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AS I JUST MENTIONED in the information above, women rank confidence as the sexiest thing about a man. No matter how you look, if you radiate confidence women will find you sexy. Even if you’re painfully shy and introverted, you can learn to be confident.
13 Ways to Be More Confident
1. Whenever you sit or stand, be sure to have a comfortable pose. Lean back in your chair occasionally. Try not to lean forward since it makes you look like you’re seeking approval.
If you’re standing, don't cross your arms over your chest. Instead, lean against a wall, doorjamb, bar, etc. Use your hands when you talk, put one hand loosely in the front pocket of your pants, or hook a thumb in your belt loop. Your other hand could be holding a drink or hanging loosely at your side when you aren’t talking.
2. When talking, be sure your tone is calm and measured, not too fast or high since that makes you seem nervous and unsure. Think of some of the sexiest men in the movies right now. They usually speak more slowly and with confidence.
3. Avoid apologizing too often. If you did something wrong or hurt someone, a simple apology is enough, but men who are insecure tend to apologize far too often and for too many things. Women won’t respect a man who’s always saying he’s sorry about everything from the weather to the price of gasoline.
4. Don’t fill every moment of silence with mindless chatter. Confident men are comfortable talking and being quiet. During those silent moments take a measured look at your surroundings then meet her eyes. Once you’ve locked gazes you could give her a sexy smile or say something if you feel the need.
5. When speaking, don’t allow others to talk over you. Gently yet firmly say, “Excuse me, I’d like to finish.” Also use a stronger tone than you normally would if you’re trying to get your point across. You want women, and others, to respect you. A confident man would never let someone verbally run him over.
6. Having a hearty laugh is seen as more masculine and natural than a nervous snicker or no sense of humor at all.
7. Show that you’re interested in what she's saying by facing her. Confident men focus all their attention on the person they're attracted to rather than sitting sideways or looking around the room. You don’t have to keep a laser-like focus on her eyes, just be certain to face her way and look at her periodically as she talks.
8. Stand up straight with your shoulders back, your stomach pulled in, and chin slightly high. Practice this confident stance and walk until it feels natural. Have you seen guys with low self-esteem? They usually slouch, look at the ground, and try to blend into their surroundings.
9. Find some power words to add to your vocabulary and use them. Avoid weak words like, “I don’t know. I’m sorry. I can’t. I don't know. Maybe.” Replace those wimpy words with things like, “I’d really like that. I’m just the guy for the job. Let’s do it. You bet I can.”
On the other hand, don’t always be a yes-man. If you don’t want to do something, firmly yet politely say no.
10. Speak and move with energy and a smile. Men who aren’t confident usually walk with their heads down, a frown, and operate at a low energy level or are filled with nervous energy.
11. Always have a firm, though not crushing, handshake. This alone can speak volumes about your confidence level. Insecure men have a “dead fish” handshake and those who want to dominate others tend to act like their hand is a vice grip. Yes, even women like it when you shake their hand! When you do, meet her eyes, smile, then release your hand.
12. Wear clothes that make you feel confident. Avoid anything too baggy, too tight, outdated, or falling apart. You don’t want to dress like someone you’re not but do try to look your best when you’re out. This can be as simple as clean jeans and a T-shirt, or a three-piece suit, depending on your personal taste and the situation. After all, you never know who you’re going to meet.
13. Practice good hygiene. Keep your hair and nails trimmed, get your teeth whitened if they need it, and take care of your skin. While you don’t need to be a real-life version of Christian Bale’s character in American Psycho, women are attracted to men who take care of themselves.
Keeping all these tips in mind may seem overwhelming, but in time they’ll become second nature and you’ll exude more confidence than ever before. Ladies will be attracted to you and life in general will get better and better as your confidence level rises. Have you ever seen a successful man with low self-confidence? Nope.