fly in silence: Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening (San Francisco: Conari Press, 2011), https://books.google.com/books?id=YvVJGfCD7UAC&pg=PA155&lpg=PA155#v=onepage&q&f=false.
passed on unopened: “Rainer Maria Rilke: Love and death are the great gifts that are given to us; mostly they are passed on unopened,” Quoteur.com, http://quoteur.com/love-and-death-are-the-great-gifts-that-are-given-to-us-mostly-they-are-passed-on-unopened/.
love, more possible: Rollo May, Love and Will (New York: Dell, 1969), 98.
diagnosed with HIV: HIV/AIDS Epidemiology Annual Report 2009 (San Francisco: San Francisco Department of Public Health, 2009).
die at home: John Cloud, “A Kinder, Gentler Death,” Time, September 18, 2000, http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,997968,00.html.
long-term-care facility: “Worktable 309: Deaths by Place of Death, Age, Race, and Sex: United States, 2005,” Centers for Disease Control, http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/Mortfinal2005_worktable_309.pdf.
absolutely everything, counts: Sogyal Rinpoche, The Tibetan Book of Days (Canada: HarperCollins, 1996).
true moment after moment: Jack Kornfield, A Path with Heart (New York: Bantam, 1993), 138.
all is metamorphosis: “Henry Miller on Art, War, and the Future of Humanity,” Maria Popova, Brain Pickings, November 7, 2012, https://www.brainpickings.org/2012/11/07/henry-miller-of-art-and-the-future/.
tonight in Samarra: W. Somerset Maugham, Sheppey (London: W. Heinemann, 1933), 112.
same river twice: Cratylus, Plato, Internet Classics Archive, http://classics.mit.edu/Plato/cratylus.html.
her with love and compassion: “Creation and Destruction of Sand Mandalas,” Dark Roasted Blend, February 2014, http://www.darkroastedblend.com/2014/02/creation-and-destruction-of-sand.html.
a liberating opportunity: “Living and Dying: A Buddhist Perspective,” Carol Hyman, Dharma Haven, July 31, 2016, http://www.dharma-haven.org/tibetan/mom.htm.
your own disappearance: “David Whyte—On Belonging,” Coach’s Corner, http://coachingcounsel.com/awareness/david-whyte-%E2%80%93-on-belonging/.
Lucky me, lucky mud: Kurt Vonnegut, Cat’s Cradle (New York: Dial Press, 1963).
entering the river: Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening (San Francisco: Conari Press, 2000), 175.
only the dance: T. S. Eliot, Four Quartets (New York: Houghton Mifflin, 1943), 3.
when we exhale: Shunryu Suzuki Roshi, Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind (Boston: Shambhala, 1987), 29.
being moment after moment: Shunryu Suzuki Roshi, San Francisco Zen Center transcriptions of dharma talks, March 23, 1967, http://suzukiroshi.sfzc.org/dharma-talks/tag/time/.
to be surprised: Russell Stannard, Why? (New York: Lion Hudson, 2003), 115.
all of the darkness: Deborah Solomon, “The Priest,” New York Times Magazine, March 4, 2010, http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/07/magazine/07fob-q4-t.html.
orientation of the spirit: “Hope: An Orientation of the Heart,” Volunteacher, January 26, 2010, https://thevolunteacher.wordpress.com/2010/01/26/hope/.
wisdom and objectivity: Angeles Arrien, The Four-Fold Way (San Francisco: Harper San Francisco, 1993).
a constant attitude: “Quote by Martin Luther King Jr.,” Goodreads, http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/57037-forgiveness-is-not-an-occasional-act-it-is-a-constant.
healing to begin: Rachel Naomi Remen, Kitchen Table Wisdom (New York: Riverhead, 1996).
ancient and eternal law: Dhammapada, verse 5.
see the moon: Lucien Styrk and Takashi Ikemoto, ed. and trans., Zen Poetry (New York: Grove Press, 1995).
