's a test. An elderly lady behind you says to her husband, “Maple's my favorite!” Do you like the donut enough to leave it for her?