ARE YOU STARTING TO SEE A PATTERN? Perhaps you can relate to some stories in this book.
Consider this your morning wake-up call.
Now it’s time to activate your plan, because knowledge is only power when applied.
As for me and my “dating” experiences, I’ve had my eighty-five shares of “breaking of the bread” and now I’m ready to eighty-six myself out of dating.
“Life is a canvas,” as Tess described, and I’m very busy painting a beautiful, enriching, peaceful landscape for my life.
1. Do either one of you keep score for past mistakes?
Yes
No
2. Instead of stating a desire, do either of you simply hint in the direction of what you want?
Yes No
3. Do either of you blackmail the other person, threatening the commitment of the relationship?
Yes No
4. Do either of you blame the other for your own emotions?
Yes No
5. Do either of you get irritated if the other spends time away from you?
Yes No
6. Do you buy stuff every time a relationship conflict arises?
Yes No
7. Do you sometimes feel uncomfortable or tense around the person, like you are walking on eggshells?
Yes No
8. Do you feel like you are losing yourself or your mind?
Yes No
9. Are you constantly trying to make the other person happy?
Yes No
10. Do you feel your partner brings out the worst in you?
Yes No
11. When you argue, do you feel like your partner is trying to win the argument or resolve the conflict?
Yes No
12. Do you feel bad about yourself or think that you are never good enough when you are around your partner?
Yes No
13. Does your partner call you names?
Yes No
14. Are you afraid to disagree with your partner?
Yes No
15. Do you feel that you are being lied to by your partner or that something isn’t right and you just can’t put your finger on it?
Yes No
16. Does your partner make excuses for his behavior?
Yes No
17. Does your relationship with your partner drain you?
Yes No
18. Is your partner too clingy?
Yes No
19. Does your partner make you feel bad about your body?
Yes No
20. Does your partner mock you?
Yes No
21. Do you catch your partner lying repeatedly?
Yes No
22. Is your partner very critical of you, and do you feel you can never do anything right?
Yes No
23. Do you feel lonely or empty when you are with your partner?
Yes No
24. Does your partner keep you at arm’s length emotionally?
Yes No
25. Does your partner refuse to talk about important relationship topics?
Yes No
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are in a toxic relationship and need assistance with communicating and also dealing with your emotional baggage. Take time to love yourself before looking for a fix, because you are valuable and have a lot to offer to this world.
May you blossom with self-awareness and nurture your relationship with yourself until it becomes a beautifully sculptured masterpiece!
True love is the one with yourself. By discovering this, you will know where genuine happiness lies.
Remember, it is by the heart that you can touch the sky!
After all of these toxic dating
experiences that I attracted
I realize I was the one in the equation
who was being subtracted
Taking time to get connected
It’s me I promise to never leave neglected
Now that I have healed from past pain
It’s health, happiness, and
wholeness that I’ve gained
And when you hear the Universe’s alarm
calling you to wake up
Know it’s time to find true love within,
since you’re no longer a young pup