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Chiron in Virgo

Core Wounding in Managing Physical Health and Routines

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Wounded Chiron Feels

Broken

Unable to cope

Neglectful of one’s self-care

Hypochondriac

Healed Chiron Feels

Self-nurturing

An ability to follow healthy routines

An ability to have fun

Joyful

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In 1995 under the influence of Chiron in Virgo, the World Trade Organization (WTO) was formed to monitor U.S. international trade decisions. Our government’s proactive shift to protect and stimulate the health of our economy, while providing boundaries for us to have productive trade relations with other countries by establishing the WTO, exemplifies the healing of Chiron in the sign of Virgo during that transit. The core wounding to our country at that time had to do with neglected and insufficient boundaries that were a threat to the safety of U.S. trade relations.

Generation Z kids born with Chiron in Virgo have, on the one hand, grown up in a highly sophisticated media and computer culture, yet have underdeveloped face-to-face interpersonal social skills as a result. Healing this generation’s psychoastrology will be found through developing and maintaining healthy interpersonal connections. What does Chiron in Virgo mean for you personally?

If Chiron is in the sign of Virgo in your natal chart, your core wounding affects all of the aspects surrounding your physical health and the establishment (and maintenance) of healthy routines. Your personal and professional lives may be out of balance and feel overwhelming to you. You may experience moments of thinking you are somehow broken. Yet you are unsure of what to do or how to heal. This causes you some mental confusion and emotional turmoil.

You are known to have a dedication to service and love for teaching and healing, combined with a revolutionary spirit. This is positive! Also working in your favor is that Chiron has a natural affinity for the sign of Virgo and feels at home here. This is because Chiron is the embodiment of self-healing. Therefore, Chiron in Virgo begs you to grow in the areas of your personal health, self-healing, and the maintenance of those routines. Ask him to help and guide you in these areas.

Because you are such a dependable provider, teacher, partner, parent, employee, and friend, the uncertainty you experience about not knowing what to do to help yourself is deeply disturbing to you. The key to your healing is found in learning to nurture yourself. This encompasses the consumption of good food, getting enough sleep, and the physical enjoyment of exercise, adventure, and pleasure, including sex.

It’s important to know your limitations (it’s okay to have them), because by setting limits you transcend maladaptive coping mechanisms that you may be suffering from, including restrictive dieting, addictive habits, or workaholic tendencies.

Deep down you have known that routines that leave you depleted from overworking are neither healthy nor sustainable. And you understand that there is a deeper issue at hand. You don’t like to disappoint your loved ones, and you fear that if you take the time to care for yourself you might let them down, so you keep pushing through, ever hoping to catch a break.

What I want you to let into your consciousness right now is that your loved ones want you to be happy, healthy, and refreshed every day. They don’t want you to be depleted and empty. When you are scraping the bottom of the barrel, you, like anyone else in this predicament, are raw, edgy, easily agitated, and exhausted.

I know that you intellectually understand the importance of self-care; however, you overlook and neglect your own needs, violating your inner knowing of what it means to care for yourself. Conversely, you will voluntarily make yourself available to help others. Burnout is on the horizon, if you are not there already.

If there is an imbalance between output and input, that disparity over time will be damaging to every system of your body. The deeper issue is centered on the unfortunate belief that if you give and give and give, then you will feel good about yourself and, in turn, be loved and valued by others.

You may believe that doing for others is how you referee self-criticism and judgment, and thereby compensate for feelings of low self-esteem. Defense mechanisms such as sublimation and compensation work temporarily, giving you a false sense of happiness and security.

You are able to heal your psychoastrology and come back into alignment by learning to set boundaries and self-validate. This is accomplished by restructuring your routines to include adequate rest, nourishment, healthy exercise, fun, joy, and pleasure. Enjoy your productivity, which can include meaningful ways to be of service that energize you instead of depleting you.

A place to begin insourcing self-approval is by implementing a daily practice of identifying qualities that you genuinely like about yourself. Say them aloud, write them down, and add to the list daily if possible. Over time these seeds will grow into generous doses of self-love and acceptance and will feed your inner garden.

As you regularly give voice to what you approve of about yourself, this self-affirmation practice becomes an energizing force in your life. This practice of acknowledging yourself facilitates a fundamental paradigm shift from a focus on what is lacking to a focus on what you appreciate. This consciousness shift will bring more positivity and levity into your life. You are creating a foundation to build on by maintaining this daily gratitude practice. We actually learn more quickly and with longer-lasting effects through encouragement than through criticism. Our teachers, schools, family, peers, culture, and the media have told us the opposite, but research shows otherwise.

One such paradigm is a coaching mind-set approach taken from a strength-based model. I recall this perspective from my undergraduate years in the 1990s. Although people do not usually know they are drawing from this model, it is widely used today in life coaching, psychotherapy, counseling, personnel management, executive coaching, and energy healing.

