Dear Ms. Sincere Jones,
I met the man of my dreams. He loves my children to death. He treats me like a queen, but something is missing. He doesn’t have any children. He wants children with me. For any normal woman, this would be exciting news. I am no ordinary lady. I avoid the subject because I almost lost my life giving birth to my last child. I haven’t told him. I don’t know if he will understand.
Everybody keeps telling me that the next one will be different. It will be different for someone, but not me. They have no idea what it was like to almost bleed to death. They have no idea what it is like to know that the baby you have bonded with in the last nine months could be dead within minutes. Nobody knows my fear. I am not being selfish. I am trying to save a life. I know all the complications that I went through to have my child. Why should I play Russian roulette with our baby’s life? I shouldn’t. I won’t. That is too cruel. There is a possibility that he could lose our child and me. The deck is stacked against me. I am just scared to death about what the outcome will be. I am very opened to adopting. I can do that, but I know he wants our child to have our blood. I don’t know what to do.
Sincerely,
Crazy in Love
Dear Crazy in Love,
Congratulations! You have found the man of your dreams. That is great that he loves your children as much as he loves you. That is a blessing. If he loves your children, the chances of him wanting a child with you are very great. He has probably picked up on the vibes that you keep avoiding the topic of having children. You might want to tell him the reason. Tell him the truth. He needs to know the reason why you don’t want children. He deserves an explanation. Just tell him everything you told me. As a couple, you can make the decision together.
As for you, you shouldn’t have to carry this burden alone. You have been through a lot. Your fear is keeping you from happiness. There is professional help available in your area to assist you with your trauma. I suggest that you talk to your doctor to discuss your options. Your doctor will be able to provide a support system if you decide to have a child with your boyfriend. You don’t have to go through this alone.
Sincerely,
Ms. Sincere Jones
Bible Inspirational Verse: Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3