GUYS FEEL THAT THEY ARE PRETTY SIMPLE, just looking for a roll in the hay. But are they really? Or has this just been the perception that women carry around about men today?
o For all the guys who are just looking for no-emotional-strings-attached intimacy, before they know it, age will have caught up with them and they will start to want more out of life.
My friend Ned was one of these guys. He had a reputation for being an unrepentant playboy, always chasing the girls and hopping in and out of the sack as he moved on to his next conquest. Now, at the age of fifty-six, he says, “Instead of talking about concerts, my conversations with dates are more geared toward retiring and moving to Florida.”
I find the more I talk with men, the more I realize they really don’t know what they want. They have carried their now “over-expanding trunk” from place to place so much they have forgotten what’s in it.
I recently met a guy who is a friend of one of my friends, and after watching him drink what I felt was clearly too much, I asked to swap phone numbers so I knew he made it home safely. There was no reasoning with him about the drinking and driving. I had just met him so I was the last person he would listen to. I tried anyway, but when I mentioned it he said he was fine and drove off.
Now, having been plowed into the ground by a hit-and-run drunk driver, I knew this guy was clearly not the right person for me. However, the next day he texted and asked me out. My first response—which I typed but didn’t send, since I like to pause for a moment before sending—was, “Well let’s check with my friend’s schedule and see when the next social gathering is.” After reading it over, I erased it and sent a more up-front reply: “Thanks for the offer, but I don’t think we are a good match.”
Not two days had passed when I found out that he had reconnected with someone from his past. I was so thankful for wholesome intuition. Trust your inner voice.
It’s hard to always get things right because people wear so many different masks, as if they are having a competition at a masquerade ball. But, if you’ll just take your time and meditate on what’s true and just, all the answers will start to surface before your eyes with no effort from you.
This is why, ladies, it’s important not to give him “the cookie” too soon!
When you sleep with someone, you build soul ties. Afterwards, if they sleep with someone else and then dump you, it’s likely you’ll start to come unglued like some crazy person who is getting strapped in a straitjacket. Or if instead you are the dumper instead f the dumpee, it could be the reverse. In any case, the moral of the story is this: don’t get attached too soon. When you do, the cookie crumbles!
Focus on your balance of life, and as you start to meet guys who have more and more of the qualities on your clearly defined list, then just lay your head on your pillow at night, look up with gratitude, and smile like the Cheshire Cat, possessing the knowledge that you are getting that much closer to Mr. Right.
I once met a guy on a dating site
He was handsome, intelligent—
could he be Mr. Right?
I asked what he wanted in a lifelong mate
He said, “Nice legs, a big chest, sexy,
and at least an eight.”
He complimented me on my photo
and asked for more
I said, “I’m not a sex object”
there will be no score