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THERE ARE A LOT OF false assumptions about what makes up a true sex addict. Do you think you may be addicted to sex or do you just have a higher than average sex drive? Look over the following information and you may be surprised!
1. The true sex addict uses sexual stimulation to cope with stress. This stress may be in the form of a tough job, problems in a relationship, financial worries, or childhood traumas. While it’s true that the average person can use sex to blow off some steam, the addict always uses sex as a stress-reducer.
2. For people who are addicted to sex, they find that they can't stop their sexual behavior even if they want to. It's like a driving force they have no control over. Many times, it starts to take over their lives and ruin parts of it.
3. The difference between having a high sex drive or being a sex addict is simple: the person with a high sex drive is satisfied with sex. If your partner isn't in the mood you won't take it personally or feel an overwhelming need to masturbate or look at porn.
4. Masturbation is the most common of all sexual addictions. Sometimes it can branch out into the person becoming addicted to pornography or seeking out many sex partners, but most of the time it starts out as being addicted to masturbating. Whether the addict masturbates once a day or ten times a day, if there's a driving need to do it then it's an addiction.
5. Pornography is usually present in the sex addict’s life. They create a fantasy world they can visit any time where they're never rejected. Sadly, this can often take the place of real relationships or destroy any relationship the addict may try to pursue since the addict prefers masturbation and pornography to real sex.
6. Like any addiction, it takes time, patience and counseling for a sex addict to overcome their addiction. In time, if the addict is serious about recovery, they can heal their lives in all areas—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. They can then move on to real and meaningful relationships.
If you believe you or your partner is addicted to sex, seek help and guidance. Also, be honest and open with your partner so the two of you can work on it together. Hiding an addiction or pretending it doesn’t exist will only make matters worse.