The strength-based model is a social work practice theory that emphasizes an individual’s self-determination and strengths. It’s a philosophy that views people as being resourceful and resilient in the face of adversity.

To begin applying the model right now and shift into healthier routines immediately, take out a paper and pen, and let’s complete the following inventory. Set a timer for fifteen minutes and write out a list of your strengths, which include all of the qualities you like about yourself.

Some examples may be all of the ways you enjoy helping people by being of service to others at work, home, and play. It may be the resilience you have developed over the years in your chosen career. It may be the way you are able to keep people organized and on track with their goals. Make an exhaustive inventory, knowing that you can always add to this list as you develop additional insight and awareness.

Once you have completed an exhaustive list, go back through it and put a star next to the strengths that may deplete you, even though those strengths appear to be beneficial (at face value). Examples of what strengths might be depleting you may be some of the ways you sacrifice for others. For instance, at the expense of your own responsibilities, you may stay up late to help your partner or child with a project on deadline. Keep going down your list, and place stars next to the strengths that also keep you from adequately maintaining your own health and well-being.

Now let’s get creative by adjusting some of your perceived strengths so that you can maximize your energy and desire to be of service without compromising your health. We want to augment the ways you are prone to denying yourself the basic things that you need to be and stay healthy.

Self-neglect and deprivation can be dangerous to your health when left untreated. In response to the starred items on your list, some potential solutions would be, for example, to consider letting that person know that staying up late to help him or her with a project deadline leaves you feeling depleted and unable to address the responsibilities you face in the morning.

Ask if there is another time, or another person, whom they could ask for help instead. Often others closest to you are not aware that the help you freely offer also depletes you. So this exercise is really all about looking for ways to set boundaries for yourself.

To conserve energy for your own healing goals, setting boundaries is necessary. You may have derived your self-esteem entirely from being of service to others. Identifying new ways to self-validate, without giving so much of yourself, will help you create inwardly sourced self-esteem.

Maybe you can begin to delegate to others around you some of the tasks you’ve been taking care of by yourself. Maybe you can enlist the help of someone who will champion the nuts and bolts components of an event so you can focus on other activities that might give you more flexibility in your schedule.

Instead of completing every component of an event yourself, perhaps others could work to find and secure funding for the event, and could promote the event. Or you may enjoy the more detailed work of a project, so delegate management duties to someone else. If that is the case, you can complete your portion of responsibility and leave others to their tasks.

By shifting your responsibilities and delegating to others, you open up space in your calendar and establish routines to look after your mental, physical, and spiritual health in ways that your core wound has prevented you from doing before.

With Chiron in Virgo, your core wounding also affects your belief system as it pertains to balancing your health and well-being and associated maintenance routines. Looking for solutions through the lens of a new paradigm, such as the strength-based perspective, could be a helpful and practical exercise you can try for yourself. Additionally, by bringing your entire household on board, you will be able to more consistently maintain the changes that you have identified and are implementing.

Since you don’t live in a vacuum, it can help to share what you need with others in order to be happier and healthier. Individuals who love and support you will want you to take care of your health. As part of the plan to care for yourself, enlist individuals to help you with accountability. Again, we need trusted individuals in our lives to be our accountability partners; they act as touchstones for us. Reach out to them, and let them know that you would like to have them be part of your support team.

If left untreated, the hidden shadow aspects of your core wounding can cause you to act in ways that trigger ridicule and criticism from others, instead of the sensitivity and understanding from them that we desire. The Chiron in Virgo individual can be excessively concerned about his or her personal health and daily routines to the point of hypochondria. Hypochondria is defined as an abnormal anxiety about one’s health, especially an unwarranted fear that you have a serious disease. This can drive people away from you instead of drawing them in. Seek proper medical and mental health treatment to cope with fears, worry, and hypochondria.

Another potentially unconscious shadow aspect of the core wounding of Chiron in Virgo is that you may be a serious workaholic. You may recognize that, to the exclusion of other responsibilities, you are out of balance and simply trying to put out fires to stabilize the various areas of your everyday life and routines. You spend a disproportionate time at work. Both the health risks and a host of documented chronic health issues can be the result of physical neglect, coupled with stress brought on by overwork.

To establish a healthy baseline for yourself, try working with various professionals to treat either hypochondria or stress-related health disorders caused by overwork. It’s important to hold yourself within a framework of compassion and loving kindness. There is no place for judgments or criticisms as you begin your healing work. Unconditional love can serve as a healing balm for grounding you in the sensation of health and well-being. Allow yourself a supported and gentle place to land mentally and emotionally as you address your behaviors and begin to lay the foundation of your healing journey.

image Takeaways

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“I can be flexible.”

“I am healthy and whole.”

“I can have balance.”

“I am creating a life of balance.”

“I allow time for myself, and time for others.”

“I allow for imperfections.”