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AS I MENTIONED IN THE introduction, I’ve worked with women on relationship issues for the past two decades, so I have a pretty good grasp on what they find sexy in a man. Do you think it’s a nice butt, smile, money, or a big package under his zipper? Actually, that’s not the case.
What women have said again and again is that they find confidence the sexiest thing about a man. This is different than a big ego and arrogance, which happen to be total turnoffs. Or, you could have looks, money, and a fabulous car, but if you have the self-confidence of a high-school nerd you probably won’t see much action.
Maybe you’re a nice guy but your confidence level isn’t all that great. You want more dates with attractive women, or to even find your elusive Ms. Right, but how do you get sex appeal and keep it?
Follow A High Protein Diet
Eat foods that are high in protein such as lean red meats, chicken, fish, beans, low-fat dairy, and nuts. They can boost testosterone levels, increase energy, and help you maintain a healthy body weight.
It’s nice to know that you don’t have to gag down tofu and brown rice just to stay healthy since studies have shown that a proper high protein diet is one of the healthiest around. And, a healthy body is very sexy!
Regularly Lift Weights
Lifting weights just three times a week helps to increase muscle mass and will have your libido and confidence levels skyrocketing. Start out slow and with less weight then build up over time. Firm arms and a toned body will add greatly to your sex appeal.
Alternate a day of weightlifting with a day of aerobic exercises such as spending time on the treadmill, elliptical, or jogging around the neighborhood. By giving your muscles a day off to repair themselves they’ll get bigger than if you work them out every day.
Get A Style Makeover
If you continue to buy clothes that are best left in the last decade or earlier, it’s time for a style makeover. Trash those acid washed jeans or pastel polos and go for something more up-to-date and classic.
You only have one chance to make a good first impression on a woman so be sure you don’t look like you just stepped out of a time machine. Look through some clothing catalogs online and see what other guys are wearing then buy yourself a new outfit or even a new wardrobe.
Be sure to find a style you can stick with though. If you’re older, dressing like much young guys will just make you look ridiculous.
Always Act As-If
Finally, put the above tips together and add a healthy dose of “as-if.” In other words, even if you’ve never felt confident or sexy before, start acting like you are.
Pay attention to some of your favorite actors, how do they walk and talk? What hand gestures do they use? What do you notice about their facial expressions and other mannerisms? Practice some of these moves in the privacy of your own home then go out in public with your new personality. Try it out on waitresses and cashiers first until you get the hang of it.
No matter where you’re starting from, you can have great sex appeal and confidence if you just follow these simple tips. There’s no reason to stay home alone on the weekends or be passed over by women if you know how to present yourself.