I can change: Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person (New York: Houghton Mifflin, 1961), 17.
being petty, finicky: Chogyam Trungpa, The Collected Works of Chogyam Trungpa, vol. 5 (Boston: Shambhala, 2004), 20.
longer than I realized: Henri Nouwen, The Return of the Prodigal Son (New York: Doubleday, 1994), 14.
death as we get older: “Heroes or Role Models,” Dr. Laura Blog, August 11, 2011, http://www.drlaura.com/b/Heroes-or-Role-Models/10003.html.
it is precious: “Freud and Buddha,” Mark Epstein, Network of Spiritual Progressives, http://spiritualprogressives.org/newsite/?p=651.
power to heal: Carl Jung, The Collected Works of C.G. Jung, Volume 16: The Practice of Psychotherapy, trans. R. F. C. Hull (Princeton: Princeton University Press, 1966), 116.
homosexuality and child molestation: “Facts About Homosexuality and Child Molestation,” UC–Davis, http://facultysites.dss.ucdavis.edu/~gmherek/rainbow/html/facts_molestation.html.
ends with love: “Tsoknyi Rinpoche quote: Life begins with love, is maintained with love, and ends…,” AZQuotes, http://www.azquotes.com/quote/1141464.
thing its loveliness: Galway Kinnell, “Saint Francis and the Sow,” New Selected Poems (New York: Houghton Mifflin, 2000), 94.
love discover us: John O’Donohue, Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom (New York: HarperCollins, 1998), 11.
No part left out: Ono no Komachi and Izumi Shikibu, The Ink Dark Moon, trans. Jane Hirshfield (New York: Vintage, 1990).
peanuts for the monkeys: Dorothy Salisbury Davis, A Gentle Murderer (New York: Open Road, 1951).
work of the soul: Rachel Naomi Remen, “Helping, Fixing, or Serving?,” Shambhala Sun, September 1999.
love them enough: Glenn Clark, The Man Who Talks with Flowers (New York: Start Publishing, 2012).
their inner voice: “Peggy O’Mara Quotes (Author of Natural Family Living),” Goodreads, https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/30657.Peggy_O_Mara.
aggression toward yourself: Pema Chödrön, The Wisdom of No Escape (Boston: Shambhala, 1991), 17.
dealing with basic anxiety: Karen Horney, Our Inner Conflicts (New York: W. W. Norton, 1945).
who you really are: Matthew Burgess, Enormous Smallness: A Story of E. E. Cummings (New York: Enchanted Lion Books, 2015).
must endure burning: Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning (Boston: Beacon Press, 1959).
space to be itself: A. H. Almaas, The Unfolding Now (Boston: Shambhala, 2008), 36.
much like fear: C. S. Lewis, A Grief Observed (New York: HarperOne, 1961).
be happy, practice compassion: His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler, The Art of Happiness (New York: Riverhead, 1998).
makes sense anymore: Naomi Shihab Nye, “Kindness, in Words,” Words Under the Words: Selected Poems (Portland, OR: Far Corner Books, 1995).
of love and compassion: His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Ethics for the New Millennium (New York: Riverhead, 1991).
when they wish: Carl Rogers, A Way of Being (New York: Houghton Mifflin, 1980).
person we think we are: “Bernie Glassman Dharma Talk: Bearing Witness,” Bernie Glassman, Zen Peacemaker Order, 1996, http://zenpeacemakers.org/who-we-are/zen-peacemakers-sangha/dharma-talks/bernie-bearing-witness/.
only apparently different: Norman Fischer, Training in Compassion: Zen Teachings on the Practice of Lojong (Boulder, CO: Shambahala, 2013), 12.
else in the Universe: John Muir, My First Summer in the Sierra (Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1911), 110.
we love to be: David Whyte, Consolations (Langley, WA: Many Rivers Press, 2015).
ocean of samsara: “Natural Great Peace,” Sogyal Rinpoche, Rigpa.org, https://www.rigpa.org/index.php/en/teachings/extracts-of-articles-and-publications/242-natural-great-peace.html.
the moment following: Anthony J. Parel, Gandhi, Freedom, and Self-Rule (Lanham, MD: Lexington Books, 2000), 59.
access to their phones: Marissa Lang, “Smartphone Overuse Is Someone Else’s Problem, Study Finds,” SF Gate, June 22, 2016, http://www.sfgate.com/business/article/Smartphone-overuse-is-someone-else-s-problem-8316381.php.
