Dear Ms. Sincere Jones,
I hate my father. I know hate is such a strong word. After I was born, he abandoned my mom and me. We lived in poverty because of him. My mom had to work two jobs to pay the bills. I couldn’t believe that he didn’t want anything to do with me. I am his son. I am his flesh and blood. It makes me angry when I hear about how he is taking care of somebody else’s son. I heard he was providing the lifestyle that I so desperately wanted as a child. Every day, I work twice as hard to be the man that he couldn’t be in my life. I earned a full basketball scholarship at a great university. For four years, I was on the dean’s list. I have been selected to be in the NBA draft. Who is the better man now?
Sincerely,
The Black Sheep
Dear Black Sheep,
I am so sorry you had to endure pain and agony. You sound like a beautiful person that he is definitely missing out on. That is on him. It is not healthy to hold in all of your anger and your resentment toward your father. By holding on to your anger, you are allowing him to control you. Today, I am asking that you forgive yourself. Yes, I said, “Forgive yourself.” The forgiveness is not for him. You are forgiving yourself in order to live.
By holding on to this pain, you are dismissing your mother’s contributions on assisting you in becoming a fine young man. Yes, he messed up; he doesn’t have the right to rob you of your blessings. There is no competition. I would suggest that you seek professional services to help you heal. I do not want you to be another angry man walking on the street. Hold your head up, and be proud of what you have accomplished. God continues to smile down on you and your mother.
Congratulations on completing your college education and making the NBA draft. I am proud of you. Let your story be a light for others to follow.
Sincerely,
Ms. Sincere Jones
Bible Inspirational Verse(s): Depart from evil and do good; Seek peace and pursue it. Psalm 34:14