“Practicing These Principles in All of Our Affairs”

CONCLUSION: THE SEARCH FOR PEACE AND SERENITY

The Twelfth Step reminds us that “having had a spiritual awakening” we “practice these principles in all of our affairs.” In many cases, those in recovery from addictive disease and their families emerge from the ordeal with strengthened bonds, greater self-awareness, and an enhanced view of life. In some cases, however, even after they have received quality treatment and positive support, our loved ones relapse into their old patterns of use. While at those times it may seem that we have come full circle, we have changed. We have knowledge of the disease and tools to confront it. When crises arise, we will have the means and the strength to respond appropriately. We can apply our understanding of the nature and progression of the disease to identify the best course of action for our loved ones and ourselves as determined by our own needs, resources, and core beliefs. It may come to the point that we are left with no cards to play and have no choice but to step back. Thus, in some circumstances our most informed choice may be a deliberate decision to refrain from any action and wait for a change in circumstances. Whatever happens, we can act deliberately to protect our own boundaries, our safety, and the safety of others. We have detached ourselves from enmeshment with our loved ones and are responsible for our own lives and our own happiness. We can continue to work our recovery program while remaining hopeful that our loved ones will someday find their way to their own. In essence, coping with another’s addiction is about making reasoned decisions to do what we can, accepting what we are without power to change, and moving toward peace and serenity in our own lives.

Take what you will and leave the rest.

Families Anonymous