land around us: Angeles Arrien, The Second Half of Life: Opening the Eight Gates of Wisdom (Boulder, CO: Sounds True, 2007), 140–1.
quietly in his room: Blaise Pascal, Human Happiness, trans. A. J. Krailsheimer (London: Penguin, 1966), 136.
end is my beginning: Eliot, Four Quartets.
brand-new human’s nostrils: Gen. 1:3 (International Standard Version).
make us homeless: John O’Donohue, Eternal Echoes (New York: Cliff Street Books, 1999), 3.
rested from all work: Gen. 2:3 (International Standard Version).
made peace with it: “Human Nature, Buddha Nature,” Tina Fossella, John Welwood’s website, http://www.johnwelwood.com/articles/TRIC_interview_uncut.pdf.
way to control him: Shunryu Suzuki Roshi, Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind (Boulder, CO: Weatherhill Publishing 1991), 31.
pain and loss: “Quotes from Dharma Talks,” Darlene Cohen, http://darlenecohen.net/quotes.html.
the same name: Jack Kornfield, After the Ecstasy, the Laundry (New York: Bantam Books, 2000).
heart crosses it: Jack Kornfield, The Wise Heart (New York: Bantam Dell, 2008), 147.
doesn’t make any sense: Czeslaw Milosz, ed., A Book of Luminous Things (Orlando: Harcourt, 1996), 276.
between the notes: Léon Vallas, Claude Debussy: His Life and Works (London: Oxford University Press, 1933), 551.
no longer afraid: Audre Lorde Quotes, quotehd.com
disarm all hostility: Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, The Works of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, vol. 7 (Boston: Houghton, Mifflin, 1885), 405.
they’re my own: “‘Hero’ Teacher Stopped Shooting with Hug,” ABC News, March 16, 2006, http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=1732518&page=1.
over for tea: “Ram Dass Quotes,” Ram Dass’s website, April 2, 2015, https://www.ramdass.org/ram-dass-quotes/.
environment as untrustworthy: D. W. Winnicott, The Child, the Family, and the Outside World (New York: Penguin, 1964).
the entire world: Danya Ruttenberg, Nurture the Wow (New York: Flatiron Books, 2016), 254.
it is not open: “Lord Thomas Dewar Quotes,” Quotes.net, http://www.quotes.net/authors/Lord Thomas Dewar.
there are few: Shunryu Suzuki Roshi, Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind (Boston: Shambhala, 1987), 12.
there are no phones: Billy Collins, “Forgetfulness,” Questions About Angels (Pittsburgh: University of Pittsburgh Press, 1999).
becomes totally false: Maria Paul, “Your Memory Is Like the Telephone Game,” Northwestern University, September 19, 2012, http://www.northwestern.edu/newscenter/stories/2012/09/your-memory-is-like-the-telephone-game.html.
Alzheimer’s into freedom: Kornfield, The Wise Heart, 181–2.
my life flows: Dasarath Davidson, Freedom Dreams (San Diego: Book Tree, 2003), 78.
to fabricate form: “Dancing with Form and Emptiness in Intimate Relationship,” Jennifer Welwood, jenniferwelwood.com/wp-content/jw-assets/DacingWithFormAndEmptiness1.pdf.
That is all: Larry Rosenberg, Breath by Breath (Boston: Shambhala, 1998), 18.
you do is sacred: Hafiz, The Gift, trans. Daniel Ladinsky (New York: Penguin Compass, 1999), 161.
we are in it, too: Thich Nhat Hanh, “The Fullness of Emptiness,” Lion’s Roar, August 6, 2012.
did not know it: Gen. 28:16 (International Standard Version).
dimensions in dying: George H. Gallup International Institute, “Spiritual Beliefs and the Dying Process: A Report on a National Survey,” conducted for the Nathan Cummings Foundation and the Fetzer Institute, 1997.
suffering without meaning: Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning, 135.
the great silence: Antonio Machado, Times Alone, trans. Robert Bly (Middletown, CT: Wesleyan University Press, 1983), 14.
back to sleep: John Moyne and Coleman Barks, Open Secret (Boston: Shambhala, 1999).
book Japanese Death Poems: Yoel Hoffman, comp., Japanese Death Poems (Tokyo: Tuttle, 1986).