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IF YOU’VE EVER CHEATED or are tempted to do so, you'll want to pay attention to these warning signs and subconscious triggers that lure you. Infidelity can ruin a good relationship and should never be a way to add interest to a boring relationship or leave a bad one. But are men simply hardwired to cheat? Is it in your genes? Or is this just an excuse?
Procreation
All humans, especially men, have a basic, primitive need to procreate. Even if all you had access to was your caveman-like reptilian brain, you’d still instinctively want to have sex to keep the human race going. Of course, we’re at a point in history where the planet is overpopulated, but there’s no way to turn off that “go forth and multiply” switch. It can be controlled though.
Subconscious
You could have a program deeply embedded in your subconscious and feel you really have no control over cheating. Perhaps your parents had a rocky marriage and one cheated on the other, or maybe their bad marriage has made you fearful of a long-term commitment.
So, you go from woman to woman, or subconsciously sabotage your relationships by cheating so they won’t last. Once you become aware of why you cheat you can then begin to work on that part of yourself and become monogamous.
Conscious
You had an argument with your lady, you’re bored, or you’re no longer attracted to her. So, you make a conscious decision to have an affair. You may not think that this is a conscious thing, but it is. No affair “just happens.”
If you haven’t learned by now, you soon will, that infidelity just makes things worse. Being in the arms of another woman can only satisfy you temporarily, but it doesn’t do anything for the rest of your life or your failing relationship with your partner.
Whether yearning for an affair ends up a fantasy or a reality, by cheating you are always putting your relationship at risk. The more honest you are with your own feelings as to why you cheat or want to cheat and how you can resist it, the less you’ll be lured by the thrill of infidelity.